- Nov 10, 2013
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- Gold Coast
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- Hell no
All the best too mateA couple of recent posts here really ring true for me, one that I seem to have gotten through, and another I have just begun to face
Macca, mate, this sounds exactly like me, except 1 kid instead of 3. It even sounds like a similar timeline of events. I moved out, crashed hard but not always, and the crashes always lined up with the days I didn’t see my daughter. Mixed messages to the absolute extreme from the ex. After a few weeks, months I “felt better”. It wasn’t the case at all. I crashed hard month after month, earned myself an FVO from the police (never got physical…except with a car ), I moved away (dumbest thing I ever did), moved back, pined over a love lost when in reality it was not being a full time parent.
What I’m trying to say, in my experience, is that you may tell yourself you feel ok, and you might, but it could turn at a moments notice. I would get this way and my only outlet was abuse. I wasn’t a nice person. Anyway I luckily didn’t lose it all. People told me it takes time. I told them to fu** off…I found out it takes time
If you ever wanna chat, or share experiences, or just get a perspective from someone who’s done it, whatever mate, drop me a line. The only people I had around me to help were happily married. Didn’t have much time for that!
I’m 3 months into this journey, and I’m feeling the cracks opening up that I’ll try my best to never show, and it’s only early on and her health is still basically in tact besides from hospital stints and being crook post chemo. I wish you all the very best mate, I really do as someone who’s only been in this for one eighth of the time you have