Being Labeled Racist

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I don't think any sane person would believe that what the OP said is racist at all. Having a preference for some people over another is hardly the same as racism.

I'm Asian. I don't particularly find Asian girls attractive. I prefer blondes :)

One of these days I'm going to go on a tour of Scandinavia, if only for all the eye candy!
 

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It seems to be happening more and more these days where it seems you can't even have an opinion that isn't derogatory without being labeled racist. Point in case:
Our office is near the entrance and perving is a popular pastime. The boys went nuts the other day and I was alerted, had a look and made the comment "meh, I don't really find Asians attractive", and was accused of being racist.
I guess because "I prefer Italian Pork sausage over Chinese pork sausage" I am also racist, either that or both are merely a thing of taste.
I guess you like your sausage little bigger than 3 inches then:p.Not theres anything wrong with that;).
 
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Some people who decry "ya racist!" are actually pretty racist themselves. It's a pretty annoying trait, and they're so dumb, you can't argue it to them.
 

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That's caause Asian (and Eastern European, and South American) women are the biggest slap in the face to western women possible. They're hotter, skinnier, less horrible to be around, less entitled, better girlfriends, better mothers, better wives and just generally more appreciative of a man.

It upsets the apple cart in the mind of a western chick, she doesn't want to lose the awesome ride she has now (i.e. act like an entitled superior bitch, expect men to both fawn over them AND pay for them, be unreasonably shit at their job compared to their male equivalents, yet still wants to be protected as a woman).

But like anything that comes out of a woman's mouth, don't listen to it mate.
I've met men like you before. Fair enough if you like a certain type of woman, no issue with that, but your justification and this overgeneralised hate of western women with a sexist undertone is usually a red flag for me. Some of the smarter men I have known have had this view, and it saddens me, such a waste of intelligence.
 

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I've met men like you before. Fair enough if you like a certain type of woman, no issue with that, but your justification and this overgeneralised hate of western women with a sexist undertone is usually a red flag for me. Some of the smarter men I have known have had this view, and it saddens me, such a waste of intelligence.
Thanks for the input Catherine Deveny
 

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'Asians make better wives/mothers' is generally code for 'I like deferential women who accept traditional gender roles without questioning or complaining'.
In my brief foray on dating sites, I found that eliminating drinkers, smokers, bogans and morons tended to leave a very high proportion of Asian women. They also tended to have the greatest depth in their profiles. Your point is certainly not without merit, but I was left with the impression that there's often more to it than that.
 

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Is that representative of the female population, or representative of the people who use dating sites? e.g. perhaps it has something to do with a lot of Asian women being quite introverted, therefore a higher proportion opting for internet dating.

I guess ultimately it depends on what you are looking for in a partner.
 

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One of the hottest people I've ever known was half-Asian, half-white...but apparently that's even more racist than having a preference for whites/latinos?

Maybe the rules should just be: Like who you like and keep your mouth shut about it - too many people could be offended. Imagine how people with monobrows must feel when I say that's unattractive!
 

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You could be called racist going to get a Pizza....

Opting for an 'Aussie' over any of American, Mexican or Hawaiian.... haha
 

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'Asians make better wives/mothers' is generally code for 'I like deferential women who accept traditional gender roles without questioning or complaining'.
Like those Filipino brides/wives you often see hanging off the arm of some old prick like me.
 

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Many years ago when I was serving on exchange duty with the US Military a US Marine of Mexican extraction said to me " The biggest mistake the good lord made was that he didn't put a Mexican pussy on a white woman". Never forgot that and never had a chance to see if it was true. Bugger:)
 
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In my brief foray on dating sites, I found that eliminating drinkers, smokers, bogans and morons tended to leave a very high proportion of Asian women. They also tended to have the greatest depth in their profiles. Your point is certainly not without merit, but I was left with the impression that there's often more to it than that.
Just because they don't adhere to that behaviour, they can still be terrible parents or totally incompatible.
 

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Just because they don't adhere to that behaviour, they can still be terrible parents or totally incompatible.
Of course. That's the thing about meat market dating, though; you have to play the percentages, which involves a certain level of categorisation and assumption. That was only a superficial analysis, but one which produced rather striking results.
 

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There is a difference between racism and xenophobia. In Australia, I think there is much more xenophobia than there is racism.

Among the educated inner-city types it is common to think Australia a racist nation. I bought into a similar conception of our country until I actually visited others.

Let's just say any 'racism' in Australia is mild at worst compared to some other places.
I'm the opposite I used to hate when people claimed Australia's racist for saying a racist joke or blackface etc, when infact they were just ignorant. What changed my mind is when the apology to the stolen generation was given and a good proportion of people complained claiming they weren't personally responsible etc. Which is a valid argument, one that I don't agree with. Then came the apology for the treatment of orphans brought out from Britain or for forced adoption and no-one said boo. I then thought perhaps we are racist afterall
 

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I'm the opposite I used to hate when people claimed Australia's racist for saying a racist joke or blackface etc, when infact they were just ignorant. What changed my mind is when the apology to the stolen generation was given and a good proportion of people complained claiming they weren't personally responsible etc. Which is a valid argument, one that I don't agree with. Then came the apology for the treatment of orphans brought out from Britain or for forced adoption and no-one said boo. I then thought perhaps we are racist afterall
Well, you know what Churchill once said: the best argument against democracy is a five-minute conversation with the average voter.

:thumbsu:
 

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Well, you know what Churchill once said: the best argument against democracy is a five-minute conversation with the average voter.

:thumbsu:
He also said that Democracy is the worst form of government, except all the others that have been tried from time to time.

We're lucky to live in an open and accountable Democracy, as long as we keep it open and accountable and allow everyone to have minority views without harm - as long as they allow the same of others.
 

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Churchill said a lot of things.
He did. As Aussies, a careful reading of some of the things he said should make us cautious of him. Like "No, land here on this impossible beach" or "Of course the Australians fighting in the middle east can't go home to Australia to defend their families, we need them to protect British lands!"*

Still, on balance, he was right: Democracy might be crummy, but everything else is worse.

*Paraphrasing, but the history is a quick search away
 

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'Asians make better wives/mothers' is generally code for 'I like deferential women who accept traditional gender roles without questioning or complaining'.
Not necessarily. Often the merit of a person in a relationship is in the way they question or discuss things. My wife is Asian and she certainly challenges things, but we discuss things with respect and temperance; a trait that, from my observations, seems to be at higher levels of frequency in Asian women.

Just to drill down on your point a bit more, what makes you think that statement "a" means statement "b" there?
 

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Observation, cultural norms. Like I said, generally speaking.

Besides, being deferential and accepting traditional gender roles does not necessarily mean that a woman is completely cowed and unwilling to challenge her husband.
 
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