Health Depression

[nicky]

I found that alot of friends hadn't changed much which made me feel isolated from them because I'd been through so much since i last saw them. They would ask "how was it?" and feeling the way i did, meant i lacked the confidence needed to sum up my experience in clever, tidy anicdotes, which made me feel worse and more withdrawn.

Not only that, I came back during a crap job market so it took ages for me to land on my feet. I was asked to "dumb my resume" down so i could get a job i was over qualified for.

Eventually things turned around, I re-established my life here and am confident i'll settle in melbourne forever.

 

[Plugger35]

I found that alot of friends hadn't changed much which made me feel isolated from them because I'd been through so much since i last saw them. They would ask "how was it?" and feeling the way i did, meant i lacked the confidence needed to sum up my experience in clever, tidy anicdotes, which made me feel worse and more withdrawn.

Not only that, I came back during a crap job market so it took ages for me to land on my feet. I was asked to "dumb my resume" down so i could get a job i was over qualified for.

Eventually things turned around, I re-established my life here and am confident i'll settle in melbourne forever.

Yeah it's probably not so much that your old friends have changed, it's more that you've changed and had so many great experiences travelling and meeting different people. Unless they've travelled and done something similar then it is pretty hard for them to relate to what you have been through.

Most of them couldn't give a shit what you have done or where you've been either. I was the same before I went travelling, people would tell stories about travelling to places but unless you had been there you didn't really want to hear about it.

Had a mate of mine who I've travelled with a bit in the States and has done a couple of big overseas trips and he said pretty much the same thing, that no one cared about what he'd done overseas and he found it hard to relate to people when he came back. I'd imagine it's quite a common experience for most people that return home after a lengthy trip overseas to feel a bit isolated and out of place.

 

[nicky]

I think you're right and I reckon it makes you a more rounded person once you get through it.

 

[Borry]

One of my best mates is in the same boat had a lot of mates here in perth prior to relocating interstate for a graduate position this year. He came back to Perth recently for two weeks.Notified all his mates when he would be in Perth, but when it came to going out none of his friends were interested in inviting him along and when he organised a back in Perth Friday night drinks, nobody turned up except for me and one other friend. He put on a BBQ two days later and it was just me, him and his family. Pretty sad in a lot of ways.

 

[Caesar]

Some people are just deadset useless. I've had a ton of mates like that - best mates in the world whilst you're hanging out, but as soon as you're not in their life on a day-to-day basis they're just not interested in keeping the friendship going. I've lived in 5 different cities, but from the previous four put together I can probably name only 3 or 4 mates I actually keep in touch with (I mean properly keep in touch, not Facebook crap).

Makes you appreciate the good ones though.

 

[cats2rise]

Can you stay there if you want? Do you miss your family?

I start my final year of University in March back in Melbourne, so have to be back then. I cannot afford to take a year off and stay for another year, and am unable to transfer from my course to one over here.

Miss my family a bit, but no, not really. As bad as that sounds, the friends I have made here feel alot closer to me than my ones back home.

 

[cats2rise]

Ironically I want to do an exchange to overcome some of my inhibitions and insecurities and hopefully get a new lease on life.

Can't you stay back after semester ends for a few months before uni back home starts and go from there? Or organise another semester with hopefully an OS-Loan?

My OS-Loan paid for me to come here and live haha If I stay another semester, I only get an extra $800 and I really dont have much money. Sweden is a damn expensive country. $7 for coffee, upwards of $9 for beer

However, I can say that you shouldnt think about going on exchange - just do it. I have had the time of my life, met so many amazing people, made connections (Now I have places to crash when I go traveling again haha) and am having the time of my life. I know I will never regret it and will have made friends for life. To organise my exchange was so simple, and everything has gone amazingly well (apart from centrelink ****ing me around, but hey, whats new?).

 

[Hodgepodge]

I'm always thinking of committing suicide. I've gotten close a couple of times. I don't allow myself to walk near the train tracks anymore.

Sometimes I wonder if I am slow in the head? Am I just mentally ******ed? I wonder what my IQ is? At school I was tested as 139 and the dux of my school cracked the shits at me cos I was a slacker and he was so intent on being intelligent.

But yeah I'm just a failure in every way most of the time.

Depression lol.

It's an ongoing battle, what can I say? I suck.

I think the character 'Gil' from the Simpsons is who I am. At least for the last 12 months.

Having said that I'm glad to be alive cos I was in hospital for 8 months the year before.

