Resource Depression/Anxiety the silent killers - everyday is RUOK day. #SpeakUpStayChatTy

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Luke72

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Sure I like dogs :-D Just something in me reckons his grandson should be more important than the grooming of a dog that is gonna roll in the 1st muddy puddle it sees. Or even not more important, I reckon my little mate would have loved to go with Poppy to pick up the dog. Ah well.
Your kid is too good to roll in mud?!? Bloody millennials! 😉
 

rickety

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Your kid is too good to roll in mud?!? Bloody millennials! 😉
Lol no millennials in this house 🤣🤣 we take training cones down to Rye footy ground, put stubby holders on top of them and then start at each end shooting each other with nerf guns. Once your stubby holders are down it's game on, bullets flying everywhere. Not every week though, I am getting too old for soldiering 🤣🤣🤔
 

The acurate one

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So hope you fellow Vics survived the winds last night? It was brutal in the Dandenong Ranges. Lost power around 6:00pm and it didn't come back on until 11:30 am today.

it was a sobering start as I headed for Belgrave Safeway and came across the huge gum that had been uprooted. That happens but it fell straight onto a car and the driver died a few hours later. I did take a pic but won't post it , at first I didn't realise that was that spot someone had died. the flowers on the fence gave that away and the bits of smashed vehicle.

He was leaving the car park wtf? We are talking moments and everyday has plenty of moments. What brought him to be exactly at the wrong place at the wrong time, just fu**s with my head. I shop there and I can tell you that at around 6:00pm during covid it would been near deserted. So he wouldn't have been held up turning right, like in normal times.
Fate can be an evil b*tch at times.

No wonder I've thrown caution to the wind.
 

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rickety

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So hope you fellow Vics survived the winds last night? It was brutal in the Dandenong Ranges. Lost power around 6:00pm and it didn't come back on until 11:30 am today.

it was a sobering start as I headed for Belgrave Safeway and came across the huge gum that had been uprooted. That happens but it fell straight onto a car and the driver died a few hours later. I did take a pic but won't post it , at first I didn't realise that was that spot someone had died. the flowers on the fence gave that away and the bits of smashed vehicle.

He was leaving the car park wtf? We are talking moments and everyday has plenty of moments. What brought him to be exactly at the wrong place at the wrong time, just fu**s with my head. I shop there and I can tell you that at around 6:00pm during covid it would been near deserted. So he wouldn't have been held up turning right, like in normal times.
Fate can be an evil b*tch at times.

No wonder I've thrown caution to the wind.
Fate can seem evil hey. But then there is always the flipside to it. I was still working when the weather hit down here yesterday afternoon. I witnessed, well, was 10m from a tree branch as it fell across the 2 lanes of a road, obviously blocking the road. Oncoming traffic was maybe 150m away and with the darkness and rain there was at least reasonable possibility of a crash about to happen. Anyway, I ducked out into the weather, made myself visible to the oncoming traffic, then had a few goes at removing the busted branch and all it's pieces. I got a couple of wound down window "thanks mate", got 1 of the lanes unblocked and then cleared the major debris once that initial bunch of traffic had moved on. Was still surprised by a couple of folk driving in pretty trying conditions without headlights on. But yeah, you'd be deadset scowling at St.Peter if you were to die that way.
 

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Booze is such a hard one to tackle

I work in the wine industry - studied as a winemaker and spent several years doing long hours during vintage, i now work in fine wine retail to get a bit of life balance.

I still struggle with booze regularly. Spent some time a few years back with a psychologist, after getting to a point where I had no Shut off and would drink myself blind. On multiple occasions I had thrown up in my sleep only to wake up with no recollection of the previous night.

it’s probably been 14 months since I last passed out after a huge session which was my 30th birthday -saw some video footage where I was completely non compos and incoherent - was a real eye opener.

Our little fella is almost 2 now, and the wife has had a pretty difficult post natal time, she often goes to bed early with him - leaving me with little to do especially now covid has us limited in specific activities. I’ve been working pretty flat chat during this period but find I can’t really go 2-3 days without craving any form of drink. Thing is it’s not cheap sh*t or anything for the sake of it. I’ve setup a cellar with 12 dozen wines at a value of over $15k in the last 18 months and I’ll find that most nights I’ll drink half to a full bottle.

