Friends with the Ex

[Scotland]

Haven't been in the situation myself but couldn't see a scenario where I would be really keen on them stayikg friends. As Miranda says in in Sex and the City, " they need to not exist"

 

[wal]

Friends with the ex???
I'm not even friends with the current.

 

[Cactus_]

When I was younger it probably would have bothered me.

Now I’d be, meh, no big deal.

 

[Shell]

My ex and i are definitely at that stage where we just dont make an effort to catch up anymore. A text message here/there, ie. happy birthday, or just a general hello. Thats about it- no dramas though, just a natural progression.

 

[peternorth]

On a packed flight to an international destination, i had the privilege of sitting next to my ex. the odds were 275/1.

yay

 

[iluvparis]

On a packed flight to an international destination, i had the privilege of sitting next to my ex. the odds were 275/1.

yay

Mile high club?

 

[peternorth]

Mile high club?

oh no!

 

[Shell]

oh no!

What was the flight like?

 

[peternorth]

What was the flight like?

slept most of it.
admittedly, wasnt too bad. both combatants had already moved on. no rekindling or anything. lucky it was an overnight flight

 

[rank and file]

slept most of it.
admittedly, wasnt too bad. both combatants had already moved on. no rekindling or anything. lucky it was an overnight fling.

 

[t_94]

Haven't been in the situation myself but couldn't see a scenario where I would be really keen on them stayikg friends. As Miranda says in in Sex and the City, " they need to not exist"

Sex and the City beta af bro

 

[HomerThompson]

the big test is when one sees the other with someone else.

generally on friendly terms with my exes with some standout exceptions. a lot of them just aren't in my life much so it's much easier to be friendly on a superficial level.

 

[PhatBoy]

i am currently separated from my wife and trying to be friends with her because the things i miss most are just basic things like watching footy together etc.

I am still good friends with my high school sweetheart, she has actually been very helpful talking to about my separation as she has been through something similar. Ironically she is now married (third husband) to another guy from my little childhood home town in country NSW. Another ex works for the local radio station and I am her one-stop-shop for all her sports gossip when she needs a story. Bizarrely, another ex that I went out with at uni went to primary and high school in Sydney with the girl who I had an affair with which led to my current circumstance. I still talk to most of them. I am not a bitter person outside of meaningless things like footy or cricket.

 

[radiojake]

Yeh some of the relationships I've had with people post break up some might find weird

Dated someone for a bit over 12 months and broke up about 15 months ago - covid stuffed both our living arrangements and so 3 months ago we moved on together - no funny business and it's working really well so there you go

Another ex of mine we dated for 6 years and after we broke up we spent about two years in a band together that didn't exist while we were together - that's all going back a fair way now - we are still friends in the sense of running into each other and things, especially at gigs, but we dont hang out anymore

 

[Over The Post]

The last weirdo I was in a relationship with was on good terms with her exes. She didn't think it was strange to meet one (with his family) for brunch at a Seddon cafe with me. Big sloppy kiss, animated chat throughout, ok ummm yeah ok I'll just sit here and pretend I don't exist. Nice meal though.

She hasn't contacted me once in the three and a half years since I moved out.

Still not sure what that says about me.

 

[edgie]

Missus's ex sent her a text the other day of an onlyfans account with the same name, followed with the comment 'Ive seen a better looking *missus's name*'.

Whilst ultimately harmless I think, it's a bit weird and also not something I think he would share with his wife.

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[Over The Post]

Your missus should share it with her instead. "Look what ex is sending me. Congratulations!"

 

[M Malice]

I split from my wife of 34 years just over 3 years ago, we still associate but only through our kids and grandchildren, it's ok but you can feel a little tension in the air.

 

[Over The Post]

Know exactly how you feel. Over 28 years for me.

 

[Shell]

I split from my wife of 34 years just over 3 years ago, we still associate but only through our kids and grandchildren, it's ok but you can feel a little tension in the air.

Wow. How hard was that to go thru- 34 years, thats sort of almost my whole life. Thats huge.

Or you can say "mind you own business"...

 

[M Malice]

Wow. How hard was that to go thru- 34 years, thats sort of almost my whole life. Thats huge.

Or you can say "mind you own business"...

Extremely hard, very emotional and draining, a lot of tears shed, I actually found it more difficult to go through than the death of my father a few years before the split.

It was on the rocks for a few years before the official split, no infidelity involved on either side though, we just slowly drifted apart and it was like we were sleep walking through each others lives, a deep deep rut and a dark place. It took me a while to work up the gumption to say I didn't want to live like this any longer and while she was shocked she eventually agreed, there has actually been very few harsh words and little overt bitterness, we were able to amicably liquidate and share our assets without the need for solicitors/mediation.

 

[Shell]

Extremely hard, very emotional and draining, a lot of tears shed, I actually found it more difficult to go through than the death of my father a few years before the split.

I can totally understand that. Death is natural- especially if they have lived a good, long life. I never got that sad when my grandparents died (they all lived to 85+). Unlike my uncles + aunty who got 48, 60 and 70. Altho 70s pretty good too i suppose.

A marriage breakdown... yeah i cant even begin to relate.

 

[perthblue]

Reading the thread on the Lifestyle forum 'long term relationships that go sour' made me realise that one of the biggest nightmares a person can live through is being with someone for such a huge chunk of time like 10+ years, and then having that relationship end. Terrifying actually.

 

[Lemma]

Reading the thread on the Lifestyle forum 'long term relationships that go sour' made me realise that one of the biggest nightmares a person can live through is being with someone for such a huge chunk of time like 10+ years, and then having that relationship end. Terrifying actually.

Mine was 5 years, but it took me probably 18 months to get over it fully. Not a bad breakup by any means, just were going different paths in life. And that's with no kids, no marriage and no important shared assets. Can't imagine how hard it would it be for people who have been married 10+ years. I feel for anyone going through it. It rocks you to the core.

 

[peternorth]

The last weirdo I was in a relationship with was on good terms with her exes. She didn't think it was strange to meet one (with his family) for brunch at a Seddon cafe with me. Big sloppy kiss, animated chat throughout, ok ummm yeah ok I'll just sit here and pretend I don't exist. Nice meal though.

She hasn't contacted me once in the three and a half years since I moved out.

Still not sure what that says about me.

she sucked tongue of the ex in front of you!?