 

[smasha]

Intelligence =/= marks at school. From what I've read of your posting in the last few years you're pretty damn intelligent. Of course you have no confidence though... nobody with depression has confidence.

If you genuinely want to get better and you dedicate yourself to the goal, you can get there. It might take years, but as long as you keep trying and don't resign yourself to defeat you'll eventually make that breakthrough. As Henley said, you are the captain of your soul. Good luck.

Too late.

Today,I feel lower than all the lows put together.

There is something wrong with me that can't be fixed.


Suicide thoughts all the time but I'm too gutless to do even that.

Put on the radio and everyone is happy with their high paid jobs makes it worse.

I have no owned house or car.

I only have my drumkit and my 2 cats that save me from misery and going to watch Richmond.

People just think yopu can switch depression off and everything will be alright./

The fuinny thing is the first timer I remember geting down was 1980,the year Richmond won their last flag.

I remember my marks at school droppd off,I never talked to anyone and got bullied as a consequence.

People love seeing others down that haven't been born with the lucky dip.

Everything is not earnt in life.

You have those traits when you are born.

I believe that very strongly.

 

[Reincarnation]

Too late.

Today,I feel lower than all the lows put together.

There is something wrong with me that can't be fixed.


Suicide thoughts all the time but I'm too gutless to do even that.

Put on the radio and everyone is happy with their high paid jobs makes it worse.

I have no owned house or car.

I only have my drumkit and my 2 cats that save me from misery and going to watch Richmond.

People just think yopu can switch depression off and everything will be alright./

The fuinny thing is the first timer I remember geting down was 1980,the year Richmond won their last flag.

I remember my marks at school droppd off,I never talked to anyone and got bullied as a consequence.

People love seeing others down that haven't been born with the lucky dip.

Everything is not earnt in life.

You have those traits when you are born.

I believe that very strongly.

You sound like you don't want to get better or feel better. The first step is actually wanting to feel better/get better.

Go to your GP and get a referral for a psych.

You can't switch depression off however attempt to keep active. If you don't like company go for a walk/rrun/join a gym and do it by yourself. Getting active helps dramatically to not only your day but your week.

Of course some people get born with a silver spoon in their mouth. It is a fact of life. It is useless coming onto an internet forum venting this as everyone knows it. So be it. You can only control yourself and attempt to control your variables. Lamenting about 'lucky dips' and people not 'earning' breaks in life will not get you anywhere.

Yes depression is not the nicest place in the world to be situated in but whinging about the world will not fix up your situation. Worry about yourself before wasting your time on others. Whinging, whining and carrying on about others is not depression. It is an excuse for not sorting yourself out.

Somebody had to say it.

 

[raskolnikov]

I am afraid of depression and 'culture shock' when I move back to Aus in March. Been on exchange in Sweden since september, have a girlfriend here, made so many close friends I really dont want to leave.

I can see myself being a wreck when I get back.

Hate to break it you but it's tough. You may not be too bad as you have only been there for a few months but I moved back to Australia after living in Moscow for over three years. I wanted to chop myself for a year after I came back and I still miss it like crazy. It's like they say about ex-smokers that the cravings never really go away. I don't think my desire to go back to Moscow will ever go away, though sadly I don't think it will eventuate.

 

[gimp!]

Hate to break it you but it's tough. You may not be too bad as you have only been there for a few months but I moved back to Australia after living in Moscow for over three years. I wanted to chop myself for a year after I came back and I still miss it like crazy. It's like they say about ex-smokers that the cravings never really go away. I don't think my desire to go back to Moscow will ever go away, though sadly I don't think it will eventuate.

How about Taiwan? Sounds like you have been in a fair few places.

 

[raskolnikov]

How about Taiwan? Sounds like you have been in a fair few places.

I loved Taiwan too but not as much as Moscow. I have lived in Russia(3+ yrs), Taiwan(2 yrs), the US(2 yrs) and the UK(1 yr).

 

[jacqui9]

Hate to break it you but it's tough. You may not be too bad as you have only been there for a few months but I moved back to Australia after living in Moscow for over three years. I wanted to chop myself for a year after I came back and I still miss it like crazy. It's like they say about ex-smokers that the cravings never really go away. I don't think my desire to go back to Moscow will ever go away, though sadly I don't think it will eventuate.

I felt like this when I returned from the UK. I didn't want to come home. However, instead of getting morose or dwelling on it, I guess I used it as a way of changing my life.

