It's a sh*t situation for a lot of people. You're entitled to feel the way you do. We are communal beings and lockdowns we not healthy for us. I don't think lockdowns can go on indefinitely. It's not financially viable and people just won't put up with it, so I have hope there. I've already noticed during this lockdown, people are still out and about much more than they were in the first one.I went through the motions for weeks, didn't really care what day it was etc. I'm sure plenty in the same boat. Once restrictions eased I at least felt like I had something to look forward to on the weekend being able to see some friends, go to the pub etc. I just longed for a bit of normality and it felt like it.
It's not so much the six weeks that is eating at me now. It's the realisation that Victoria at least (maybe the whole of Australia I don't know) is going to be dealing with this for ages. That has so many consequences for my entire life. I know everyone is in the same boat and people have told me that but it doesn't make it any less sh*t. Literally two days before lockdown I felt like I had my sh*t together after getting a full time job and I could at least spend a few years doing that, determining where I wanted to end up long term etc. I may well have that job again but the way things have gone and continue to go make it more and more unlikely. I feel like I am on the verge of losing it, being in this perpetual cycle of working in a part time job I am sick of and with nothing I can do about any other employment. Combine that with being a young single male and things ******* suck. I feel like I'm having my youth and my life ripped away and there's nothing I can do about it.
I've seen people say others have dealt with worse in history and all that. Sure. But living without a purpose which is what so many of us are doing right now is ******* terrible. I don't care what anyone says.
This feels like it could go on for years and the government will just tell us all to suck up and deal with it. fu** it all
Absolute champion.I’m extremely lucky at the moment but in the hopes it might help...
Last year I suffered depression and burnout. Had been working in a pretty shitty job with a really shitty boss for too long. I quit (almost rage quit but managed to take the night and do it the next day) was very open about why and sought treatment.
In seeing a counselor for the first time in my life (33 years old) and talking about my issues I felt like an absolute moron. I have had a good, good paying job for a long time, I’m healthy, married to beautiful woman. Sitting in the counselors office and talking about my issues I just felt like a total dickhead, all the same stuff people here mention (people are worse off, be thankful for what you have etc etc). My counselor told me not to do this stuff comparatively, whatever you are going through is yours and comparing it relatively doesn’t help you or anyone else.
I don’t know if this helps anyone but honestly it was revelatory for me. Don’t discount or devalue your experience, be it positive or negative, because of others, all peoples suffering (especially mental health related) are relative.
Some people can be so heartless with their comments regarding the way you experience depression. You are so correct it is relative.I don’t know if this helps anyone but honestly it was revelatory for me. Don’t discount or devalue your experience, be it positive or negative, because of others, all peoples suffering (especially mental health related) are relative.
I actually found myself so calm and peaceful during the lockdown in Adelaide earlier this year, that it helped my depression. I basically just exercised, ate well and slept well.Yup just gotta keep yourself busy and luckily this time round the footy and the other sport is on for some entertainment
Like everyone this crap cost me my girlfriend cos the extra time apart made it a mental nightmare to have to deal with and cost me a nice promotion and pay rise which gets me down
However I’m sure there are a lot of people doing it a lot tougher than me so just have to get some exercise in and keep yourself as busy as possible.
But jeez some days can be tough
Yep I agree I’m more of a homebody so in a sense lockdown hasn’t really affected my way of life, however what’s going on has effected aspects of my career progression and social life which does get me downI actually found myself so calm and peaceful during the lockdown in Adelaide earlier this year, that it helped my depression. I basically just exercised, ate well and slept well.
Does punting effect your depression? I say this, as I know my depression is bad, when I can punt, win well and not enjoy the wins. I will say that betting actually helps with my depression in the sense that it gives me an outlet to focus my energies and time into.
Interesting. Curious though... Does punting also help with your depression because it gives you a dopamine kick that perhaps your brain could be lacking normally? Or perhaps a fix for boredom.... Seriously, lockdown or no lockdown I know about the Adelaide rut etcDoes punting effect your depression? I say this, as I know my depression is bad, when I can punt, win well and not enjoy the wins. I will say that betting actually helps with my depression in the sense that it gives me an outlet to focus my energies and time into.
Agreed, especially in situations like this where u potentially have no escape from, it can be an absolute recipe for disaster for some who can’t control it
Jeez! You are very talented.I was diagnosed with depression about 7 or 8 years ago but I’ve certainly battled it for 20 odd years . In the last few years I’ve found that keeping your mind busy by doing a hobby has helped a lot . I find the self talk in my head a huge burden and it plays a massive part in my down days. I took up painting a few years ago and just an hour a night concentrating on something I enjoy has helped immensely. Friends now ask for art from me and I’ve had a few random people get me to do commissioned pieces. Finally feeling like I have something to offer has made me feel so good. So I urge anyone who is struggling to find something you enjoy doing and start doing it. Here’s a few of my recent paintings
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nah good on you for speaking up. Youre welcome and entitled to any time and every one has their pain, and pain is pain, period.It's funny how I can tie up my emotions into a single person. It's a mistake I didn't think I'd make again. Earlier this year I met a great girl and for a few months all feelings of hopelessness, sadness, loneliness were extinguished. Just as things were getting serious, it turns out we can't be together any longer due to religious differences (her call, not mine) I am absolutely shattered. Feel like I've been punched in the gut and all those bad feelings that I haven't felt since last year came rushing back. I jumped onto dating apps to try and get over her but I am nowhere near ready to pursue another woman, I just want to fall asleep and wake up in a month's time a new person.
I know this might be miniscule compared to what others are going through but I just needed to tell someone how poorly I was feeling because tbh I am struggling.
Thanks mate. This post means a lot.nah good on you for speaking up. Youre welcome and entitled to any time and every one has their pain, and pain is pain, period.
I'll post more in depth at a later date but the positives are she saw the good in you which there's plenty of, and you're a very worthy person. That doesn't change with or without her but you must be doing pretty well to be attracting women. Learn to love yourself and build yourself up again and not set your faith and confidence on how others view and perceive you. Take this time out to heal, ground yourself and let yourself feel the pain because pushing it away will only burden and hurt you further, if not now then later on ( even more )
No one takes a break up well. At least 99 percent of people don't. Youll bounce back again, as you did before. It does take time though pal.
Speak soon. You're not the only one, won't be the last and certainly not alone.
Best wishes son.