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[mxett]

It is indeed a very powerful practice and I would even suggest it be put into school curricula. It is a very revolutionary approach to living well, whatever that may be for each individual.

You can see why businesses and sporting bodies are using it now. Even when playing competition golf I find it useful. After a poor hole or a bad shot I can see myself becoming annoyed almost before it happens, which allows me to simply let it go to focus on the next shot.

 

[Glacier]

You can see why businesses and sporting bodies are using it now. Even when playing competition golf I find it useful. After a poor hole or a bad shot I can see myself becoming annoyed almost before it happens, which allows me to simply let it go to focus on the next shot.

I recently had a voluntary stint at the Albert Rd clinic in Melbourne , taking the opportunity to learn different strategies and coping mechanisms for my PTSD
I practised mindfulness before this however it wasn't until I actually learned to do it correctly that u got it
Different people have different experiences with it, for me I go into a state where I can literally feel every muscle even every nerve in my body
To me, when I do it correctly, I lose all feeling of being connected to anything but me, I don't feel the chair I'm sitting on, my feet on the floor, the bed I may be lying on
I feel as though I am on water and almost get a sense of the movement and sensation of floating on water
Everything centres on that sensation
It's a surreal experience

 

[gavaniacono]

You can see why businesses and sporting bodies are using it now. Even when playing competition golf I find it useful. After a poor hole or a bad shot I can see myself becoming annoyed almost before it happens, which allows me to simply let it go to focus on the next shot.

Should have asked, are u pro semi pro golfer?

 

[gavaniacono]

floating on water

I have heard of those high density pools in which u actually float on the surface...supposed to be very calming and meditative. Have u tried it?

 

[mxett]

I recently had a voluntary stint at the Albert Rd clinic in Melbourne , taking the opportunity to learn different strategies and coping mechanisms for my PTSD
I practised mindfulness before this however it wasn't until I actually learned to do it correctly that u got it
Different people have different experiences with it, for me I go into a state where I can literally feel every muscle even every nerve in my body
To me, when I do it correctly, I lose all feeling of being connected to anything but me, I don't feel the chair I'm sitting on, my feet on the floor, the bed I may be lying on
I feel as though I am on water and almost get a sense of the movement and sensation of floating on water
Everything centres on that sensation
It's a surreal experience

Sounds great, well done on persevering to find some good results. Thanks for sharing this.

For my mindfulness I love to sit in silence and listen to sounds, hear them come then go. Listen for the furthest away sound, the faintest sound, or the 'hidden' sounds. Body scans similar to what you mentioned are also fantastic. But my favourite is observing my mind and my thoughts, what they are, how often they come, and how they make me feel emotionally and physically. I observe them come and watch them go, just like clouds in the sky or sounds in the distance. I find this helps me immensely in times Im anxious or even my normal life. As I said earlier, I am so used to observing my mind that I can now see my thoughts or emotions as they happen rather than getting caught in them. With negative or fearful thoughts I observe them with a smile and let them go on their way.

 

[mxett]

Should have asked, are u pro semi pro golfer?

I wish. No, just a club golfer who loves competition. I'm in my late 40's and my handicap is mid single figures, which is the best it's been. I believe mindfulness is one reason for this

 

[Glacier]

I have heard of those high density pools in which u actually float on the surface...supposed to be very calming and meditative. Have u tried it?

No
To be honest I'm actually chicken s**t of being in a pool in the real world

 

[gavaniacono]

No
To be honest I'm actually chicken s**t of being in a pool in the real world

Ha ha. I havent tried it either. A mate told me it is a full out of world out of self type of experience and he felt reinvigorated abd optimistic right after.

 

[Glacier]

Ha ha. I havent tried it either. A mate told me it is a full out of world out of self type of experience and he felt reinvigorated abd optimistic right after.

It sounds kinda cool, like meditation on a lilo

 

[smasha]

Going for a jog soon,the only way out is exercise.

Even just a walk.

Peace.

 

[Matt Stevic]

I'm just gonna leave this here.

http://www.smh.com.au/national/heal...-look-after-our-patients-20170531-gwh7iy.html

 

[secondary]

I've been dealing with the ending of a 4 year relationship over the last couple weeks, it's been horrible. Not sleeping, no appetite, anxiety overriding everything.
It's making work hard, finding it hard to enjoy the footy, but it's been amazing how helpful my friends have been since reaching out too them.
Still not there, but getting there.
I used men's line a bit, they are really good for just a chat, picked up my spirits a number of times.

 

[The_Wookie]

 

[Aeglos]

I can certainly relate to Danger's feelings of not wanting to burden anybody.
Unfortunately for me I was a little slow(er) to seek help and my mental state got a little out of control (which is an important lesson as any)

 

[Matt Stevic]

I can certainly relate to Danger's feelings of not wanting to burden anybody.
Unfortunately for me I was a little slow(er) to seek help and my mental state got a little out of control (which is an important lesson as any)

Yup that's it - there's always that lingering feeling in your mind that in order to be a decent human being, you are allowed to help others, but not yourself, sadly.

Edit: thought it might be time to ask, how's everyone all doing in this thread?