My body is accustomed to it now, but I’m just drained at the moment - little fella keeps us on our toes and with work busy I find I’m putting a few coffees away as well as a bunch of piss each day leading to fatigue and a lack of drive. Not by any means laziness, but I just find most tasks and things mundane unless they are now revolving around some form of eating and drinking.

this is more just me getting sh*t out of my mind
Booze is a difficult one indeed.
For 18 months I tried to treat my Depression and Aniexty with 6 to 10 pints of beer a night - needless to say, it didn't end well. The last week of Feb this year I lost my job, my home, and nearly took my own life - It was a phone call to lifeline that probably saved it.
I'm a massive advocate in people seeker professional help with their mental health, however when it came to myself, I viewed it as a weakness. I thought that at the age of 46 I should have my sh*t together and was ashamed of myself and the way I was feeling.
Its been six months now, six months today of sobriety, six months of reflection, six months of counselling and although I have a way to go, things are better. Im still searching for work, however volunteer with the Salvos a few days a week. I know I'll find work eventually.
I just wished I sort help earlier.
It would have prevented alot of unnecessary hurt for myself and the hurt I inflicted on others.
I will never drink again- I know it will kill me.
I share the above for one reason only; its ok not to be ok, but its not ok to suffer in silence. There is help is out there. Please don't minimise the importance of your mental health.
I dont really feel comfortable telling people that I was suicidal, however I know its important, because the more we talk about suicide, the less we'll hear about it.
 

Hojuman

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Booze is a difficult one indeed.
For 18 months I tried to treat my Depression and Aniexty with 6 to 10 pints of beer a night - needless to say, it didn't end well. The last week of Feb this year I lost my job, my home, and nearly took my own life - It was a phone call to lifeline that probably saved it.
I'm a massive advocate in people seeker professional help with their mental health, however when it came to myself, I viewed it as a weakness. I thought that at the age of 46 I should have my sh*t together and was ashamed of myself and the way I was feeling.
Its been six months now, six months today of sobriety, six months of reflection, six months of counselling and although I have a way to go, things are better. Im still searching for work, however volunteer with the Salvos a few days a week. I know I'll find work eventually.
I just wished I sort help earlier.
It would have prevented alot of unnecessary hurt for myself and the hurt I inflicted on others.
I will never drink again- I know it will kill me.
I share the above for one reason only; its ok not to be ok, but its not ok to suffer in silence. There is help is out there. Please don't minimise the importance of your mental health.
I dont really feel comfortable telling people that I was suicidal, however I know its important, because the more we talk about suicide, the less we'll hear about it.


Good to hear you're back on track Cassius 👍 Hope the future brings all you desire and you enjoy the journey to get there.
 

rickety

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Booze is a difficult one indeed.
For 18 months I tried to treat my Depression and Aniexty with 6 to 10 pints of beer a night - needless to say, it didn't end well. The last week of Feb this year I lost my job, my home, and nearly took my own life - It was a phone call to lifeline that probably saved it.
I'm a massive advocate in people seeker professional help with their mental health, however when it came to myself, I viewed it as a weakness. I thought that at the age of 46 I should have my sh*t together and was ashamed of myself and the way I was feeling.
Its been six months now, six months today of sobriety, six months of reflection, six months of counselling and although I have a way to go, things are better. Im still searching for work, however volunteer with the Salvos a few days a week. I know I'll find work eventually.
I just wished I sort help earlier.
It would have prevented alot of unnecessary hurt for myself and the hurt I inflicted on others.
I will never drink again- I know it will kill me.
I share the above for one reason only; its ok not to be ok, but its not ok to suffer in silence. There is help is out there. Please don't minimise the importance of your mental health.
I dont really feel comfortable telling people that I was suicidal, however I know its important, because the more we talk about suicide, the less we'll hear about it.
Well done mate, and keep going. I was thinking about a mate last night who has taken many many years to seek help. 8 years. He calls it 6, then "nah, maybe 5 .... definitely 4, well, the last few years have been ok" ...... 8 years. His wife has been bangin' on about it. I have been in his ear too for 2 years. I spoke with him the other night he said "oh it's good working from home .... actually I didn't work today I wasn't feeling well. Actually all week. Well actually 3 weeks now". TBH my mate is cooked, burnt out big time and now struggles to function almost properly. Will walk the dog but forget to wear shoes. Will get up at 12, have a beer and go back to bed. He's not in a good way, but has a loving family and medical support. It's quite sad. I told him well done on getting help, that I was proud of him. He seemed to perk up at that. Reminded me of a song by The Levellers - Far Away is close at hand. Although things can seem, or even be quite dismal, you just never ever know what is gonna happen tomorrow. Work will show up mate, it's the best thing about life I reckon, well, other than being a dad, something always shows/turns up just in the nick of time. For example, 8 weeks ago I was told my job will change quite significantly. Two mondays ago it did, and although I was nonplussed, it's better than having to search for work, no offence. Then on Friday last week, my ex said she's heading back from whence we came ....... turns out she didn't want my best little mate to go with her and now lo and behold, because my job has changed, I can fit his school timings in with work. Almost perfectly scripted. The side note is it's taken almost 4 years to now be in this spot, and I have 1 happy little bouncing bean as well, but just hang in there. You will find your path again, or it will find you. Be patient, be calm, tick boxes, suck eggs if you have to, but life will come good again :)
 

