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You have my sympathies OP.

My older brother is an a-hole as well.

I solve the problem by hopefully never speaking to him and having nothing to do with him ever again. But this is made easier due to the fact I dont live at home anymore and he is in WA (for the time being).

Hope things get better, sorry cant offer any advice.
 
That's fair enough (but uni student living can be fun;))

My advice is not to engage him in discussions about conspiracy theories because usually conspiracy theorists are nuts and cannot be reasoned with.

Avoid him and only speak to him when you have the energy to be really nice so he thinks you're his ally and doesn't start inventing conspiracy theories about you.
 

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Make him a tin foil hat for his birthday.

And just ignore him when he starts talking about stuff you don't like. Just make some excuse and walk away saying "yeah cool"
 
Start acting plenty mysterious. Wear dark suits and dark sunglasses. When he comes in the door, pretend you're on the phone and let him catch you speaking in code (just make up some gibberish) and then act surprised upon seeing him and "disconnect" your fake call suddenly.

Any time he brings up some of his paranoid nonsense, smile and nod your head knowingly and say something like, "You have no idea how close you are, but you don't have the big picture yet." If he asks you to elaborate, smile some more and say, "I can't, but let's just say you're not barking up the wrong tree here. Follow the money." Then walk away.

See? You can turn a negative into a positive. Instead of having an annoying brother, you now have a play thing whose mind you can bat around like a cat playing with a wounded mouse. Eventually you'll be in a situation to move out on your own and you can then dictate when and when not you'll be seeing the ****er.

Coolangatta, never forget that life is yours and the world is your plaything.

Peace,
 
Mooster7 said:
Start acting plenty mysterious. Wear dark suits and dark sunglasses. When he comes in the door, pretend you're on the phone and let him catch you speaking in code (just make up some gibberish) and then act surprised upon seeing him and "disconnect" your fake call suddenly.

Any time he brings up some of his paranoid nonsense, smile and nod your head knowingly and say something like, "You have no idea how close you are, but you don't have the big picture yet." If he asks you to elaborate, smile some more and say, "I can't, but let's just say you're not barking up the wrong tree here. Follow the money." Then walk away.

See? You can turn a negative into a positive. Instead of having an annoying brother, you now have a play thing whose mind you can bat around like a cat playing with a wounded mouse. Eventually you'll be in a situation to move out on your own and you can then dictate when and when not you'll be seeing the ****er.

Coolangatta, never forget that life is yours and the world is your plaything.

Peace,
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This genuinely made me laugh out loud :thumbsu::thumbsu:
 
My brother and I don't get a long too well.
He smokes too much dope, sit around on his backside all day playing computer games, treating people like shit, can't hold a job longer than 3 months, left school as soon as he could, can't spell to svae his life and has no hope for anything better than the above.

Everytime I talk to him it ends up in a fight, mum still babies him and will always take his side no matter what happens and its getting to the point where I have to cut him off and that might mean cutting my mother off as well.

By the way, I've called the police on to him twice, once for him throwing a knife at me and then stabbing and trying to bash down my door, that was over me downloading on my internet that was paid for 100% by me and him wanting to play a game, I told him to get ....ed and he went crazy.
The other was him taking my left over pizza, I asked him about it and he went nuts, my only issue was he put the box back with nothing in it. He hit me with a ice hockey stick from behind, when mum found out I was the one told to find a place.
 
I have a near impossible sibling, she is older and thinks she is wiser. The chief issue is that she has always believed that i should be following in her footsteps.... and just because i don't do certain things


  • Go out and party 24/7
  • Travel interstate / overseas every year
Amongst other silly issues - i am "abnormal" as a result. We've fought over many things over the years, my parents knowing how crap i have been treated by her i had the green light to tell her to knick off (replaced the first word with something starting with F and you'll get the picture).


