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Discussion in 'AFL - The Australian Football League' started by The_Wookie, Dec 24, 2015.

  1. Nugett

    Nugett Premiership Player

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    Thanks Ando. I tend to agree with you regarding childhood memories coming into play. I need to head back to counseling/psychologist. Despite the recent changes I made in my life, which are a positive, I still feel that I tend to self sabotage myself. For most of my life, it feels as if I have lived my life through others. Trying to live out their achievements rather than mine. Always being made to feel that I’m responsible for others people’s mistakes, being made to feel that I’m accountable for other people’s actions. Until I finally lash out and unload my frustrations, anger, hurt onto others, as well as myself. In my case, I think it’s my childhood, as to why I feel always responsible and accountable, due to having to live with various family members, family friends, strangers for long periods. 3months to 18 months at a time. So to understand as a kid, as to why your parents are constantly leaving you, logically you look inwards to try and explain their constant absences in your young life. Any way I have transgressed.
     
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  2. John Who

    John Who Premiership Player

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    Childhood traumas are actually a very important part of focus in psychology/psychiatry. The memories and thoughts when we were young molds as to where we are today. So understanding what we went through, and accepting the traumas is a very important part of the "self". Most importantly though, it's important to develop ourselves continually throughout all stages of life whether you're in your 20s or in your 60s. The key word is "adapting" to your current environment and current stress issues. If you repeatedly end up in psychological distress then you need to figure out ways to overcome them. If you keep doing the same actions/thoughts over and over again (like when you were much younger), then it would lead to continual issues when meeting the harsh reality of the real world.
     
  3. Nugett

    Nugett Premiership Player

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    I understand where your coming from. As a child, my mother states I couldn’t talk. Despite the fact, my grandparents I lived with for at least 18months of my first 2 years of being born, would tell stories of me actually talking. Me not talking around my parents, and the concerns around that, occurred when I was about 5. That was after I lived with a school librarian and her older kids for about another 18 months give or take a couple months. Once again there were no issues around my mutism, as I vividly remember joining into my favourite bits of green eggs and ham, as it was being read to me.(being read to was the only way they could get me to sleep back then!) which makes me self diagnose as having selective mutism. It has only really been established as a disorder in the past 20 years, so really can’t say for certain.
    Here is a website that goes into more depth.

    https://selectivemutismcenter.org/whatisselectivemutism/

    It does explain a lot to me, especially my withdrawing/pushing away from people, when I’m sad, scared, anxious ect. It also explains why I’m socially awkward as well.

    I did spend 2 years of schooling at a deaf school in speech therapy.
     
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  4. sydney_gws

    sydney_gws Team Captain

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    There is nothing wrong in being a bit awkward.
     
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