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Neese said:
Walking on the beach helps my mental health
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until this happens
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Hope everyone reading this is doing okay today.

For sufferers, how much in your opinion do you believe these struggles have in the future? Thinking back to my formative years are like looking down a dark hole in the ground, not much of value to look back on and be happy about at all - beyond the normal teen angst type stuff as well, things got pretty dark for a number of years.

Thankfully doing well now (although never really out of the woods entirely especially with life stress) but often will feel totally unprepared on inexperienced in situations I should be more comfortable in...my explaination is that those years cost me the opportunity to gather life experience and skills which I would be using more today.

Don't know if that even makes sense but is something I struggle with all the time now being in my 30's.
 
some people have no idea how harmful their words are and how they can have a profound negative affect on someone.
 
Been crying my eyes out for the last 24 hours. Had to have my beloved canine companion put down yesterday. Just feel empty. I guess time will heal the wound and I'll be able to remember him with happy memories but right now it just hurts so bad.
 
raskolnikov said:
Been crying my eyes out for the last 24 hours. Had to have my beloved canine companion put down yesterday. Just feel empty. I guess time will heal the wound and I'll be able to remember him with happy memories but right now it just hurts so bad.
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It's sad losing a pet they are part of the family.
All we can do is give them a good life and our love ❤️❤️.
And think of the good times we had with them...
At the start it's really butal. I feel your a loving person in time you'll be able to find time to think of the good times.
 

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I'm not sure if it's the right place to post because I think what I'm experiencing is more of an Adjustment Disorder than Depression. If it isn't, please move/delete this mods. Sorry if I have intruded too. It has been a tough year for me as far as physical health goes and given how the mind and body are linked, perhaps it's unsurprising that my mental health is now also following. I don't feel as low as I did in the worst two periods of my life, yet, but it's close, and with no end to this abyss in sight. It has been a particularly tough week after some horrible news earlier in the week that I still haven't recovered from. Despite organising some positive distractions over the last couple of days and going out of my way to focus on self-care, I don't feel any better. I still feel sad, flat and unable to see any light at the end of the tunnel. I also feel guilty and embarrassed, knowing that there are people out there doing it much tougher. I keep trying to remind myself of the things I should be grateful for. Still, I'm dreading waking up tomorrow and being forced to face the world whilst trying not to cry, let alone pretending I am ok. Masking is exhausting. My workplace were very difficult despite all the certificates/letters I provided (and have not processed my timesheet on time this fortnight despite me handing it in early) so chucking a sickie will no doubt cause more headaches, yet it is tempting...
 
MWPP said:
I'm not sure if it's the right place to post because I think what I'm experiencing is more of an Adjustment Disorder than Depression. If it isn't, please move/delete this mods. Sorry if I have intruded too. It has been a tough year for me as far as physical health goes and given how the mind and body are linked, perhaps it's unsurprising that my mental health is now also following. I don't feel as low as I did in the worst two periods of my life, yet, but it's close, and with no end to this abyss in sight. It has been a particularly tough week after some horrible news earlier in the week that I still haven't recovered from. Despite organising some positive distractions over the last couple of days and going out of my way to focus on self-care, I don't feel any better. I still feel sad, flat and unable to see any light at the end of the tunnel. I also feel guilty and embarrassed, knowing that there are people out there doing it much tougher. I keep trying to remind myself of the things I should be grateful for. Still, I'm dreading waking up tomorrow and being forced to face the world whilst trying not to cry, let alone pretending I am ok. Masking is exhausting. My workplace were very difficult despite all the certificates/letters I provided (and have not processed my timesheet on time this fortnight despite me handing it in early) so chucking a sickie will no doubt cause more headaches, yet it is tempting...
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I’m sorry to hear this mwpp. It’s ok to feel the way you do, it’s ok to cry, letting it all out is what helps . We don’t judge here, this is a safe place to just get it out if you need to. Don’t be hard on yourself and don’t let your internal monologue tell the narrative, you are not your mind. Have you spoken to any professionals about what you’re going through and getting some help?
 
MP_ said:
I’m sorry to hear this mwpp. It’s ok to feel the way you do, it’s ok to cry, letting it all out is what helps . We don’t judge here, this is a safe place to just get it out if you need to. Don’t be hard on yourself and don’t let your internal monologue tell the narrative, you are not your mind. Have you spoken to any professionals about what you’re going through and getting some help?
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Thanks MP. Yes, the internal monologue is crazy at the moment.
I did mention it to my GP earlier in the month (because she asked) and was meant to book in to see her again but haven't gotten around to it and admittedly things have become worse since then.

I know going back to see a psychologist again would be helpful (like it was many years ago, for a different issue) but I just don't have the capacity right now due to the number of other appointments (for my physical health) , not to mention the waiting time to get in. Also I'm planning to move back to WA early next year anyway, partly for more support, so it makes little sense right now

I have promised myself to make it a priority once I move. I will be PT too, which will help with both appointments and recovery.
 
