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Just wanted to get some feedback on a situation. My girlfriend has a friend who's been going out with her boyfriend for a little bit longer than I have with my girlfriend (about 14 and 18 months), she works a regular 9-5 type job and her boyfriend works on a boat so he has long periods away from her. Anyway because they are good friends my girlfriend likes us to go out and do things with them together, which I don't (didn't) mind because he was a fairly nice guy even though we aren't best mates or anything. So about a year ago my girlfriend confided in me that her friend had told her that she had feelings for a guy at her work, later that weekend we ended up at my gf's friends work for a few drinks and she was trying to convince us to hang around until this guy finished work so we could hang out together. I wanted to go as did my girlfriend however she wanted to make sure her friend left with us, which eventually she did however she wanted to be dropped off at a club the other side of town, so we dropped her there and went home. A couple of days later my girlfriend told me that her friend had ended up hooking up with this guy later that night, they'd gone back to his house and slept together.
This really pi$$ed me off, her friend had planned to do it and did it, she must have been thinking about her poor bf (who absolutely adores her, does everything for her, so it's not like he's a bad boyfriend) but decided to go and do it anyway. It really put a bit of a trust rift between my gf and I as I started to think along the lines of well if this poor guy could be fooled then maybe I could be too. I thought about telling him but i didn't as I had promised my gf that i wouldn't when she told me. Then as time went by I started trusting my gf more as I realised I was being silly and that they were two completely different people. Then a couple of months ago my gf started acting a bit strangely, it seemed as though she had something on her mind, I asked her but she didn't mention anything, this went on for a little while and i noticed that her friend was wanting to see and talk to her alot more than usual so i brought that up and asked her if her friend had done it again. She eventually told me that she had but she didn't want to tell me because of the way I had reacted the last time, apparently this was the 3rd guy she'd cheated on her bf with, all of them from her work and she was getting a bit of a name for herself hence the wanting to hang out with us all the time rather than her work friends.
Now i really don't want to hang out with this couple as i despise her friend for what she is doing (and the fact that i think that she is using my gf a bit) and i feel sorry for him because he loves her so much. But I can't tell him because if I do I would be breaking my gf's trust and I can't really tell my gf to stop being her friend as they've been friends since they were kids and she has apparently been a good friend and stuck up for her in the past. But i hate having to hang out with them and pretend i'm enjoying myself all of the time, any ideas?
This really pi$$ed me off, her friend had planned to do it and did it, she must have been thinking about her poor bf (who absolutely adores her, does everything for her, so it's not like he's a bad boyfriend) but decided to go and do it anyway. It really put a bit of a trust rift between my gf and I as I started to think along the lines of well if this poor guy could be fooled then maybe I could be too. I thought about telling him but i didn't as I had promised my gf that i wouldn't when she told me. Then as time went by I started trusting my gf more as I realised I was being silly and that they were two completely different people. Then a couple of months ago my gf started acting a bit strangely, it seemed as though she had something on her mind, I asked her but she didn't mention anything, this went on for a little while and i noticed that her friend was wanting to see and talk to her alot more than usual so i brought that up and asked her if her friend had done it again. She eventually told me that she had but she didn't want to tell me because of the way I had reacted the last time, apparently this was the 3rd guy she'd cheated on her bf with, all of them from her work and she was getting a bit of a name for herself hence the wanting to hang out with us all the time rather than her work friends.
Now i really don't want to hang out with this couple as i despise her friend for what she is doing (and the fact that i think that she is using my gf a bit) and i feel sorry for him because he loves her so much. But I can't tell him because if I do I would be breaking my gf's trust and I can't really tell my gf to stop being her friend as they've been friends since they were kids and she has apparently been a good friend and stuck up for her in the past. But i hate having to hang out with them and pretend i'm enjoying myself all of the time, any ideas?
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