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Having lived with someone who is suffering from psychotic depression for definitely 4 years, but up to 10 years - the toll it ends up taking on everyone is just immense.

No more words than that - apart from mental health issues and their impact is grossly misunderstood and undervalued in our society.
Older brother has severe anxiety and depression issues. I resent how our parents handled it. Dismissed it as normal youth cliche that would solve itself. Eventually he's 18, no friends, not getting into university. Yeah didn't ******* solve itself. And in the meantime for best part of a decade his **** cascaded and copied onto me because they didn't do anything. So most of it repeats.

Two shoddy parents reinforcing each other's flawed thinking can really **** up a person (or persons).
 
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Just realised my work situation is ****** as:
I'm too introverted and burnt out to work long term in my current job and too mentally ****** up and lacking in talent, experience to do much else. Plus bad calls etc But am cool with it. If given time and space to think i can be creative so will roll on. Don't care about money anyway (as I figure marriage/mortgages/kids etc) are out for me anyways. So will just do whatever comes and hang who i want to hang with and not be beholden to others, group think or society.
 

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Went for a massive walk along the beach the other day. I recommend. The fresh air and time to think and walk is brilliant.

Im lucky Ive got a fairly isolated long stretch of white sand down the road.

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Any form of exercise is of benefit.
 
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Went for a massive walk along the beach the other day. I recommend. The fresh air and time to think and walk is brilliant.

Im lucky Ive got a fairly isolated long stretch of white sand down the road.

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I hit the Gold Coast 2-3 times a year and wake up to walk along the beach just as the sun starts coming up.

It does wonders!
 
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All you need to do is just survive. Find someone you trust and talk to them or failing that call an anonomous line, post or PM here. But all you need to worry about is just you and what you need to do to get through.
Thanks man, I've been dealing with social anxiety for a while, this latest event hurt me a lot, because I was trying to be nice person and unfortunately can be socially inept at times.
 

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I had a couple of days there where I felt like a drain on everyone, including society, my family, and acquaintances, and that I should just finally take myself out. It's true that I have said and done stupid things in the past, and I spent a lot of time thinking about that and hating myself. I am a flawed person, but I am trying to make it right.
 

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Thanks man, I've been dealing with social anxiety for a while, this latest event hurt me a lot, because I was trying to be nice person and unfortunately can be socially inept at times.
Mate my whole life is social **** ups.

But end of the day it is your life and you can only live it as you see fit. People can think whatever the hell they want.
 

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My beautiful wife is in for a few weeks again. I think it’s every year or every other year. I’m so proud she can now put up her hand and say “I need help”. It’s hard managing the house and kids and my own feelings for a few weeks (months?), but I’d much rather try to deal with the issue than pretend it’s not there. We’ve avoided suicide attempts and the like this time.

I dunno if there’s a “partners of depressed people” club but at this point I feel I could be a lecturer.
 

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My beautiful wife is in for a few weeks again. I think it’s every year or every other year. I’m so proud she can now put up her hand and say “I need help”. It’s hard managing the house and kids and my own feelings for a few weeks (months?), but I’d much rather try to deal with the issue than pretend it’s not there. We’ve avoided suicide attempts and the like this time.

I dunno if there’s a “partners of depressed people” club but at this point I feel I could be a lecturer.
Good on you. All you can do is support. But ultimately it is her issue and she has to deal with it.
 

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Take 3 days off. Just do that. All you gotta do. Just survive. Find something you really want to do and just do it. Trust yourselves and your loved ones and live the best life you can. I'm getting off Social Media but all the best on this site. You are all legends.
 
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My beautiful wife is in for a few weeks again. I think it’s every year or every other year. I’m so proud she can now put up her hand and say “I need help”. It’s hard managing the house and kids and my own feelings for a few weeks (months?), but I’d much rather try to deal with the issue than pretend it’s not there. We’ve avoided suicide attempts and the like this time.

I dunno if there’s a “partners of depressed people” club but at this point I feel I could be a lecturer.
No pressure to answer, but do you mind if I ask when this started?

Did she have a history before you started your family, or did this all come about afterward?

Either way, credit to you for keeping it together.
 
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To anybody in this thread who reads this, and suffers depression/anxiety, have you tried getting off alcohol and other drugs to see what difference this makes?

I'd be interested to know if people try getting off recreational drugs before getting on psych drugs.

Seems to me that alcohol affects my mindset for days (even weeks) after a period of heavy drinking.

Only once I've spent a few weeks away from alcohol do I notice how much calmer and more positive my inner dialogue is when continually sober.
 

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No pressure to answer, but do you mind if I ask when this started?

Did she have a history before you started your family, or did this all come about afterward?

Either way, credit to you for keeping it together.
Hmmm, not really sure where it all started. Probably in childhood for her, where there was some difficult things going on. My wife had two kids when I met her, but was not diagnosed or under any treatment/care for depression/anxiety or similar. We had some big drama about a decade ago and since there's been ongoing treatment. I think there are likely biological/physiological things going on in her that have always been there.

We're still learning, trying to find better ways to manage things so she can function how she wants to function and the interruptions to our family life are minimised. I think she's doing pretty well, and we're working away to understand triggers, patterns and so on. I am sort of resigned to the fact this will be a lifelong thing, so am looking for ways to "manage" it. I don't think what happens for her can be "fixed" or "cured". I think it's just part and parcel of how she's wired.
 

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To anybody in this thread who reads this, and suffers depression/anxiety, have you tried getting off alcohol and other drugs to see what difference this makes?

I'd be interested to know if people try getting off recreational drugs before getting on psych drugs.

Seems to me that alcohol affects my mindset for days (even weeks) after a period of heavy drinking.

Only once I've spent a few weeks away from alcohol do I notice how much calmer and more positive my inner dialogue is when continually sober.
Yep, i'm pretty down and out for about 3-5 days after a night on the piss. Try and avoid it these days.
 

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Started going to a pysch again. I'm very up and down, will have about 3/6 months of success and then 3/6 months of just self-sabotage and self-hatred. Got a **** load of trauma that I have to move on from. Recently had a big night, which involved some illicit substances and it triggered shocking anxiety. Think it's a bit of a wake up call to be honest.
 
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