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That's a magnificent post mate. Rarely would I even bother clicking 'like' on a post. Love the honesty, appreciate the insight.
Hope things improve for your daughter with your continued efforts.
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Don't have them and have never wanted them. I guess a bit of an odd duck
Almost the same situation for me, if you wait til you are ready you'll never have kids.I have been with my wife for 10+ years and ever since I have known her she has always wanted a biggish family, I was fairly undecided for a long time. my main hesitation was not knowing if I will ever feel 'ready' and of course the $$ side of it as well.
All through our 20's we ended up doing a bit of travelling, got a house and then my mindset changed a lot, I felt more comfortable with the idea.
We had some huge complications along the way but then we fell pregnant and now have a 4 month old boy who is simply amazing and I wouldnt change it for the world.
Not at all.Don't have them and have never wanted them. I guess a bit of an odd duck
I like your stance. I have two kids but never ever push it on people. It’s not like it’s some great achievement, anyone can do it. The achievements come as they grow and learn and develop, being part of that and being part of helping them succeed is more of an achievement in my opinion.no interest, never had any.
pisses me off when people tell me "oh, you'll change your mind" and act all condescending.
ive known i didnt want them for years, pretty sure im not going to change my mind now
Sounds like my ex. Hopefully it wasn’t a twin sister she had!I had an ex I broke up with nearly 3 years ago, who turned me off wanting kids. We fought all the time and she seemed to pick on every little thing I did (probably part of a greater issue but that’s another story), but was desperate not to lose me.
She had this warped idea in her mind that her family would like and respect her and see her as important/good as her sister if she had kids.
Basically I only want kids if it’s in the right circumstances, I can’t understand the idea of wanting kids and trying to shoehorn them into a relationship that isn’t on solid footing, as it’s big commitment bringing another person into the world, and you don’t want to do it with the 2 participants hating each other while they raise you.
Plenty. You don’t have to have kids to justify your existence. You probably would make people feel bad if you spoke like that in front of them.27 and single, but certainly want kids. I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad, but if you don't want a family then what exactly is the point of your daily efforts?
Point? Well, there isn't one. But kids wouldn't change that for me.27 and single, but certainly want kids. I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad, but if you don't want a family then what exactly is the point of your daily efforts?
Great point. There’s not much else out there is there?Point? Well, there isn't one. But kids wouldn't change that for me.
Life doesn't have a point. It just happens to be what's there; sometimes good, usually not. I just try and get through without causing too much damage to too many people.
Well it’s not that easy for people, in fact that is a pretty dumb thing to say. There’s a lot of people out there that have no choice because they have to work, and if they don’t work they might not get another job, even if they are breaking even or losing money.Don't put them in so much childcare
Well it’s not that easy for people, in fact that is a pretty dumb thing to say. There’s a lot of people out there that have no choice because they have to work,
My opinion? ...have someone stay home with them whilst one works. It’s very difficult to manage the whole thing without money. People say it isn’t everything, but it actually is. The people that say it isn’t everything have enough of it.
No, I am saying, in my opinion - as in the best case scenario or what I’d do.
IMO this comes back to widespread entitled belief these days that you should have everything straight away. The idea of starting in a shitty suburb and small house, whilst in a lower rung of the workforce and working your way up in both has given way to 'I want to start with a super well paying job, that stimulates my mind and shows everyone I'm socially good. Oh and it pays enough for me to beat everyone else at the auction for that inner city house/apartment'.Well it’s not that easy for people, in fact that is a pretty dumb thing to say. There’s a lot of people out there that have no choice because they have to work, and if they don’t work they might not get another job, even if they are breaking even or losing money.
Just gave birth to our second daughter on Tuesday morning.... it certainly cements you much more as a family man, but I can confirm it is a lot less scary the second time around. The good thing is how well Miss 3 has taken to her new sister, and is wanting to help all the time and sit there and watch over her.
Go back 10 years and say I'd be 32, two kids and living in another country, I'd laugh in your face. Now I couldn't imagine life any different
Just gave birth to our second daughter on Tuesday morning.... it certainly cements you much more as a family man, but I can confirm it is a lot less scary the second time around. The good thing is how well Miss 3 has taken to her new sister, and is wanting to help all the time and sit there and watch over her.
Go back 10 years and say I'd be 32, two kids and living in another country, I'd laugh in your face. Now I couldn't imagine life any different