Resource Depression/Anxiety the silent killers - everyday is RUOK day. #SpeakUpStayChatTy

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The acurate one

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Doctor ended up ordering a prophylactic week off for me and I feel all the better for it. I have a neurological condition that flares with extreme stress and anxiety, meaning that I need to pay extra attention to my underlying mental health, lest I end up with more physical damage.

Never be afraid to approach your doctor and tell them what's going on. Although far from perfect, the world is much more understanding these days.
Man I'd never have understood that until part of my brain got fried. I really do now though, if i get stressed I shut down, I struggle to string words together , just lose my way.


Anywho peeps , week nine has come and gone and I'm still awaiting. I do feel that they're a bit spooked by it all. This has been so half arsed it is no longer funny.
 

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Man I'd never have understood that until part of my brain got fried. I really do now though, if i get stressed I shut down, I struggle to string words together , just lose my way.


Anywho peeps , week nine has come and gone and I'm still awaiting. I do feel that they're a bit spooked by it all. This has been so half arsed it is no longer funny.
Hang in there, hopefully it all blows over soon.
 

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Tomorrow I find out my fate. Those that judge will pass judgment, good Lord.
And there is the thorn in your foot. You'll be right mate, another door opens tomorrow, whatever the outcome. You'll either say f@ck, f@ck, f@ckity f@ck, or have a beer and say thank f@ck for that. All of my favourite numbers tomorrow, fwiw 6 11 and 21
 

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And there is the thorn in your foot. You'll be right mate, another door opens tomorrow, whatever the outcome. You'll either say f@ck, f@ck, f@ckity f@ck, or have a beer and say thank f@ck for that. All of my favourite numbers tomorrow, fwiw 6 11 and 21
Thanks man, yes it is. It's cost me plenty. I have had two years of hell, one disaster after another.
I.Have.Had.Enough.

But how exciting is it that I've opened up about tomorrow being the verdict. You can all be involved lol

Oh I'll probably publish the report on here.
 

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Well I hope you're out celebrating The acurate one
Right so the report landed today, all the " sexual harassment " has been removed, doesn't get a mention other than to state it didn't happen. have mixed feelings about that tbh.

* Said it would be good for your career to come have a coffee with me- gone
* Walk into the gardens- gone
* Steps were put in place to stop my behaviours-gone
* Taking work of the complainant because she wouldn't date me- gone
* drinks after work offer- gone
* Looking at her backside- gone
* Sexual gesture- gone

The whole bloody case was built on sexual harassment, i wouldn't do it or did do it. But what they just go , "ok" ? Move on, sheesh I'd have thought you can't go around saying sh*te about people.

Anyways they've run with....

* Unwanted conversation and sharing of private information, which fyi wasn't sexual based nor was it unwanted
* asking her to dinner- wtf! - She offered and yeah I said ok, noting nothing happened and was the worst dinner I'd ever been on.
* Asking her for coffee- lol

So 50 odd thou later ( work paid), I find out late next week if there's further action to be taken. Word on the street is the decision makers don't think there's anything to it.

So it comes down to me to decide whether I suck it up, continue in a well paid job that allows ridiculous flexibility as in whether I do anything lol. Or I release the hounds from hell.

I will ponder over the weekend.

Thanks all , a bit anticlimactic I Must admit and i'd jumped the gun and got my own ankle monitor, cause that's what us sex offenders do.
 

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Right so the report landed today, all the " sexual harassment " has been removed, doesn't get a mention other than to state it didn't happen. have mixed feelings about that tbh.

* Said it would be good for your career to come have a coffee with me- gone
* Walk into the gardens- gone
* Steps were put in place to stop my behaviours-gone
* Taking work of the complainant because she wouldn't date me- gone
* drinks after work offer- gone
* Looking at her backside- gone
* Sexual gesture- gone

The whole bloody case was built on sexual harassment, i wouldn't do it or did do it. But what they just go , "ok" ? Move on, sheesh I'd have thought you can't go around saying sh*te about people.

