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[Mod Edit] This post originally appeared in the random thoughts thread. It has been moved out into this thread of its own ...[/Mod Edit]

So I thought I'd post a short update after posting a couple of months ago about my friend who overcame a pr0n addiction (original post is here: http://www.bigfooty.com/forum/threa...lk-welcome-here.995222/page-234#post-32282371).

I've been seeing him a couple of times a week since I reconnected with him. We both play instruments (I play guitar, he plays drums), and we've been regularly jamming and coming up with different ideas for songs etc, which is just great fun. The relationship with the girl he has been seeing has been getting more serious, and they're a great couple together. My wife and I have hit it off with her as well, so in addition to regaining an old friend, we both have a new friend as well. He now has a job that he loves, and he's just generally a fun presence to be around. Quitting pr0n has completely changed his life.

I also posted how I wouldn't watch pr0n anymore after casual use, and obviously I haven't had any dramatic changes, since I was never addicted, but I generally just feel better and don't have to feel guilty anymore. My relationship with my wife has strengthened since this, even though it was already very strong to begin with. I've noticed that I can concentrate better, and I don't feel irritable, which are the two things that would happen after watching it. I think I've gotten into arguments on here over petty things after watching it, because it would put me in a bad mood, but that hasn't really happened much since. Not using it as a cop-out, but it is a contributing factor for it. I also don't get as annoyed when I see silly posts on here. I've gotten better at ignoring it, apart from the odd slip-up when I see something unbelievably stupid.:p I tend to see posts more as a debate, rather than an argument now. It sounds more significant than it is when I type it out, whereas the changes are fairly subtle, but they're there.

This is not a myth, and I'm not trying to "preach" to everybody. It has transformed my friend's life and I want to help anybody else that might have this problem. Anybody out there reading this that watches pr0n on a regular basis, please visit www.yourbrainonporn.com, and see if any of the symptoms match you. A lot of people probably think that something like this can't happen to them, but that's an easy trap to fall into. It can happen to anybody and you may not even be aware of it.

Cheerio!:D
 
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Pera said:
A ex pr0n addict that now plays an instrument.... interesting. :p

Good on the lad.:thumbsu:
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That what Happens at Band Camp;)

Glad he got back to Normality
 
TradeDraft said:
Well people who makes video do say it’s not for everyone.

Well worth a Try and if does not work then it’s sad.

Why what would ASMR would else Mean?
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Just sounded weird. Something you watch before bed that helps you relax?:p

I'll leave a link to this thread in case you still don't know what I mean:
http://www.bigfooty.com/forum/threads/pr0n-addiction.1063984/
 
DThomas said:
Just sounded weird. Something you watch before bed that helps you relax?:p

I'll leave a link to this thread in case you still don't know what I mean:
http://www.bigfooty.com/forum/threads/pr0n-addiction.1063984/
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No - It’s not what you think when I am in bed
 
Also, I thought I should post about the actual science behind this. I'm not a scientist or anything, just from my own research, so bear with me.

pr0n addicts suffer from a whole variety of symptoms, such as low/depressed mood, lack of concentration, lack of energy, anxiety, low self-esteem, social awkwardness, and a lot of them are shocked to find out that they also can't get an erection for a real partner.

The reasons for this are that by regularly watching pr0n and using it as their sexual release, they're wiring their brains to reward that behaviour and think that it's a normal relationship. So they're slowly wiring their brains to seek out pornography, rather than an actual partner. They're also hitting themselves with so much dopamine (which is connected to reward and pleasure centres in the brain) on such a regular basis that everything else in their life seems dull to them, and they can't feel enjoyment in real life.

Eventually, this can escalate to searching out more and more extreme pornography as normal pornography becomes boring to them (this doesn't always happen, but it does happen quite a bit). I've even read some reports where straight people have thought that they were turning gay (and also vice versa, with gay people thinking they were straight) because they were watching gay pr0n, which was just their brain searching out more and more novelty and shock value. This just goes to show that it's not a normal part of a person's sexuality.

Now's where it gets scary. The overwhelming majority of young males are watching pr0n on a daily basis and are heading down this path without even realising it. Kids these days now have access to high-speed internet and are watching it at a very, very young age (even around 10), completely oblivious to the damage that they're doing to themselves.

The good news is that our brains can change over time, so pr0n addiction can be beaten and the damage can be reversed. The solution is simple: don't watch pr0n. At all. This is harder than it sounds for a lot of people, but you will never beat it unless you stop watching it altogether. Most people probably don't want to do that, or rationalise that they aren't addicted (pr0n addicts aren't all freaks living in their mother's basements - they can be anybody), or are skeptical of these claims, so there's a challenge to take up. Don't watch pr0n for a month, and see how your mood improves as the damage is reversed. You don't even have to be "addicted" to see benefits, as I have seen happen to me. There's also another rule: don't masturbate if you're going to be fantasising about pr0n. It does the exact same damage as watching it does. Sex with a partner is fine, and pretty much encouraged, because you want to rewire your brain to an actual human partner.