MWPP said:
I'm not sure if it's the right place to post because I think what I'm experiencing is more of an Adjustment Disorder than Depression. If it isn't, please move/delete this mods. Sorry if I have intruded too. It has been a tough year for me as far as physical health goes and given how the mind and body are linked, perhaps it's unsurprising that my mental health is now also following. I don't feel as low as I did in the worst two periods of my life, yet, but it's close, and with no end to this abyss in sight. It has been a particularly tough week after some horrible news earlier in the week that I still haven't recovered from. Despite organising some positive distractions over the last couple of days and going out of my way to focus on self-care, I don't feel any better. I still feel sad, flat and unable to see any light at the end of the tunnel. I also feel guilty and embarrassed, knowing that there are people out there doing it much tougher. I keep trying to remind myself of the things I should be grateful for. Still, I'm dreading waking up tomorrow and being forced to face the world whilst trying not to cry, let alone pretending I am ok. Masking is exhausting. My workplace were very difficult despite all the certificates/letters I provided (and have not processed my timesheet on time this fortnight despite me handing it in early) so chucking a sickie will no doubt cause more headaches, yet it is tempting...
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Sorry to hear .
It's ok to not be ok ..

Maybe seek some help .
Eg take some time of work etc .

Feel feel to post in there .
Not be embarrassed.
 
rocker_oz33 said:
Sorry to hear .
It's ok to not be ok ..

Maybe seek some help .
Eg take some time of work etc .

Feel feel to post in there .
Not be embarrassed.
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Thanks Rocker, I appreciate it

Today was about as bad as I expected it to be, which was saying something
When one person asked if I was ok, I just nodded. I couldn't trust myself to open my mouth and remain composed, even whilst wearing a mask.

I wish I could take some (more) time off work but it's not a feasible option , when I'm already made to feel that it's my fault and my last lot of leave (complete with letters and certificates) just added to the stress. I work in health too so the irony is not lost on me

I did book in to see my GP again, this time with a focus on my mental rather than physical health, so that is a start
 
MWPP said:
Thanks Rocker, I appreciate it

Today was about as bad as I expected it to be, which was saying something
When one person asked if I was ok, I just nodded. I couldn't trust myself to open my mouth and remain composed, even whilst wearing a mask.

I wish I could take some (more) time off work but it's not a feasible option , when I'm already made to feel that it's my fault and my last lot of leave (complete with letters and certificates) just added to the stress. I work in health too so the irony is not lost on me

I did book in to see my GP again, this time with a focus on my mental rather than physical health, so that is a start
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I hope you feel better soon 🔜

It's not your fault...
 

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raskolnikov said:
Been crying my eyes out for the last 24 hours. Had to have my beloved canine companion put down yesterday. Just feel empty. I guess time will heal the wound and I'll be able to remember him with happy memories but right now it just hurts so bad.
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Feel for you. Heartbreaking.

I'm about a month or two from the same shock completely unexpected and had to say goodbye.

For me I feel it's definitely triggered some recent depression. I know the DSM diagnosis of depression probably requires it to be longer and not necessarily triggered by one event, but it still feels bad.

Just feel flat, grey, dull and on the edge of tears. It's not every minute of the day, but it's a lot of the time.

Just trying to slowly implement things to make myself feel better. Drinking more water and trying to meditate once a day are my first starts this week.
 
raskolnikov said:
Been crying my eyes out for the last 24 hours. Had to have my beloved canine companion put down yesterday. Just feel empty. I guess time will heal the wound and I'll be able to remember him with happy memories but right now it just hurts so bad.
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That's awful. Don't feel bad for feeling sad, they're considered man's best friend for a reason! And I'm sure you gave the pup a great life that they were grateful for!
 
My mum passed away on Monday morning. It's been really difficult processing the grief for both my dog and my mum. To be honest I feel a bit guilty because I have to say that my grief for my dog has been much more intense than the grief for my mum. But that could be because the impact of losing my dog was much more immediate as he's been with me almost every day for the last 16 years whereas my mum lived a long distance away and I'd only seen her a few times the last couple of years.
 
raskolnikov said:
My mum passed away on Monday morning. It's been really difficult processing the grief for both my dog and my mum. To be honest I feel a bit guilty because I have to say that my grief for my dog has been much more intense than the grief for my mum. But that could be because the impact of losing my dog was much more immediate as he's been with me almost every day for the last 16 years whereas my mum lived a long distance away and I'd only seen her a few times the last couple of years.
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Horrible news rask
I’m very sorry for both of your losses and am thinking about you :(

I’m sad that you feel guilty
I think both location and timing (you may well still be in the denial phase of grief with your mum, being so recent) would be a factor too

Please look after yourself
 
Broke down at the doctors today but it was for the best, you can only hold onto stuff for so long before it becomes too much to bear. Hopefully now I can start the healing.
 
MP_ said:
Broke down at the doctors today but it was for the best, you can only hold onto stuff for so long before it becomes too much to bear. Hopefully now I can start the healing.
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If the bottom is in then the only way is up mate.

Consider seeing a counselor or therapist along the way.
 

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