 

[35Saints35]

I can certainly relate to Danger's feelings of not wanting to burden anybody.
Unfortunately for me I was a little slow(er) to seek help and my mental state got a little out of control (which is an important lesson as any)

Keeping it all in just screws with your head . It's so tiring . But after I had my breakdown last Friday I was knackered for 4-5 days it was just so draining . On the way back now but still not at ease . On edge and ready to snap at the smallest of things . Got psychologist on Wednesday so that's gona be interesting it's great getting analysed . Not

 

[Glacier]

I've been dealing with the ending of a 4 year relationship over the last couple weeks, it's been horrible. Not sleeping, no appetite, anxiety overriding everything.
It's making work hard, finding it hard to enjoy the footy, but it's been amazing how helpful my friends have been since reaching out too them.
Still not there, but getting there.
I used men's line a bit, they are really good for just a chat, picked up my spirits a number of times.

PM mate if you need a chat

 

[mxett]

Yup that's it - there's always that lingering feeling in your mind that in order to be a decent human being, you are allowed to help others, but not yourself, sadly.

Edit: thought it might be time to ask, how's everyone all doing in this thread?

had a shocking head cold for the last 9 days, but otherwise pretty good. Thanks for asking.

That was a really impressive article by Dangerfield. I think it brings great perspective to the demanding lives of AFL footballers, and how the expectations clubs and fans put on them can contribute to mental illness. I hope fans and other players read what he has said. We could all do with some perspective at times.

What happens if you don’t play well? That feeling of disappointment snowballs. Have I let my teammates down? Are the coaches upset? What could I have done better? Am I going to be dropped?

What about my contract? It’s up this year, am I going to be delisted? I just bought a house, what about my mortgage?

And before you know it, you’re living on the edge and it can mentally drain you of everything.

Having the courage to speak to someone and not bottle up these feelings is crucial. And I know that from personal experience.

I didn’t have depression. I’d describe it as more a feeling of melancholy. It was in 2014 in Adelaide and I was going through a flat patch. I wasn’t really enjoying my footy, I was playing poorly and the only way I could get my enjoyment was from playing well.

But that wasn’t happening.

I couldn’t help but feel I was letting down my teammates every time I went out to play.

Doubt had invaded my mind. I was thinking back to the previous year and recalling that what was easy then just wasn’t happening. It was almost like, “Oh my God, the game has passed me by”.

I felt like everywhere I went, the ball wasn’t. I knew I needed help.

But I didn’t want to burden anyone, I didn’t want anyone to pass judgment or think less of me for what was going on in my head.

I didn’t want to tell my parents because I want Mum and Dad’s job to simply be Mum and Dad.
I spoke to the AFL Players Association and they put me in touch with a psychiatrist from Adelaide — and it was the best thing I have ever done.

In that environment with a specialist, I could be myself, talk about what I was experiencing and he gave me tools to help deal with the emotions I was feeling.

My situation is so far removed from what many others have gone through — or what I gather Fasolo is dealing with.

But I remember thinking, “Gee, I wish I’d done this 10 weeks earlier”.

A wonderful thing happened during this bad patch.

I was probably three weeks into it when out of the blue I got a text message from my teammate Jared Petrenko.

The message said: “Even though I know you’re not playing as you would like, I love playing with you.”

I felt so good after receiving a message from a mate like that. Sometimes that’s all it takes.

 

[Aeglos]

Yup that's it - there's always that lingering feeling in your mind that in order to be a decent human being, you are allowed to help others, but not yourself, sadly.

Edit: thought it might be time to ask, how's everyone all doing in this thread?

Up and down for me since my last update/query.
My emotions seem to yoyo quite frequently and aggressively (my undergrad psych friend suggested bipolar but I'm not quite sure) but at least I'm actually enjoying some "highs" now which I hadn't for quite some time (and they give me something to aim for).
Last Monday I also made a timeline for removing a couple of my major triggers as well which instantly gave me a sense of relief, although Tuesday morning I suffered a pretty big breakdown that felt like a panic attack (honestly thought I was going to pass out I was finding it that hard to breath) and lasted a couple of hours before I had mentally settled. Had a similar feeling on Friday but was better prepared to just let it happen and didn't get the shortness of breath.
Now I look back over the years and there were definitely signs that I was at risk of a more ongoing problem, but the symptoms displayed themselves so few and far between that I never thought twice about it eg every 4-5 months I'd randomly be overcome with feelings of grief/sadness lying in bed (with no obvious trigger) but then wake up the next day feeling fine and carry on normally

 

[The_Wookie]

Fev speaking out too
http://www.news.com.au/sport/afl/br...n/news-story/90affaf1102ae144b828e3c7eb48bf92

 

[Glacier]

Well after 9 years I've finally had the courage to not take any more emotional and sometimes physical abuse from my partner and left
The hardest thing to say goodbye to my little ones
God help me

 

[Glacier]

Well after 9 years I've finally had the courage to not take any more emotional and sometimes physical abuse from my partner and left
The hardest thing to say goodbye to my little ones
God help me

 

[35Saints35]

Well after 9 years I've finally had the courage to not take any more emotional and sometimes physical abuse from my partner and left
The hardest thing to say goodbye to my little ones
God help me

Tough, hope your alright .

 

[mxett]

Well after 9 years I've finally had the courage to not take any more emotional and sometimes physical abuse from my partner and left
The hardest thing to say goodbye to my little ones
God help me

courageous move mate, good on you. Have you got much support around you? Make sure you keep let us know if you need a chat

 

[Ando727]

Well after 9 years I've finally had the courage to not take any more emotional and sometimes physical abuse from my partner and left
The hardest thing to say goodbye to my little ones
God help me

I think you've done the right thing mate - judging by what you said previously. Once you're over the shock of it, you might find that this toxic situation was a large contributor to how you've been feeling. It's a brave move you've made. Good on you.