Resource Depression/Anxiety the silent killers - everyday is RUOK day. #SpeakUpStayChatTy

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Boomerfan99

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Booze is a big one. Credit to you for giving it up as social events are often built around drinking. I know a couple of people who have given up drinking in similar circumstances and it’s been a huge positive. Good luck!
Thanks mate. I went to the pub tonight in Brisbane. My mate drank beer I drank lemon lime bitters. Hadn't done that in years.

Taking kids camping (without wife) next week with some other families. Some big drinkers in that group so will be interesting whther I can stay off it. For the sake of my mental health I hope so.
 

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Thanks mate. I went to the pub tonight in Brisbane. My mate drank beer I drank lemon lime bitters. Hadn't done that in years.

Taking kids camping (without wife) next week with some other families. Some big drinkers in that group so will be interesting whther I can stay off it. For the sake of my mental health I hope so.
Yeah I don’t think I could do it but am full of admiration for those that do. Take pride in achieving small goals.
 

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Hey guys.

COVID has been absolutely awful for me.

Was fighting so much with my wife (in front of the kids), that we are having a break and she is staying at her Mums.
Really hard on my kids (8 and 6).

Was having some really really dark moments and couldn't get through the day.

Bit the bullet and got on Prozak script and saw a shrink today. I feel better already.

Said before you even consider trying to reconcile with my wife, he suggested just getting my own self sorted out first.

I am staying off grog completely, eating better and exercising. As mentioned in a previous thread, I have my first ever game of footy in a few weeks so looking forward to that.

I am also reading a great book on managing my anger better.

Every day is a challenge, but as the shrink said, I will get through it one way or another.

BOOMER.
well done mate. youve taken many big steps there that are going to do a lot of good for you.
 

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Boomerfan99

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well done mate. youve taken many big steps there that are going to do a lot of good for you.
Thanks mate. Had the kids tonight for the first time in a few nights. As much as they are sad, I think they are glad to see their dad. I feel like such a selfish cowardly prick for Even thinking of the dark alternative.

It's amazing. Normally after a North performance like this I would be depressed for days, but I really didn't care (mainly as I had other things on my mind).
 

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Thanks mate. I know me (and my family) are going to come out of this stronger.


As Dennis said mate " don't look in the rear view mirror too much ( or sumfin' like that )

You've got you and family through nearly 7 months of covid and the last 3 weeks of North playing. Corny, but, once you've hit the bottom > only way is up. Step by step. One small positive at a time. Get kicked in the guts ? No worries. I've overcome this hurdle before, l'll do it again.
 
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As Dennis said mate " don't look in the rear view mirror too much ( or sumfin' like that )

You've got your and family through nearly 7 months of covid and the last 3 weeks of North playing. Corny, but, once you've hit the bottom > only way is up. Step by step. One small positive at a time. Get kicked in the guts ? No worries. I've overcome this hurdle before, l'll do it again.
Thanks mate. Reached my lowest ebb but only way is up.
 

Boomerfan99

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That low is hell. Speak to family and friends. Speak to us 👍 We are always here to listen mate.

Maybe give Rhyce a miss this week though. Got enough on his plate 🏆
It's amazing listening to Wayne Schwass's journey.

The other is ex Rugby Union player Ben Tune who is one of my all time heroes. Got to the point when he was taking sleeping pills to end his life and pulled his way out of it.
 

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Hey guys.

COVID has been absolutely awful for me.

Was fighting so much with my wife (in front of the kids), that we are having a break and she is staying at her Mums.
Really hard on my kids (8 and 6).

Was having some really really dark moments and couldn't get through the day.

Bit the bullet and got on Prozak script and saw a shrink today. I feel better already.

Said before you even consider trying to reconcile with my wife, he suggested just getting my own self sorted out first.

I am staying off grog completely, eating better and exercising. As mentioned in a previous thread, I have my first ever game of footy in a few weeks so looking forward to that.

I am also reading a great book on managing my anger better.

Every day is a challenge, but as the shrink said, I will get through it one way or another.

BOOMER.

Good stuff Boomer :thumbsu: You should be very proud of yourself for firstly recognising the issue and then being man enough to do something about it.
Yep everyday is a challenge and it will be that way for quite a while, for not just yourself but for a lot if us.

But you'll be fine man, of that I'm sure:)

Matt
 

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Hey guys.

COVID has been absolutely awful for me.

Was fighting so much with my wife (in front of the kids), that we are having a break and she is staying at her Mums.
Really hard on my kids (8 and 6).

Was having some really really dark moments and couldn't get through the day.

Bit the bullet and got on Prozak script and saw a shrink today. I feel better already.

Said before you even consider trying to reconcile with my wife, he suggested just getting my own self sorted out first.

