It really is dull, and it's something people are obviously aware of. It's rare to meet someone who concedes their area has negatives, because they're too intent on showing its positives – because there aren't many. They are lifeless, they are soulless, they might have pretty names but they're not full of decent neighbours. They're hotbeds for snot nosed little pricks with shithead parents. They're near contrived parkland and ugly cream and brick, they open up to motorways and there's no sense of history or atmosphere.
I understand the cost of a nice suburb isn't financial. The bigger that mortgage, the less you can afford to give your kids nice things, spend money yourself, go on holidays, fix up your car... but rarely does someone living in a shithole cop that they do. Self-deprecation was a big part of the Australian identity and now it's been replaced by ego and thin skin.
The other thing is, people will live in a soulless satellite suburb but then spend a heap of money (or the banks) on TVs, cars, private schools, and other superfluous splurges that completely contradict the reason they live where they do (money). I remember kids living in bad areas, eating shocking food every night, but having boats and cars and going to Bali every four months. I'd much rather live in a nice area with some culture, that looks nice, that's close, and that has a sense of comfort to it; where you're not worried about bored 15-year olds smashing windows than have some wanky car and visible tokens of financial 'prowess' for display/ego purposes.
One of the best and most insightful posts I've seen on here in months.
I know how this sounds, but you can usually tell a place is going to meet the shithole steotype you describe when there is the standard line of generic fast food joints lining the highway as you enter the area.