Anyways they've run with....

* Unwanted conversation and sharing of private information, which fyi wasn't sexual based nor was it unwanted
* asking her to dinner- wtf! - She offered and yeah I said ok, noting nothing happened and was the worst dinner I'd ever been on.
* Asking her for coffee- lol

So 50 odd thou later ( work paid), I find out late next week if there's further action to be taken. Word on the street is the decision makers don't think there's anything to it.

So it comes down to me to decide whether I suck it up, continue in a well paid job that allows ridiculous flexibility as in whether I do anything lol. Or I release the hounds from hell.

I will ponder over the weekend.

Thanks all , a bit anticlimactic I Must admit and i'd jumped the gun and got my own ankle monitor, cause that's what us sex offenders do.
Well yep, kinda weird feeling when "winning" gets you back to an even keel. I remember having a beer after a similar, but entirely different day. Nicest bloody beer I had ever had. Sat at the bar at about 4pm, not crying, just tearing and enjoying the beer. Barkeep asked if I was ok, told him it was the best beer I had ever had. He told me it was just Carlton Draught. Hipster.

Anyway, you could send her the ankle monitor as an ear ring, suggesting her ankles ..... never mind 🙃
 

The acurate one

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Well yep, kinda weird feeling when "winning" gets you back to an even keel. I remember having a beer after a similar, but entirely different day. Nicest bloody beer I had ever had. Sat at the bar at about 4pm, not crying, just tearing and enjoying the beer. Barkeep asked if I was ok, told him it was the best beer I had ever had. He told me it was just Carlton Draught. Hipster.

Anyway, you could send her the ankle monitor as an ear ring, suggesting her ankles ..... never mind 🙃
Just to show I was ready to roll had it turned out different.
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LOl glad you understand it, kind of a hollow victory tbh. Although my anxiety has definitely come down a few notches, and those that I care about know this is total sh*te.

yeah I've just had battle after battle, but sheesh this on top of everything else makes COVID look like the walk in the park that it is. Cannot see you as a " Hipster"
 

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Just to show I was ready to roll had it turned out different.
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LOl glad you understand it, kind of a hollow victory tbh. Although my anxiety has definitely come down a few notches, and those that I care about know this is total sh*te.

yeah I've just had battle after battle, but sheesh this on top of everything else makes COVID look like the walk in the park that it is. Cannot see you as a " Hipster"
Hahaha nah, can't grow a beard, saved me hours during my military lifetime though. The barkeep was a hipster, still is.
 

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Right so the report landed today, all the " sexual harassment " has been removed, doesn't get a mention other than to state it didn't happen. have mixed feelings about that tbh.

* Said it would be good for your career to come have a coffee with me- gone
* Walk into the gardens- gone
* Steps were put in place to stop my behaviours-gone
* Taking work of the complainant because she wouldn't date me- gone
* drinks after work offer- gone
* Looking at her backside- gone
* Sexual gesture- gone

The whole bloody case was built on sexual harassment, i wouldn't do it or did do it. But what they just go , "ok" ? Move on, sheesh I'd have thought you can't go around saying sh*te about people.

Anyways they've run with....

* Unwanted conversation and sharing of private information, which fyi wasn't sexual based nor was it unwanted
* asking her to dinner- wtf! - She offered and yeah I said ok, noting nothing happened and was the worst dinner I'd ever been on.
* Asking her for coffee- lol

So 50 odd thou later ( work paid), I find out late next week if there's further action to be taken. Word on the street is the decision makers don't think there's anything to it.

So it comes down to me to decide whether I suck it up, continue in a well paid job that allows ridiculous flexibility as in whether I do anything lol. Or I release the hounds from hell.

I will ponder over the weekend.

Thanks all , a bit anticlimactic I Must admit and i'd jumped the gun and got my own ankle monitor, cause that's what us sex offenders do.
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The acurate one

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Ha easier said than done, I do though have 900 odd hours of sick leave accumulated. Do I feel like taking on another fight. It seems I've spent the last two plus years fighting. I think I'd be better off sucking it up and looking at a redundancy in the near future. The Vic gov that I think should be hung from the town square could work in my favour. The University sector is still struggling and more redundancies are mooted.