I am staying off grog completely, eating better and exercising. As mentioned in a previous thread, I have my first ever game of footy in a few weeks so looking forward to that.

I am also reading a great book on managing my anger better.

Every day is a challenge, but as the shrink said, I will get through it one way or another.

BOOMER.
Well done mate on making that first bloody hard step, then another and another. Another curve ball today but not your fault. Or your wifes. Certainly nothing to do with your kids. As for me, well, I am just happy it stopped raining :) Makes my day soooo much better. Footy training for me just stopped, just gotta grab a ball and pop out some laps by myself or on the weekend when my best little mate is here. Not as good as seeing my mates and crapping on about the cruise for 2, so to speak. Keep not drinking and exercising, you will feel better because your body feels better. Mate if you can sit through the crap that was dished up on saturday, then this will be a doddle 🙃
 

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Booze is such a hard one to tackle

I work in the wine industry - studied as a winemaker and spent several years doing long hours during vintage, i now work in fine wine retail to get a bit of life balance.

I still struggle with booze regularly. Spent some time a few years back with a psychologist, after getting to a point where I had no Shut off and would drink myself blind. On multiple occasions I had thrown up in my sleep only to wake up with no recollection of the previous night.

it’s probably been 14 months since I last passed out after a huge session which was my 30th birthday -saw some video footage where I was completely non compos and incoherent - was a real eye opener.

Our little fella is almost 2 now, and the wife has had a pretty difficult post natal time, she often goes to bed early with him - leaving me with little to do especially now covid has us limited in specific activities. I’ve been working pretty flat chat during this period but find I can’t really go 2-3 days without craving any form of drink. Thing is it’s not cheap sh*t or anything for the sake of it. I’ve setup a cellar with 12 dozen wines at a value of over $15k in the last 18 months and I’ll find that most nights I’ll drink half to a full bottle.

My body is accustomed to it now, but I’m just drained at the moment - little fella keeps us on our toes and with work busy I find I’m putting a few coffees away as well as a bunch of piss each day leading to fatigue and a lack of drive. Not by any means laziness, but I just find most tasks and things mundane unless they are now revolving around some form of eating and drinking.

this is more just me getting sh*t out of my mind
 

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Booze is such a hard one to tackle

I work in the wine industry - studied as a winemaker and spent several years doing long hours during vintage, i now work in fine wine retail to get a bit of life balance.

I still struggle with booze regularly. Spent some time a few years back with a psychologist, after getting to a point where I had no Shut off and would drink myself blind. On multiple occasions I had thrown up in my sleep only to wake up with no recollection of the previous night.

it’s probably been 14 months since I last passed out after a huge session which was my 30th birthday -saw some video footage where I was completely non compos and incoherent - was a real eye opener.

Our little fella is almost 2 now, and the wife has had a pretty difficult post natal time, she often goes to bed early with him - leaving me with little to do especially now covid has us limited in specific activities. I’ve been working pretty flat chat during this period but find I can’t really go 2-3 days without craving any form of drink. Thing is it’s not cheap sh*t or anything for the sake of it. I’ve setup a cellar with 12 dozen wines at a value of over $15k in the last 18 months and I’ll find that most nights I’ll drink half to a full bottle.

My body is accustomed to it now, but I’m just drained at the moment - little fella keeps us on our toes and with work busy I find I’m putting a few coffees away as well as a bunch of piss each day leading to fatigue and a lack of drive. Not by any means laziness, but I just find most tasks and things mundane unless they are now revolving around some form of eating and drinking.

this is more just me getting sh*t out of my mind
Lol mate your best little mate will keep you on your toes for the next whole rest of your life 🙃 I personally have a dislike of wine as my ex was a drunk, not a massive drinker as such, but then again, it affected her pretty badly, imo. She'd start at about 2pm and by 7ish she'd be as nasty as a feral cat being put on a vets table. Red was her poison of choice and had the worser effect. I honestly can not even stand the smell of it, and my former self would stare in amazement at how little I drink these days, partly because of that and also because I dont want to wake up with a hangover and miss whatever it is my best little mate is upto. But I digress. Run your wife a bath and then you hop into bed early with your son. Read a book. Bake a cake for the next day. Won't be long before your little mate will be wanting you to kick the footy with him and then he'll be off to school. Make yourself enjoy your son, not that you don't, but make extra time for him, your connection with him will be soooo much better for it. Waffling mate sorry, and really I have no clue, but its good for you to talk about it, imo. Good luck 🙃
 

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one of the boyfriend's of one of the mum's from my kids school took his life this week.

now he had an affair with the wife of one of my good mates which led to their divorce so my feelings are a little conflicted.

But it's sad none the less.
 

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