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agreed. but worth finding out the other side first before judging.Fair point.
If not because of that is very campaigner thing to do.
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agreed. but worth finding out the other side first before judging.Fair point.
If not because of that is very campaigner thing to do.
agreed. but worth finding out the other side first before judging.
Agree.
not this timeMan gg u trying to break the world record for fastest reply on bf..
/k obviously not.
Friendship is a two way street, if someone keeps cancelling you’ll eventually give up.
Sort of related there was a guy who I used to work with, hadn’t seen him for 3 years and when my 21st came up I didn’t invite him, got an angry message from him after that, haven’t spoken since. Ah fu** him he kind of annoyed me anyway.
Oh i got a "face to face" break up from a friend last year- a mate here at school.
Heard he had resigned- sent him a nice message about how i was really sad to hear he was going. I get back "thank you".
Yeah fk off.
another thing i forgot to include....
a reason people rain check too is because they just dont find the person interesting or fun when they used to hang out with you, or you perhaps were always subtly putting them down, or other friends of yours would tag along and put him down, or you liked doing things he didnt like doing but you were often the leader of the two making all the plans/locations, or when you picked up women you were always getting the girl not him, or he felt inadequate in the looks department compared to you....etc.
there are reasons why someone would raincheck. and maybe the OP can elaborate on all this in better detail, more honesty...perhaps theres a side of the story not being shown here, not a clesr cut case of the other guy being the jerk here.
Yeh I've been there before when I was younger.
I withdrew slighty for a period due to social anxieties and depression and my friends kept taking it personally, even after trying to explain, and which ends up feeding a bit of a viscous cycle of negative thought.
It can be hard for people to empathize if they have never been in that Headspace.
I still don't understand the fuss. Why is it important to keep EVERYBODY in your social circle? Who really cares?
'How dare this former work mate acquaintance not catch up with me regularly!'
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That isn't really the case here. We were good friends for years and then drifted apart, and then when we caught up intermittently it was good fun.
However the gap between catch ups gets longer and longer, and organising something gets harder and harder and I know you're only getting my side, but it is basically his fault that it became so difficult. Hence me deciding to just let it go.
Are you sure it isn't anxiety on his behalf? Are you sure his excuses aren't legit?
Are you sure it isn't anxiety on his behalf? Are you sure his excuses aren't legit?
Even if it is social anxiety or depression or something like that, doesn't mean it cant have a negative impact on the person who want to catch up and they keep cancelling. How many times do you try before you give up?
Yes and yes.
He thanked you for the message and you want him to fu** off?
Yes and yes.
'I don't care if you are battling mental illness, socialise with me god dammit!'
So will I!Come to Melb i will meet up with you pb
I dunno, I have been that guy. Even minor excuses to the other side are a big deal to me. Not many of my mates like footy so I would stay in to watch football. Sounds like a s**t excuse to them but it's a real thing to me. Sometimes I get tired. Sometimes I stay in because I have a T-Bone needing to be cooked before it goes out of date and I don't wanna chuck it in the bin and lose money I can't afford to be throwing away. Sometimes my partner is exhausted from being the full time parent and needs a friday or satdy night off.
So will I!
Then cancel at the last minute