Saw a job near enough to Hervey bay paying 165K and totally in my wheelhouse. I do like the sun , not so much toads, but yeah we've plenty of those in Vic anyways.

Well I'll find out my fate shortly. The world so needs to have a good look at itself. Sooner the better. I mean imagine the fishing, living in place of 50,000 people, imagine the single women when new blood arrives at the door... lol
 

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Ha easier said than done, I do though have 900 odd hours of sick leave accumulated. Do I feel like taking on another fight. It seems I've spent the last two plus years fighting. I think I'd be better off sucking it up and looking at a redundancy in the near future. The Vic gov that I think should be hung from the town square could work in my favour. The University sector is still struggling and more redundancies are mooted.

Saw a job near enough to Hervey bay paying 165K and totally in my wheelhouse. I do like the sun , not so much toads, but yeah we've plenty of those in Vic anyways.

Well I'll find out my fate shortly. The world so needs to have a good look at itself. Sooner the better. I mean imagine the fishing, living in place of 50,000 people, imagine the single women when new blood arrives at the door... lol
 

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Ha easier said than done, I do though have 900 odd hours of sick leave accumulated. Do I feel like taking on another fight. It seems I've spent the last two plus years fighting. I think I'd be better off sucking it up and looking at a redundancy in the near future. The Vic gov that I think should be hung from the town square could work in my favour. The University sector is still struggling and more redundancies are mooted.

Saw a job near enough to Hervey bay paying 165K and totally in my wheelhouse. I do like the sun , not so much toads, but yeah we've plenty of those in Vic anyways.

Well I'll find out my fate shortly. The world so needs to have a good look at itself. Sooner the better. I mean imagine the fishing, living in place of 50,000 people, imagine the single women when new blood arrives at the door... lol

Opportunity presents T.A.O. grab it with two hands mate 🤣
 

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Ha easier said than done, I do though have 900 odd hours of sick leave accumulated. Do I feel like taking on another fight. It seems I've spent the last two plus years fighting. I think I'd be better off sucking it up and looking at a redundancy in the near future. The Vic gov that I think should be hung from the town square could work in my favour. The University sector is still struggling and more redundancies are mooted.

Saw a job near enough to Hervey bay paying 165K and totally in my wheelhouse. I do like the sun , not so much toads, but yeah we've plenty of those in Vic anyways.

Well I'll find out my fate shortly. The world so needs to have a good look at itself. Sooner the better. I mean imagine the fishing, living in place of 50,000 people, imagine the single women when new blood arrives at the door... lol
Go for the Hervey Bay job and relax man. Vengeance can become consuming.
 

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Ha easier said than done, I do though have 900 odd hours of sick leave accumulated. Do I feel like taking on another fight. It seems I've spent the last two plus years fighting. I think I'd be better off sucking it up and looking at a redundancy in the near future. The Vic gov that I think should be hung from the town square could work in my favour. The University sector is still struggling and more redundancies are mooted.

Saw a job near enough to Hervey bay paying 165K and totally in my wheelhouse. I do like the sun , not so much toads, but yeah we've plenty of those in Vic anyways.

Well I'll find out my fate shortly. The world so needs to have a good look at itself. Sooner the better. I mean imagine the fishing, living in place of 50,000 people, imagine the single women when new blood arrives at the door... lol
Hervey Bay is beautiful and the climate is perfect.
still, it is known as god’s waiting room.
and most of those waiting are women, so yes, plenty of single women!
 

The acurate one

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Hervey Bay is beautiful and the climate is perfect.
still, it is known as god’s waiting room.
and most of those waiting are women, so yes, plenty of single women!
sh*t, I've fairly high standards, which in part is why I'm offended with the accusations. Oh I have never ever said i wasn't shallow.
 

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