Family & Relationships Advice needed: How to get rid of an ex who won't go away

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Ok I'll try and keep this brief.

So a few weeks ago I became single (person dumped me) the next day I moved my FB status to single and removed that person from my life. Some days later I get a phone call and it's her bawling on the phone, "why didn't you tell me we'd broken up?" Um WHAT? So I explained the situation, went through all the issues over the phone and said I also wasn't happy and the right decision to end things was made.

Since then I've had her messaging me from a few different numbers, calls, even email - none of which has been replied to, until last weekend when I asked her to leave me alone and I wished her well.

From that day I've been bombarded with incessant calls and messages like you wouldn't believe and I don't know how to get rid of that deluded farkwit - short of asking the police (which is an absolute last resort).

Bigfooty - your advice is now sought!
 

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I had an ex try and call me 211 times in the space of five hours once.

I can still, to this day, see the x (211) under my missed calls list. It's seared into my brain.

It takes a lot of willpower when you're being harassed, but I just kept ignoring every single phone call and message until they eventually stopped. In many cases, that's easier said than done.
 

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Ok I'll try and keep this brief.

So a few weeks ago I became single (person dumped me) the next day I moved my FB status to single and removed that person from my life. Some days later I get a phone call and it's her bawling on the phone, "why didn't you tell me we'd broken up?" Um WHAT? So I explained the situation, went through all the issues over the phone and said I also wasn't happy and the right decision to end things was made.

Since then I've had her messaging me from a few different numbers, calls, even email - none of which has been replied to, until last weekend when I asked her to leave me alone and I wished her well.

From that day I've been bombarded with incessant calls and messages like you wouldn't believe and I don't know how to get rid of that deluded farkwit - short of asking the police (which is an absolute last resort).

Bigfooty - your advice is now sought!
Do you have an iphone? You can block her number and every number that she's called you from.
Edit: you can also do this from a samsung.

Alternatively, answer one of her calls and tell her that you appreciate that she's upset but you're not going to change your mind. If you're feeling particularly annoyed you could tell her that she's embarrassing herself by continuing to call you after you've asked her not to. Most people get the message after that.
 

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I know you're joking, but no. Let's not.
I'll be a good boy, I won't post it. :)

Do you have an iphone? You can block her number and every number that she's called you from.
I've got an android device. I tried to find the "disallow" option as google keeps telling me, but no joy.

On another note, I came across a website that lets people know via sms they have an STD - letthemknow.org.au
Could be an interesting hobby that one!
 

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I'll be a good boy, I won't post it. :)



It's an android device. I tried to find the "disallow" option as google keeps telling me, but no joy.

On another note, I came across a website that lets people know via sms they have an STD - letthemknow.org.au
Could be an interesting hobby that one!
If it's a samsung you can still do it. I edited my post after you quoted me and added this:
Alternatively, answer one of her calls and tell her that you appreciate that she's upset but you're not going to change your mind. If you're feeling particularly annoyed you could tell her that she's embarrassing herself by continuing to call you after you've asked her not to. Most people get the message after that.

Take her to the cops. If it was the other way around with man harrassing woman Im sure theyd take it seriously. Would be interesting to see what they do in this case.
Um. They don't take it that seriously at all.
 

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Take her to the cops. If it was the other way around with man harrassing woman Im sure theyd take it seriously. Would be interesting to see what they do in this case.
I have been thinking intervention order, but I have a feeling that's more for threatening behaviour and worse.
Also, I'm not sure if the police would care too much, given they have matters far more serious.
 

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Any mutual friends? Have a word with one and see if they can assist in curbing the behaviour. If a third party tells her she is being unreasonable, she might just listen.
 

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Any mutual friends? Have a word with one and see if they can assist in curbing the behaviour. If a third party tells her she is being unreasonable, she might just listen.
Many mutual friends.

Matters were made worse by her contacting my workplace and my boss (who knows about the nutbag behaviour of the last few months) was seriously concerned. I think something along these lines was said, "it would be best if you seek out help rather than bother this clinical practice".

Needless to say, she isn't winning anyone over with this behaviour.
 

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Let's start from the beginning.

1: You said she broke up with you. How was this done, phone call, text, in person, banner behind a plane etc?

Over the phone by her prior to a weekend and me going away.

2: Did she show any signs of being cray cray before she broke up with you?

Yes which is why I was happy she did it as I was ignoring some of it and hoping it would improve. I was only days from delivering her the good news.

3: pics or GTFO

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I have been thinking intervention order, but I have a feeling that's more for threatening behaviour and worse.
Also, I'm not sure if the police would care too much, given they have matters far more serious.
If it's only been a few days, I wouldn't be going that step. If it carries on and on after you've made it clear that it's all over, it might be something to investigate.
 
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1: You said she broke up with you. How was this done, phone call, text, in person, banner behind a plane etc?

Over the phone by her prior to a weekend and me going away.
You should have known that you haven't "officially" broken up until one of you updates your FB relationship status to single. But good on you for taking that opportunity. Blokes are crap at ending relationships. Most blokes would rather have sex with the girl's fat sister and hope she finds out rather than just tell them it's over.
 
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