If you recognise some of the symptoms that I've spoken about, or even if you don't (you don't have to be addicted to see benefits), then please take up this challenge and see what happens. You literally have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

You know how we have a Goalkicking competition? How about we start up a pr0n-Free Competition and we can post the changes over the course of a month? It would be a good experiment either way. Yeah, science, bitch!:p

My explanation isn't that great, so I highly recommend watching this video on the subject as well:
 
DThomas said:
I know, but other people might think that.

You still haven't responded to my post in my thread.:(
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Well I am not a Addict like your mate.

Say I won’t stamp it out 100%
 
I've been pr0n free for the last 3 days:thumbsu:

Seriously though, I agree with you. I've been through periods of watching a fair bit of pr0n, not daily but probably 4-5 times a week and also times when I go weeks without watching it.

I generally watch more pr0n when I'm stressed, only problem is it doesn't relieve stress at all! It's strange, but the biggest difference I notice is that I generally sleep much better when I'm not watching pr0n.
 

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TradeDraft said:
Well I am not a Addict like your mate.

Say I won’t stamp it out 100%
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I'm not judging you, Dave. This isn't something to be embarrassed or afraid of, but from what you've posted on here, it seems like you could be at risk of it. It's only natural to want to distance yourself from it, I get that, but you don't have to be like that. "Addict" is a word that has negative connotations, but I'm using it in a scientific sense, with no negative connotations attached to it. You don't have to be "addicted" to experience the benefits. You literally have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Once again, nothing to be embarrassed or afraid of. I'd just really love it if you could take up the challenge and see the difference that it makes.
 
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Heater39 said:
I've been pr0n free for the last 3 days:thumbsu:

Seriously though, I agree with you. I've been through periods of watching a fair bit of pr0n, not daily but probably 4-5 times a week and also times when I go weeks without watching it.

I generally watch more pr0n when I'm stressed, only problem is it doesn't relieve stress at all! It's strange, but the biggest difference I notice is that I generally sleep much better when I'm not watching pr0n.
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Yep, that's what a lot of people use it for (and I have in the past as well) - stress-release, but in the end, 10 seconds of fun isn't going to change much.

I've noticed that I've been having more vivid dreams since I stopped. I can actually remember a lot of them and they aren't a blur to me. If that's what happens after stopping casual use, then the benefits to someone using it daily must be pretty big.

Imagine all the free time a daily user would have if they stopped. Say they watched for half an hour a day, that's 3.5 hours you've just freed up in a week. That's 14 hours in a month, and an entire week over the course of a year! Imagine re-gaining an entire week's worth of time!:eek:
 
DThomas said:
I'm not judging you, Dave. This isn't something to be embarrassed or afraid of, but from what you've posted on here, it seems like you could be at risk of it. It's only natural to want to distance yourself from it, I get that, but you don't have to be like that. "Addict" is a word that has negative connotations, but I'm using it in a scientific sense, with no negative connotations attached to it. You don't have to be "addicted" to experience the benefits. You literally have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Once again, nothing to be embarrassed or afraid of. Sorry for hijacking your thread. I'd just really love it if you could take up the challenge and see the difference that it makes.
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That is Okay.

I never had a GF so I have to do something about it.;)
 
DThomas said:
Yes. Anything that includes someone masturbating to videos of sex acts is pornography, since you're using the same pathways in your brain that have been created by watching pr0n.
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What about your Imagantion?

Well there are lot of sex acts in Movies and TV Shows
 
DThomas said:
There you go! You now have motivation to give it up.:thumbsu: My friend hadn't had a girlfriend in over 10 years, and now he does. This will help that massively.
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Well I guess getting a GF would Really Help that Problem;)
 
TradeDraft said:
What about your Imagantion?

Well there are lot of sex acts in Movies and TV Shows
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By sex acts, I mean something gratuitous that displays penetration and leaves nothing to the imagination. Sex scenes in movies and TV shows aren't allowed to show that. It's not as bad as pr0n, but if you're masturbating to that, then you're still using those same pathways.

Imagination is only okay if it's about real sex, not pr0n sex, but if you haven't ever had sex, then you probably don't know the difference, so you can rule that out until it happens. It's really not that hard if you can get yourself in the right frame of mind. My friend relapsed several times and then just powered through the urges and was determined to end it, and he's gotten to where he is now. It's all in your mind. Simple as that.

I hope I'm not coming across as being pushy on here, because that's not my intention, and I'm aware that it could be interpreted that way. Just trying to help anybody out there.
 
^^^

I know you can get Addicted to pr0n but you are sounding like a Preachers a bit saying that you can’t do it at all.

I know you don’t mean to come across that way but that is how I am reading it
 
DThomas said:
pr0n will never compare to an actual loving relationship with another human being. You only live once, so why waste it watching some pixels on a screen when you could be with a real person?
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My Dad has a Simmlar saying.

“Why Look at it, when you can’t touch it”

I just have No Idea about this stuff
 
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