It's been a while since I've done it, but you simply make note of the way you respond emotionally to the music and lyrics of ABBA Gold when you have another person in mind.
For instance, a couple of years ago I could never get past the opening four bars, and the cascading notes on that electric piano of
SOS without completely breaking down and having a blanket thrown over me. So on a rating from 1 to 10 - that's an 11.
If you're the type of girl who works all night, works all day, just to pay the bills you have to pay, feeling sad, then does this man have enough money, money, money to make you funny and let you do the things you want to do? If he rates a 1, then you may need to go to Vegas or Monaco!
Maybe you've now seen him twice, in a short time - are you getting more open hearted? Do you see in his face a lot he can teach you? Does he know the name of the game? Does it mean anything to him? If he strikes a 10 here, he's very much worth it.
Do you want to be the first in line if he happens to change his mind? Would he go dancing, and walking, just to be together? Listen to music, and talk, to get to know you better? Would he take a chance, honey? Again, a high rating here is very good.
Is he a super-trouper? Maybe the situation is all Mama Mia!
Fatally, can you see it end, he the winner, taking it all?
Life is very difficult - and as a dear friend once told me, that's why Abba is here to help.