The acurate one

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Booze is a difficult one indeed.
For 18 months I tried to treat my Depression and Aniexty with 6 to 10 pints of beer a night - needless to say, it didn't end well. The last week of Feb this year I lost my job, my home, and nearly took my own life - It was a phone call to lifeline that probably saved it.
I'm a massive advocate in people seeker professional help with their mental health, however when it came to myself, I viewed it as a weakness. I thought that at the age of 46 I should have my sh*t together and was ashamed of myself and the way I was feeling.
Its been six months now, six months today of sobriety, six months of reflection, six months of counselling and although I have a way to go, things are better. Im still searching for work, however volunteer with the Salvos a few days a week. I know I'll find work eventually.
I just wished I sort help earlier.
It would have prevented alot of unnecessary hurt for myself and the hurt I inflicted on others.
I will never drink again- I know it will kill me.
I share the above for one reason only; its ok not to be ok, but its not ok to suffer in silence. There is help is out there. Please don't minimise the importance of your mental health.
I dont really feel comfortable telling people that I was suicidal, however I know its important, because the more we talk about suicide, the less we'll hear about it.
Cassius well done and good on you, I dips me lid in your direction. You were brave and are still brave. Sometimes I think we need to hit the bottom before we can start the march to the top.

Well done for your volunteer work and you'll get a job that's a given. Just be sure to celebrate those little successes, they're important. Don;t look back though and wish. Rip the rear-view mirror off and move forward, learn from those times of course. If you've somethings to mend, time and you can mend those.

Thank you for sharing part of your journey👍
 

tales129

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Booze is a difficult one indeed.
For 18 months I tried to treat my Depression and Aniexty with 6 to 10 pints of beer a night - needless to say, it didn't end well. The last week of Feb this year I lost my job, my home, and nearly took my own life - It was a phone call to lifeline that probably saved it.
I'm a massive advocate in people seeker professional help with their mental health, however when it came to myself, I viewed it as a weakness. I thought that at the age of 46 I should have my sh*t together and was ashamed of myself and the way I was feeling.
Its been six months now, six months today of sobriety, six months of reflection, six months of counselling and although I have a way to go, things are better. Im still searching for work, however volunteer with the Salvos a few days a week. I know I'll find work eventually.
I just wished I sort help earlier.
It would have prevented alot of unnecessary hurt for myself and the hurt I inflicted on others.
I will never drink again- I know it will kill me.
I share the above for one reason only; its ok not to be ok, but its not ok to suffer in silence. There is help is out there. Please don't minimise the importance of your mental health.
I dont really feel comfortable telling people that I was suicidal, however I know its important, because the more we talk about suicide, the less we'll hear about it.
top notch post Cassius.

******* hard enough talking about your feelings - not the easiest thing to give up the grog either. Well done!!
 

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Know there's been a lot of angst around the board lately, just wanted to say that regardless of your background or opinions, I love every single one of you campaigners, and whether it's covid or non covid induced struggles, hoping you're all doing as good as you can considering the circumstances.

Always here for anyone that needs a chat or to vent.

Stay safe :hearts::thumbsu:
 

Hojuman

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Know there's been a lot of angst around the board lately, just wanted to say that regardless of your background or opinions, I love every single one of you campaigners, and whether it's covid or non covid induced struggles, hoping you're all doing as good as you can considering the circumstances.

Always here for anyone that needs a chat or to vent.

Stay safe :hearts::thumbsu:


Looking forward to g.f. autopsy thread 2021 after a hard fought win and we look back at 2020 and laugh.
 

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