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DemurePrincess said:
Hope you are doing okay now mate.

Sorry to hear all this
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Yeah mate - I'm okay.

Just need to keep chugging along and not get fixated on incidents like this. It's all part of my journey and I just accept that it will happen from time to time - it's been almost 30 years since I was first involved in this kind of thing, so I have some runs on the board about how to manage it.

But the first time is very very scary and I wouldn't wish it on anybody.
 
SeaOfFire said:
Yeah mate - I'm okay.

Just need to keep chugging along and not get fixated on incidents like this. It's all part of my journey and I just accept that it will happen from time to time - it's been almost 30 years since I was first involved in this kind of thing, so I have some runs on the board about how to manage it.

But the first time is very very scary and I wouldn't wish it on anybody.
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I hope they treated you with respect though. That’s all
 
I might add, for those who are following the politics threads on █████....I met 2 gay US Navy servicemen in a bar at about 7PM and had a fabulous time chatting with them - they are in an exclusive relationship. Big, butch mid-west men in their 30's, been serving since leaving high school. They really helped keep my mind off my shit and made a real effort to ease my suffering. It was great to share with them my disdain for DJT and they reassured me that amongst the service personnel he is hated with a rare passion.
 
One of the things I’ve learnt…

I can hold the shit at bay for a while. It’s not easy but it’s doable. If anyone has ever read the Chronicles of Thomas Covenant, you might recall him doing VSE - it’s like that. Just kinda monitoring thoughts and being aware of surrounds, both physical and emotional.

But when I need to step up, to explain, to communicate clearly about me, it just goes to hell. Stop me in the street and say “hey, how ya doing?” is not only difficult to answer, it will lead me to a breakdown. Internally, it feels like a logic loop that has no end.

So, if you feel you seize up with just that kind of random yet regular contact point, start chatting to people. It’s amazing how many paths to healing will open up. And healing isn’t a universal metric - it is like always, very relative 🙏

Peace.
 

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PoppedCorn said:
im in a tough spot but after reading the last three pages i consider myself fortunate

stay strong everyone
remember to talk
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Thanks mate. That's why I enjoy going to work, its's the one opportunity where I get for the most part to be treated like a human. I guess places like this are great too on need. Unfortunately social media makes it far too easy to dehumanize people as a series of 1s and zeroes.
 
JHF1870 said:
Thanks mate. That's why I enjoy going to work, its's the one opportunity where I get for the most part to be treated like a human. I guess places like this are great too on need. Unfortunately social media makes it far too easy to dehumanize people as a series of 1s and zeroes.
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Social media is so toxic, best thing I did was remove myself from going onto facebook all the time. I’ve learnt to just scroll on instead of commenting on bait/troll posts now.
 
MP_ said:
Social media is so toxic, best thing I did was remove myself from going onto facebook all the time. I’ve learnt to just scroll on instead of commenting on bait/troll posts now.
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Bigfooty can be just as bad at times
 
MP_ said:
Social media is so toxic, best thing I did was remove myself from going onto facebook all the time. I’ve learnt to just scroll on instead of commenting on bait/troll posts now.
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I haven't removed myself from Facebook but I have minimised my usage. I also reduced my friends from over 300 to 80. Just people I really consider friends now. I got tired of people who would add you as a friend to boost their friend count then next time they see you completely ignore you.

There was one "friend" I had on there that would like or even love every post I made but if I ever saw her IRL she wouldn't acknowledge me and almost give me a look of disdain. WTF is that all about?
 
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I have 36 on mine atm. A mix of workmates, handful of high school friends, Geelong mates and a few overseas I PM.

I honestly value every single one of my FB friends and I feel better for it.

Reminds me 4th of July is coming up, I'll msg my American mates soon..
 
I can’t deal with the over sharers! Every waking thought is posted. Somethings are just not meant to be shared with everyone on your friends list I don’t think

I just scroll now. Never post.
 
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Shell said:
Another thing I did was deleted 95% of my posts

My page only has a handful of photos/posts, the last one was 10 years ago I think
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I pretty much only post my artwork these days
 

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I only post major life events or achievements. Not photos of my dinner or whatever. The worst kind of posts on Facebook are the ones that say "If you are my true friend I know you'll share this". Gaslighting much?
 

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Run n Spread said:
Why?
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Why. Always ask why. It’s the one question to which there will always be an answer.

The problem with why is due to that very property though. Because it spirals, endlessly, and that becomes exhausting. Why after unanswerable why is a deafening internal cacophony.

So once you have an answer, as per the above poster, focus for a time on the value of that answer, since you now have the why answered. The how and where and who options now can form in consideration and possible response to the why answer.

Asking why is good. However, don’t let it become the only answer you seek.
 

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