- Apr 24, 2013
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They had a baby five minutes after they first met. She (Rachel) works fast. He's (Brad) a tradie now working long hours so he can buy her the Australian dream. They move in with the folks to save money. They eventually get married so she can have her wedding - another tick off the list. Finally he has enough money together to put a deposit on. And away we go! I asked Brad when he first thought it was over between them. "As soon as the door closed behind when we moved in to our new home. She went a bit strange and distant.". Well, thats what he thinks. I heard rumours from the get go. No proof. But rumours.
Let me say, she is a piece of work. When it came out she rushed over to my house when I was out. When she told my disbelieving missus what Brad was like, and when that didn't work she said, "Oh, and Brad had been cheated on before, you know." I later told my missus, "Yeah, by her!"
So they are separated living under the same roof. After a few weeks, Rachel says she wants her fella to spend the weekend with her. At the home. The home he worked his butt off for five years to get a deposit for, on one wage. Rachel wouldn't work in an iron lung. Brad was delighted with the idea. "No way! I'll smash the prick if he turns up here!"
I put it to Brad this way: she is a schemer, and the odds are she would be delighted with that and she would have you on assault. Go see the local cops and find out what rights you have. The local cops have no clue, apparently. He tells me some say yeah, the boyfriend is the odd man out and if it was getting hot and they were called in he would be asked to leave. But another said it is half her house and Brad has no right to refuse entry. What?! Go see a solicitor, I say. The second cop is right.
So this is the long and short of it. She can bring her boyfriend into the marital home. They can sleep together in the marital home. Right in front of the guy who paid for the place. He drives around in the car Brad bought for her. The boyfriend can do all that - and he does all that with Rachel's encouragement. All right in the husband's face. And here is the kick: if Brad loses it (he hasn't - so far. And she has tried to get it on), he can be banned from his own home. After all, it will be two against one on the witness stand.
The current state of play is they share the house. The lovers got somewhere to stay and Brad has it 4 days a week. Then he goes to family, and they move in for several days. Three kids in the middle of it. Charming.
I have thought about this, and it is really a primal issue. At the gym, I have held the punching bag while Brad has pounded it, and I would not like to get hit by him. He is a big strong unit. He has played a good hand so far. He hasn't lost it, yet. But the boyfriend sounds like an entitled jerk who also has a strange legal protection called, "Its half her house. She has rights, you know!"
I get the feeling it is a powderkeg waiting to be lit. I think she doesn't mind the idea. I think it is dumb law. There should be a better protection for a bloke in this situation.
The man pays the price for being gullible, and most of it comes back to the state not wanting to carry the cost of maintaining the woman and child, so it sets itself up as a "champion of women's rights"......in order to get the male to foot all of the bills.
Of course, in rare instances, the tables are turned.