Health ADHD Discussions & Supporting Group Thread

[jb04]

Truth is stoned is my default condition. I was born like that. The meds help me to unstone.

Gosh I feel that.

More than once as a young adult I rationalised not giving it a go because I was going through life like I was high already.

Funny how stimulants help me actually relax??

 

[GremioPower]

she also has rejection sensitivity dysphoria so would likely take any negativity on board too much.

Do not approach negatively. Make comments like “my back is not ok today” or “my back is kind of better this morning”.

 

[GremioPower]

There's a lot of shame attached and it's hard to talk about unemotionallly.

The meds actually increased my shame and highlighted all the bad habits I had developed due the ADHD. It’s great for many things, but it has these unannounced side effects.

 

[GremioPower]

I should begin gamifying my day…

 

[DemurePrincess]

I did it once. It was the worst experience ever. It felt like doubling the ADHD. Why would anyone want that?!

Truth is stoned is my default condition. I was born like that. The meds help me to unstone.

It’s definitely got its pros and cons!

 

[GremioPower]

Gosh I feel that.

More than once as a young adult I rationalised not giving it a go because I was going through life like I was high already.

Funny how stimulants help me actually relax??

There’s this anecdote going on, probably true, of a guy that found out his ADHD in a party. Everybody pitched in to buy Aderall. His friends got wild, whilst he never felt more centered in his life.

 

[DemurePrincess]

I should begin gamifying my day…

Don’t let it get out of control. lol

Sometimes I panic bc I can’t keep up with the game

 

[jb04]

The meds actually increased my shame and highlighted all the bad habits I had developed due the ADHD. It’s great for many things, but it has these unannounced side effects.

There's the mourning as well of the person you could have been if you had help sooner.

In hindsight, alarm bells were going the moment I started high school.

 

[DemurePrincess]

The meds actually increased my shame and highlighted all the bad habits I had developed due the ADHD. It’s great for many things, but it has these unannounced side effects.

I’ve chosen not to be medicated bc it affects my migraine meds and those things I can’t live with… the ADHD I can.

50 years of being scattered… you learn to cope very well and manage!

There's the mourning as well of the person you could have been if you had help sooner.

In hindsight, alarm bells were going the moment I started high school.

This is the saddest thing I’ve read today!

That’s one thing I have never done until just now… and now I feel sad bc could my life actually have been better?

I don’t know! I don’t want to know tbh bc it’s been hard enough without thinking about the things I’ve missed out on, if any!

 

[GremioPower]

There's the mourning as well of the person you could have been if you had help sooner.

In hindsight, alarm bells were going the moment I started high school.

Yep. In my case, it also doesn’t help that the life decisions I’ve made later weren’t good. My self-confidence was never great (unless someone doubted me), but it has never been this low.

The meds give me a boost to at least move my body during the day. The fact is that I don’t trust myself to do anything at the moment. It’s not an ADHD problem anymore. That’s just a plus.

 

[jb04]

This is the saddest thing I’ve read today!

That’s one thing I have never done until just now… and now I feel sad bc could my life actually have been better?

I don’t know! I don’t want to know tbh bc it’s been hard enough without thinking about the things I’ve missed out on, if any!

Wasn’t my intent to drum up some unpleasant thoughts! I’ve somehow bumbled my way through life hitting goals and milestones. If anything that delayed me seeing out a diagnosis as I was ostensibly okay.

 

[GremioPower]

This is the saddest thing I’ve read today!

Hell is the “would/could have been” world. We gain absolutely nothing dwelling on there. We must get out as soon as possible.

 

[GremioPower]

Don’t let it get out of control. lol

Sometimes I panic bc I can’t keep up with the game

I can relate…

 

[GremioPower]

On Facebook, once popped up a question: “if there was a medicine to get rid of ADHD, would you take it?”

I would not. I may be down, but I know myself. I don’t want to be a different new person. I just want to be a better me.

 

[DemurePrincess]

I wouldn’t mind being normal. Or at least what my mind thinks as normal.

And maybe smarter but I don’t think there is any medication for that lol

 

[MP_]

There's the mourning as well of the person you could have been if you had help sooner.

In hindsight, alarm bells were going the moment I started high school.

Yeah my wife wishes she knew earlier, we both feel bad that we left our daughter until she was 17 to be diagnosed but thankfully she was diagnosed early enough in year 12 that she was able to get her studies on track now three years later she almost finished her psychology degree and now wants to help diagnose and aid younger children.

 

[MP_]

I wouldn’t mind being normal. Or at least what my mind thinks as normal.

And maybe smarter but I don’t think there is any medication for that lol

There’s all different types of smartness though dp, we all have different skill sets that set us apart from others. I’m not mathematically gifted, but I know shitloads about native plants. I’m slightly artistic and have great patience. I’m sure you have many things that you’re not giving yourself credit for, like being an amazing mum and cat lady

 

[DemurePrincess]

There’s all different types of smartness though dp, we all have different skill sets that set us apart from others. I’m not mathematically gifted, but I know shitloads about native plants. I’m slightly artistic and have great patience. I’m sure you have many things that you’re not giving yourself credit for, like being an amazing mum and cat lady

I’m really good and beating myself up. If there was money it… I’d be a squillionaire

 

[MP_]

I’m really good and beating myself up. If there was money it… I’d be a squillionaire

Yes I’m pretty bad at that too

 

[Tadpole]

I wouldn’t mind being normal. Or at least what my mind thinks as normal.

And maybe smarter but I don’t think there is any medication for that lol

Neurotypical. To me, "normal" is a setting on the washing machine.

 

[Tadpole]

Don’t let it get out of control. lol

Sometimes I panic bc I can’t keep up with the game

It can be a struggle. My mind moves faster than my aging body is capable of keeping up with.

Living with ADHD can be like trying to play Mario Kart, and wondering why your game is generating 100 times as many banana peels as everyone elses, despite no discernable difference in the way you play.

 

[Tadpole]

There’s all different types of smartness though dp, we all have different skill sets that set us apart from others. I’m not mathematically gifted, but I know shitloads about native plants. I’m slightly artistic and have great patience. I’m sure you have many things that you’re not giving yourself credit for, like being an amazing mum and cat lady

Not to mention a superlative Qooty banterer.

 

[DemurePrincess]

Not to mention a superlative Qooty banterer.

Doesn’t pay the bills though lol

 

[GremioPower]

Doesn’t pay the bills though lol