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sherb

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I opened up months ago on here after a loss (just a pet but was the final straw in a sh*t 5 year patch) and have steadily gotten worse since. I've been crying out for help from my highly recommended doctor (useless, everything is in the too hard basket) but thankfully, my partner and kids don't want to just brush it all aside and pretend I'll get better like that incompetent doctor.

Anyway, I've applied for a stint in rehab totally off my own back without any help to hopefully get over my recent alcohol dependence to just get by. But... As seems to be the usual way in which all these things go, it's been an absolute joke, with nobody ever returning calls or following up on these very simple tasks they assure me they will. Most of these issues are with so called professionals in the field just not giving 2 shits about what they constantly promise.

I can totally understand why many people just give up trying at all with such incompetent support out there and basically no real help. Its just a simple paying bloody job to most of these so called professionals living their happy lives without a care in the world.
Re the bolded, you don't need to explain (to me at least) the devastating effect the loss of a pet can have on you, especially when you are already dealing with mental health battles. They are loving and loved family members and their passing leaves an enormous hole in your heart and your life.

I could offer the usual platitudes regarding your battles in trying to find the right support, but I know it may not help a lot. However, I have found from personal experience that persistence does eventually pay off in getting the right professional people in your life.

Take care mate. You may feel alone but, in reality, you aren't. Please remember that. I'm so pleased that you have family support.
 
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sherb

Brownlow Medallist
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I battle with a particularly difficult form of depression. It took my own research to actually work it out too, despite having professional help. So it is an ongoing battle for me.

I found this site (run by a couple of Aussies I believe), I'm going to give the "A Strategy A Day To Overcome Depression" thing a go (click under "Services"). It's worth a try.

 

Red mist

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Going through waves. When ur going for a surf it’s a duck dive to get out to the zone.
Going through waves. When your on top of your sitch and an outside happening and you’re on point.
Going through waves. You own your work environment and then you receive a shock that needs action.
Going through waves.Your skills get you through without blinking but there’s stuff going on.
Going through waves.You start to segment your time and worry.
Going through waves. Your job purpose takes second place and you need to protect
Going through waves. Change of focus to protect your worry.
Going through waves. Being consumed by doubt or worry.
Being depressed is an incredibly common action for day to day life.
The easiest way to interpepret is irritability, anger and fear.
These things don’t wave a flag at you to recognise, they live in the now.
Being able to function get the job done doesn’t kill it.
Its always something you gotta own.
You own it, you rule it. Then you can start putting chips in it.
and piss it off.
 

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Genghis Tron

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Apr 6, 2020
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I opened up months ago on here after a loss (just a pet but was the final straw in a sh*t 5 year patch)
Losing a pet is never good. Especially if you are suffering. I always found animals to be of more council than humans anyway. A recent passing of a pup hit me harder than any loss of friends or family ever has.

I've just recently taken on another foster greyhound and the benefits of having a furry friend around were immediate noticeable.

Good luck with everything mate.
 

Niggles

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Losing a pet is never good. Especially if you are suffering. I always found animals to be of more council than humans anyway. A recent passing of a pup hit me harder than any loss of friends or family ever has.

I've just recently taken on another foster greyhound and the benefits of having a furry friend around were immediate noticeable.

Good luck with everything mate.
Yeah cheers mate really appreciate the kind words. We've since adopted another dog in our family to fill the gap and he's been great. Animals never judge us and are happy just getting the simplest needs from humans as I wish I could. It's just my own sh*t I need to get on top of and rehab is my last hope. Cannot rely on the useless GP's, regardless of their reputation, and the so called pro's (psychologists and psychiatrists) are just a money hungry ******* joke with no idea of the problems actually faced. The system is f’ed
 

Genghis Tron

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Apr 6, 2020
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Yeah cheers mate really appreciate the kind words. We've since adopted another dog in our family to fill the gap and he's been great. Animals never judge us and are happy just getting the simplest needs from humans as I wish I could. It's just my own sh*t I need to get on top of and rehab is my last hope. Cannot rely on the useless GP's, regardless of their reputation, and the so called pro's (psychologists and psychiatrists) are just a money hungry ******* joke with no idea of the problems actually faced. The system is f’ed
I hope it works out for you mate. I agree on the system being f’ed. I've basically given up on Professional help. Even if they are trying it never changed anything. 16 years and things have only gotten worse.

Glad to hear you took in another pup. Fingers crossed things start turning around for you.

If you end up popping back in here after your stay (not sure the right term to use with rehab) I'd be very interested in hearing if there was any benefit or progress made with its help.

But you're taking steps towards healing and thats a massive step. Well done and again, good luck.
 

mxett

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Yeah cheers mate really appreciate the kind words. We've since adopted another dog in our family to fill the gap and he's been great. Animals never judge us and are happy just getting the simplest needs from humans as I wish I could. It's just my own sh*t I need to get on top of and rehab is my last hope. Cannot rely on the useless GP's, regardless of their reputation, and the so called pro's (psychologists and psychiatrists) are just a money hungry ******* joke with no idea of the problems actually faced. The system is f’ed
for some people the system can seem very impersonal and inadequate when you're having a real rough time. When I was really suffering the most, the infrequent sessions with GP and psychologist just didnt do enough to relieve the distress I felt every day. For that reason I did heaps of my own research and insisted on developing tools that enabled me to help myself.

It is unfortunate that psychologists can be difficult to access and charge so much per session. Makes an important resource borderline unaffordable for many
 

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