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I can’t say any of my years were shit tbh!

I’m 50 this year!

Let’s have it!! ❤️
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Shell said:
Nah I'd say 20s better.

20- went OS twice, found a steady career, start of LTR, 2 premierships
30- went OS once, one premiership, broke up LTR, job was happy enough
40s- cancelled 40th due to COVID, severe depression, left job, COVID, saw one premiership but wasn't there and didnt enjoy it whatsoever, lost all friends, they've all disappeared.
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20s unemployment and workplace bullying and issues
30s slept with a lot of women.
Fulfilled life dreams
White water rafted in nz
Went to Europe
Travelled to many beaches
Went to 9 countries
Established a career
And at 40 = yea a premiership
 

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Catching up:
-I genuinely envy those naive people who couldn’t imagine /empathise with why Troy (Vale :( ) took his own life, but I don’t blame them. I just wish they knew how lucky they were
-I’ve met people from bigfooty and similarly have always had good experiences. A few people who were originally bigfooty friends are friends (without the bigfooty adjective) and some of the most important people in my life as far as regular interaction goes

All the best with your BF companion DemurePrincess . Without even knowing who they are I’ll be quietly shipping you both. My honest opinion is that there are some great people here and if I was single and looking I would absolutely have fallen into a full blown relationship long ago.
 
Run n Spread said:
I do not understand selwood or the life he lived but completely understand how he hit the skids (and media did report he took his life). Life is no longer easy and to spite what's said and to spite best efforts support is weak. There is no awareness or will to solve the problems
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THIS is so true. Accessing any mental health help in this country is horrifically hard. ESPECIALLY if you're in the middle of any sort of bad episode. I think anyone who suffers from mental health challenges knows that Beyond Blue's catch phrase "you're not alone" is a bit of a sick joke. Try accessing those services when you're feeling at your most alone and you'll find that you're closer to alone than you thought you were before! I'm sure they work very hard and I don't mean to cast any shadows but anyone with experience with trying to access help in a timely (and affordable!) way knows just how lacking our current health care is. This place is a great resource and a far better help in feeling like you're not alone.
 
Soldier Of Misfortune said:
THIS is so true. Accessing any mental health help in this country is horrifically hard. ESPECIALLY if you're in the middle of any sort of bad episode. I think anyone who suffers from mental health challenges knows that Beyond Blue's catch phrase "you're not alone" is a bit of a sick joke. Try accessing those services when you're feeling at your most alone and you'll find that you're closer to alone than you thought you were before! I'm sure they work very hard and I don't mean to cast any shadows but anyone with experience with trying to access help in a timely (and affordable!) way knows just how lacking our current health care is. This place is a great resource and a far better help in feeling like you're not alone.
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It’s like any ‘help’ organisation!

When I went through an horrific DV situation… at the time of my greatest need - nobody was there!

Luckily the help did arrive but it was already too late. The damage was already done!

Unfortunately there are so many people these days out there that need help with DV, mental health, suicidal tendencies, financial support that the institutions are over loaded, inundated and struggling to help those that really need the help first. And often those who need it the most fall through the cracks.

All I can say is never give up. Yell louder! Never stop trying to get help that you need bc the process is long, sometimes often embarrassing and taxing but there are people out there that genuinely care if you’re here or not.

Never give up I say! Life is a gift and sometimes its a shitty gift but when you find that ‘thing’ that makes you happy whether it be a partner, a job that you like… whatever but yeah back to the the help stuff…. If you need help now!

Scream bloody murder until you are heard bc living with mental health is pretty shitty so if a small bit of light can be given…. Find it! ❤️❤️❤️
 
DemurePrincess said:
All I can say is never give up. Yell louder! Never stop trying to get help that you need bc the process is long, sometimes often embarrassing and taxing but there are people out there that genuinely care if you’re here or not.
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Absolutely - there is some fantastic help out there, I've had some great phoenix moments after finding good help. I guess the positive side is it's probably much easier than it was and so hopefully it's only going to increase in getting easier to access professional help. It's slow, but society is increasingly recognising this sort of stuff.
 
Soldier Of Misfortune said:
Absolutely - there is some fantastic help out there, I've had some great phoenix moments after finding good help. I guess the positive side is it's probably much easier than it was and so hopefully it's only going to increase in getting easier to access professional help. It's slow, but society is increasingly recognising this sort of stuff.
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Yep. Agreed. But every second person these days is suffering from mental illness. It’s the society we live in. In my opinion it’s not fast enough.

People take their lives everyday and those same people could of been saved if the resources were more readily available
I’m not sure what it needs to be done to speed up the process bc clearly the statistics aren’t doing it!

My friend buried their 19 yo daughter last week! They didnt even know she was suffering from mental illness and now they have that burden on their hearts for the rest of their lives.

But also, you need to speak up. If you are suffering! Don’t be silent bc it’s okay to not be okay and I think this is what society needs to drill into our elderly and our youth! But it’s the absolute opposite I think!

It’s okay to be vulnerable and ask for help! It’s probs be the bravest thing someone could do bc isn’t living worth it!

I definitely think so!
 
Soldier Of Misfortune said:
THIS is so true. Accessing any mental health help in this country is horrifically hard. ESPECIALLY if you're in the middle of any sort of bad episode.
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This was actually not the case in my situation. And tbh- i wasnt all that bad. So I really feel for the ones during a real crisis.


I saw a psychiatrist within.. a day or two?

And I was pretty happy with him, I saw him for a year. It was the psychologists who were a bunch of twits who I just did not gel with, at all.
 

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Shell said:
Talking to professionals just isnt for me i dont think. Same deal with the counsellor I saw for a bit. Just not for me- she was lovely tho.
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Now! This is exactly me! Why talk to a stranger! I’ve always said no to counselling bc it’s not for me! If I can’t fix my own shit… which I can so this convo kinda stops here.

But others can’t! And that’s totally okay. And for those peeps I want them to have access to as much help as possible

Unfortunately I crucify myself for being weak so I avoid things that trigger my shit bc I’m kinda mean to me so I avoid that nastiness but it works for me! May not for others
 
Shell said:
I've met a shitload of ppl off BF.

Never had one bad experience, not one.
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Yeah ive probably met 100 or so off BF over the years, almost all of them have been legends in real life and havent had a bad experience either
 
Macca19 said:
Yeah ive probably met 100 or so off BF over the years, almost all of them have been legends in real life and havent had a bad experience either
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Heyyyyy that’s cool 😎
 
Shell said:
The loneliness gets me. I live alone and have literally lost all my friends- every single one of them have either ghosted me or we've just fallen out of touch naturally.

Keep going over and over in my head what I did.. but **** em. I'm a good person and was a good friend. Very good friend actually.
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In my mid 20s i moved to the country, 2 1-2 hours from adelaide. Only a few friends made the trip to visit in the 10 years i was out there. They remain my closest friends. The main group whoch were all my high school buddies, including two of my groomsmen never made the effort. I dont talk to them any more
 

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Macca19 said:
In my mid 20s i moved to the country, 2 1-2 hours from adelaide. Only a few friends made the trip to visit in the 10 years i was out there. They remain my closest friends. The main group whoch were all my high school buddies, including two of my groomsmen never made the effort. I dont talk to them any more
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My mate Eliza lived a 15 minute drive from me, texted her for a coffee I got "I'm so busy for the next few months sorry!"

Like go **** yourself. Havent heard from her since. That was 2-3 years ago
 

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