 

[nicky]

That's great you were able to change your life jacqui but being sad and morose isn't ALWAYS a choice.

 

[jacqui9]

That's great you were able to change your life jacqui but being sad and morose isn't ALWAYS a choice.

I understand that Nicky. I have suffered depression for seven years. But I was just sharing my way of dealing with it. It has been a long road to get me to that place where I am strong enough to deal with these issues on my own.

 

[Nardz]

You can't switch depression off however attempt to keep active. If you don't like company go for a walk/rrun/join a gym and do it by yourself. Getting active helps dramatically to not only your day but your week.

couldnt agree more.

getting yourself fit and in shape can make you feel on top of the world..

also setting yourself goals (fitness related or otherwise) can give u a sense of purpose and something to work towards....

 

[HARKER]

I am afraid of depression and 'culture shock' when I move back to Aus in March. Been on exchange in Sweden since september, have a girlfriend here, made so many close friends I really dont want to leave.

I can see myself being a wreck when I get back.

There is a problem with what you are getting at here c2r.

You are already premeditating a cycle before you've even got there.
The other point is that if you know that you may be a wreck and are prepared for it, then you are already miles in front
You see when you know something will happen and can put a tenure to it, then there are no surprises and if worse comes to worst, and at least you know what is going on and why.

So, pick yourself up old boy, get a smile on your face and attack whatever comes your way. No harm done.

 

[cats2rise]

I know, it will be all good.

Just going to really miss the girl though, she is pretty awesome. Its more leaving here that I am worried about.

 

[jacqui9]

Parted ways with my boyfriend tonight and there is every possibility all my work getting better could all go pear shaped.

Throwing myself into my fitness, uni and friends, pets to make sure I am ok.

 

[Hu$tler]

Have Bi-polar (feel comfortable saying that on here now), and it kicks in alot in the Summer (probably because i'm an only child and i'm not around mates as much, don't really get along with mum).

Gonna start trying to go for a ride most days, and wake up and go to sleep at proper times (apparently this helps).

 

[HARKER]

Have Bi-polar (feel comfortable saying that on here now), and it kicks in alot in the Summer (probably because i'm an only child and i'm not around mates as much, don't really get along with mum).

Gonna start trying to go for a ride most days, and wake up and go to sleep at proper times (apparently this helps).

The funny thing about Bi-polar is that some of the people I love the most in my life have this condition.

The condition alone does not exclusively determine the charcater of the individual, but in a starnge way, at least for the people I know, adds a dynamic not seen through "normal" (excuse the expression) people.

Normal. What the hell does that mean anyway?

Good luck BERBA in all that you do, but do also remember you are not alone.
We are all afflicted by something one way or another.

 

[jacqui9]

Gonna start trying to go for a ride most days, and wake up and go to sleep at proper times (apparently this helps).

Routine really helps. I found that making myself get up early for a swim, and trying to get to bed by 11, I felt much better.

 

[krisholio14]

As a depression sufferer all my life, I have been able to stay on top of it in recent years without using any drugs.

It hasn't been easy, but I used something very simple to get my head around that has been fantastic.

Make a concious decision to be happy now. Not when you have hotter partner, a bigger house, a more satisfying or higher paying career, or a faster car, but right now.

With depression, if you can't be happy without those things, you won't be happy with them. Likelyhood is with depression running rampant you'll never get them anyway.

So yeah, teach yourself to be happy now, right where you are (and who you are). It's not easy to do, but it's not complicated, and if you keep it at the forefront of your mind every time you start slipping, it becomes easier to keep the demons at bay.

It also helps ease some of the self loathing too.

 

[smasha]

You sound like you don't want to get better or feel better. The first step is actually wanting to feel better/get better.

Go to your GP and get a referral for a psych.

You can't switch depression off however attempt to keep active. If you don't like company go for a walk/rrun/join a gym and do it by yourself. Getting active helps dramatically to not only your day but your week.

Of course some people get born with a silver spoon in their mouth. It is a fact of life. It is useless coming onto an internet forum venting this as everyone knows it. So be it. You can only control yourself and attempt to control your variables. Lamenting about 'lucky dips' and people not 'earning' breaks in life will not get you anywhere.

Yes depression is not the nicest place in the world to be situated in but whinging about the world will not fix up your situation. Worry about yourself before wasting your time on others. Whinging, whining and carrying on about others is not depression. It is an excuse for not sorting yourself out.

Somebody had to say it.

Shakes head at this bloke.

What a joke post.

GFY.