Cutting a long story short, over time i have learned that SILENCE is golden. Rather than engage her in silly petty arguments which she typically does whenever she is the one who is down in the dumps - it's her way of making herself feel better, by making someone else miserable (which 90% of the time was me, as i was an easy target).

I get a better reaction by staying silent, than anything else... it makes her more pissed off than before :thumbsu: :D.
 
the_fresh said:
My brother and I don't get a long too well.
He smokes too much dope, sit around on his backside all day playing computer games, treating people like shit, can't hold a job longer than 3 months, left school as soon as he could, can't spell to svae his life and has no hope for anything better than the above.

Everytime I talk to him it ends up in a fight, mum still babies him and will always take his side no matter what happens and its getting to the point where I have to cut him off and that might mean cutting my mother off as well.

By the way, I've called the police on to him twice, once for him throwing a knife at me and then stabbing and trying to bash down my door, that was over me downloading on my internet that was paid for 100% by me and him wanting to play a game, I told him to get ....ed and he went crazy.
The other was him taking my left over pizza, I asked him about it and he went nuts, my only issue was he put the box back with nothing in it. He hit me with a ice hockey stick from behind, when mum found out I was the one told to find a place.
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Tehe :D
 

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Coolangatta said:
And no, moving out isn't an option
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How much older is your brother? And is he studying? If not studying then start saying stuff around your parents like 'As soon as I'm finished studying, I'll be moving out. I don't want to be an unnecessary burden on you". Try and paint him in a bad light as a leech without saying it right out loud and get them to solve your problem.
 
Avoid conflict like the plague, and get the hell out of there ASAP.

I had a rotten relationship with my younger brother growing up. Total opposites - I was the straightlaced guy into sport and school, he was the hipster slacker who smoked way too much pot. We came to blows regularly, to the point where we could barely be at home at the same time without causing damage to the place.

I moved away after school... barely spoke to him for half a decade, but now we're back in touch, friendly and getting to have a semi-normal sibling relationship. Neither of us have changed much aside from maturing, but the space did us a lot of good. Our relationship is pretty important to both of us (we don't really have any other family except for mum and dad) so that helps.

So yeah - don't give up. Just try and minimise conflict so you get out OK and also avoid the possibility of doing anything to screw stuff up permenantly. Then give it space and time - those things can do a lot to fix a relationship up.
 
Coolangatta said:
Thanks Shell.

And nah I'm 20, full time uni student - moving out isn't an option yet.
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I dont have a solution for your brother - although I liked the suggestion of messing with him - but you need to try and sort this out mate.

Uni is the best years of your life. I would of lost my mind had I been living at home during those years. Not to mention I wouldn't of had 90% of the experiences and wouldn't of met 90% of my closest friends..
 
my little brother was the worst,l would come from school and my tapes (yes tapes remember them) would be all pulled out everywhere.my posters with written devil horns on them and the walls all written on etc.l go and tell mum she say leave him alone he's a good little boy,and l would see him poking faces and sticking his fingers up.it would really make me wild l put a lock on my room door it would some how break it grrrr to get back at him l used to get him down and put a blade of grass up his nose.
 

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You have the perfect oppurtunity to use cool story bro in real life!!
 
The only interaction I have with my siblings is when I check the death notices in the Herald Sun every day. One can only hope.

There is no valid reason why you have to get on with your family. Arseholes are arseholes, even if they came out of the same womb as you, or caused you to be born.
 
skilts said:
The only interaction I have with my siblings is when I check the death notices in the Herald Sun every day. One can only hope.

There is no valid reason why you have to get on with your family. Arseholes are arseholes, even if they came out of the same womb as you, or caused you to be born.
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I get your point, but I'd rather have a good relationship with my family than not. When you've grown up living with them the intimacy of the relationship is ready-made, so if you get along well then your friendship is going to be pretty much as close as it can be with anyone else except probably your best friend or spouse.

My brother was exactly the same as a kid, but he's matured a lot now he's in his 20s and we have a pretty good friendship. I'm glad I didn't give up on it.
 

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