Family & Relationships Feelings for two people at once.

[the_interloper]

I have something similar in my affection for Jane Bunn.

 

[mouncey2franklin]

Your mate is a shit bloke.

What does this even mean?

As for OP, how confident are you that if your gf was in the same position, she would remain loyal?

 

[ioppolo]

What does this even mean?

As for OP, how confident are you that if your gf was in the same position, she would remain loyal?

90% confident.

 

[mouncey2franklin]

90% confident.

That 10% doubt comes from somewhere. A red flag which you have either picked up on consciously or subconsciously.

Either way, a part of you knows that if Mr Good Looking came along and swept her off her feet, you would be forgotten pretty quickly.

No kids? Well then you are a free man.

Does your gf treat you like she is lucky to be with you? Does she support your ideas, does she speak nothing but good words about you in front of others?

Or is she like a typical western girl today: disrespect in front of others, criticising you for your ideas, making excuses to not be intimate?

If the former, I say ride your luck and stay with her. There aren't as many good girls out there as you think.

If the latter, I say begin making your exit plan (if you haven't already).

P.S. The new girl is 90% likely to lose interest in you the moment you separate from the old girl. Don't believe me? Try it.

 

[ioppolo]

That 10% doubt comes from somewhere. A red flag which you have either picked up on consciously or subconsciously.

Either way, a part of you knows that if Mr Good Looking came along and swept her off her feet, you would be forgotten pretty quickly.

No kids? Well then you are a free man.

Does your gf treat you like she is lucky to be with you? Does she support your ideas, does she speak nothing but good words about you in front of others?

Or is she like a typical western girl today: disrespect in front of others, criticising you for your ideas, making excuses to not be intimate?

If the former, I say ride your luck and stay with her. There aren't as many good girls out there as you think.

If the latter, I say begin making your exit plan (if you haven't already).

P.S. The new girl is 90% likely to lose interest in you the moment you separate from the old girl. Don't believe me? Try it.

I believe your last sentence entirely. As soon as I began dating my current gf I suddenly had interest from other girls at clubs etc. They have a sixth sense with that shit.

As for your earlier statement, she's more the former than she is the latter.

 

[Andre]

I believe your last sentence entirely. As soon as I began dating my current gf I suddenly had interest from other girls at clubs etc. They have a sixth sense with that shit.

As for your earlier statement, she's more the former than she is the latter.

Seinfeld covered this well. A guy with a GF, fiance or wife has been vetted by someone of their gender as relationship material. With the hierarchy as married, engaged, then length of relationship, as to how relationship worthy you are. Of course as George noted, it's a hierarchy only destined to drive men nuts, as if you are a dick and look to cheat, you immediately invalidate that you're relationship material with them. So unless you go the George route of a pretend fiance (or wife) who passed away, it's 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'.

 

[Smoooothy]

As for your earlier statement, she's more the former than she is the latter.

trust me, getting stuck with the latter is awful. there aren't many that exist as the former and the ones who are have bene locked down already

 

[Harvey Manfrenjensenden]

Jesus, I got a girls number at a party on the weekend and we're going for a date. I'm still unsure who I got in this situation. Please send help. Should I tell her that I'm VC of a fantasy football team and captain of a fantasy cricket team or do I keep that secret?

Dear Sarah,

I'm getting conflicting messages.

Regards.

The Jesus

 

[Harvey Manfrenjensenden]

Dear Jesus,

I apologise for whatever I said in my message. How do I wow a girl who likes me?

Regards, not Sarah

Dear Sarah,

I haven't wowed a girl since the 90's

What I can tell you is that nothing I did then will work now, and most of the stuff that works now I don't understand.

Hope that helps.

The Jesus

 

[craigos]

I have something similar in my affection for Jane Bunn.

Try and get on the St Kilda list and you'll be fine