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Flash of power said:
Is there actually a law preventing that? I thought it was only by a court order to that affect that it was not allowed. If she has taken them without permission maybe you can apply to the family court to have her return them?
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needs the written permission of the other party. if that hasn't been granted, then i can apply to the court and demand them back

i'm not doing that because i don't want to disrupt their schooling etc. they're in a good place at the moment mentally and emotionally, and i don't want to wreck that for my own selfish reasons - if even their mother used her selfish reasons to do the same
 
Dips said:
i don't want to wreck that for my own selfish reasons - if even their mother used her selfish reasons to do the same
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As an outsider looking in, this seems to be where divorce and family court stuff goes really sour.

You do X, so I do Y to get back at you, then you do Z... and so on and so forth.
 
Scotland said:
As an outsider looking in, this seems to be where divorce and family court stuff goes really sour.

You do X, so I do Y to get back at you, then you do Z... and so on and so forth.
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its how lawyers can afford their jaguars
 
Off The Couch said:
At the church door my dad turned to me and said "are you sure, it's not too late to change your mind"

Obviously he felt it wasn't going to go the distance but tbh I just don't know whether I would of had the courage to change my mind at that point - kudos to those who do
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The night before my brothers wedding I said the same thing, I was cashed up at the time and suggested that we spend some time in Bali, his response was it's too late now.
He has been unhappily married now for 10 years and he has admitted that we should have gone to Bali. We now use it as a in joke whenever my sister in law is giving us the shits.
 

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Dips said:
thats not the point i was trying to make

the law states that the mother or father of a seperated family cannot move states unless there is a written agreement, which there is not in this case

i want to have my kids every day. i don't get that choice, all i get is the bill and a campaigner of an ex who doesn't spend the child support on the kids
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Didn't you move states too?
 
Bostonian said:
The moral of the story is sign a pre-nup and bury gold in a place they will never find it.
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Are Pre Nups enforceable in Australia thou?

Don't know about divorce. From observations it seems the 50% figure is about right. Hell of a gamble to take. But defacto law after 2 years is the equivalent of marriage anyway so minus the court proceedings you'd still have a lot of the same issues.
 
Catfish Alley said:
So not really a big gamble unless you're happy just having short-term relationships throughout your life.
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What I meant was ever since No Fault Divorce (which I agree with btw) and co habitation laws once you buy a house/have kids with someone/live together 2 years you are essentially married under the law. That means all your finances, assets etc are joined.

But that person can also leave you at any time and you are up for half. Hell of a risk.

But I do take your point about STRs. For the vast majority it is one of the risks that can't be avoided. Just choose wisely. (I have seen a few marriages where it was definitely 1 side pushing it more and the other party just went along).
 
The Dice Man said:
Do 'In-Laws' ever become a cause for divorce? Been married 3 years and its good, but nightly, every ******* night The wife's mum calls and they sit on the phone for a ******* hour or more. Sometimes it's good for me, I can just go do what I want, but sometimes it's an abhorrent interruption that pisses me off. Her mum is a great person, apart from constanty sucking air through her teeth and taking millions of photos of every meal, or everything we ever do together. Im really trying to lay off the facebook crap and live lie in the minute but **** me who needs another photo of another meal, who gives a shit.
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Absolutely yes they do
****ing campaigners of things are in laws
 

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Trouble with my ex is her family lived over the back fence with a hole in said fence to go to and fro as they pleased
Sometimes it felt like we were all under the same roof
No boundaries at all
And as far as any decisions well it was them first me last
Then whenever we did go somewhere on a weekend with the kids, say down the beach lo and behold look who's in the rear view mirror
 
Glacier said:
Trouble with my ex is her family lived over the back fence with a hole in said fence to go to and fro as they pleased
Sometimes it felt like we were all under the same roof
No boundaries at all
And as far as any decisions well it was them first me last
Then whenever we did go somewhere on a weekend with the kids, say down the beach lo and behold look who's in the rear view mirror
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had the same sort of inlaws

a few xmas's ago we decided to stay in Melbourne for xmas instead of going to Adelaide. they decided to come to melbourne to celebrate xmas with us - for 2 weeks
 
Dips said:
had the same sort of inlaws

a few xmas's ago we decided to stay in Melbourne for xmas instead of going to Adelaide. they decided to come to melbourne to celebrate xmas with us - for 2 weeks
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2 WEEKS !! Its only MElbourne I would have thought two days, three at a push would be more than enough. Did they visit because you have kids? IF so next time make the most of it and say if they are coming for that long you might as well make the most of it and head to Bali for a week kid free!
 

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Flash of power said:
2 WEEKS !! Its only MElbourne I would have thought two days, three at a push would be more than enough. Did they visit because you have kids? IF so next time make the most of it and say if they are coming for that long you might as well make the most of it and head to Bali for a week kid free!
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getting a divorce is not too bad you do your dough you move on and get on with your life, however.... getting a divorce with children involved is terrible,get put through the wringer with child support,ex uses kids as an asset,have a new guy spend more time with your kids than you do etc
 
Divorce is pretty ****ed. Marriage sounds like hard work tbh - I reckon people can go in to it too quickly. Even a 5 year relationship is a pretty small chunk of time in the scheme of the rest of your life.
 
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Glacier said:
Trouble with my ex is her family lived over the back fence with a hole in said fence to go to and fro as they pleased
Sometimes it felt like we were all under the same roof
No boundaries at all
And as far as any decisions well it was them first me last
Then whenever we did go somewhere on a weekend with the kids, say down the beach lo and behold look who's in the rear view mirror
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That would completely suck!
 
I had a friend who got divorced recently. She was married with one child, who is autistic, 15 years old. Ex was a sparkie, on pretty good money. They lived in Reservoir, he got the house. He wanted to fight to take part of an investment property that was purchased for their son from funds that were left to her from her deceased grandmother. She got to keep it in trust for her son but it cost her $127K in legal fees to fight him.
 
Cruyff14 said:
I had a friend who got divorced recently. She was married with one child, who is autistic, 15 years old. Ex was a sparkie, on pretty good money. They lived in Reservoir, he got the house. He wanted to fight to take part of an investment property that was purchased for their son from funds that were left to her from her deceased grandmother. She got to keep it in trust for her son but it cost her $127K in legal fees to fight him.
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See this is absolute crap. It should have been thrown out of court. The ex sounds like a complete arse
 

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