Friend Etiquette

[DrVanNostrand]

Is this your friend?

 

[JuddsABlue]

Drive him and when hes getting out, ask him for $65 in petrol money

Record the awkwardness and return to this thread

 

[The Passenger]

I once got a lift home from some random chick when drunk in town. Her friends (a couple) were in the back seat and I got shotgun, I had been chatting with her earlier on in the night and she sorta spotted me hanging around after I was ditched by all my mates so started chatting again and mentioned I was stuck and she offered a lift home.

that old chestnut.... "my friends have bailed, and i'm stuck with you for the night".... we've all pulled that one a few times. it has a fairly low success rate but sometimes you gotta get desperate.

 

[Gough]

Must of my friends consider me a work shy slacker*, so consequently I'm rarely asked to move more than a sofa.


*Not totally true

 

[Hard_to_Beat]

If you can do it, you do it.

If you can't, you can't.

 

[kickazz]

If you can do it, you do it.

If you can't, you can't.

That about sums it up.
As the social animals we are life is about helping each other out here and there. Enjoy the fact that you are doing someone a favour rather than worry about minor disruptions to your routine.

 

[Cruyff14]

If you're making a thread on an internet forum asking whether you should do it or not, it already answers your question.

And if he is not a close friend, no. If it was someone in your close friendship circle who you're good mates with then it would be okay. Your situation however is a no brainer.

 

[Black Diamond]

You're being way to hard him, checkraiseulite.

Do you two ordinarily get on ok? He could well just be trying to build something and thinks you're an good guy. If he is a decent bloke I really can't see how it's a problem to drop him off, and you won't miss out on much by staying in that Thursday night.

 

[Catsmaninamerica]

Just had a look at the parking costs at Avalon and found out it's only ~$65 to leave your car there for 4 days.

He can take his own car and leave it there.

got money you're gen y. Young people today have no concept of anyone but themselves and certainly don't know how to be a true mate.

 

[Cruyff14]

I fail to see how you can be a true mate to a mere acquaintance.

 

[checkraiseulite]

got money you're gen y. Young people today have no concept of anyone but themselves and certainly don't know how to be a true mate.

the irony of this post is quite amusing.

i think it's more selfish to ask someone to take a close to 2hr round trip to save you $65.

i'm not his dad or his gf.

 

[checkraiseulite]

also i like him and his gf and think they're generally pretty good people.

but i just cbf doing this. hell, i'd rather give him $65 of my own money than do this at the minute. i'm not a morning person at all.

however i think if he wants a lift he should ask his family/closer friends than me.

 

[Jordie_tackles]

also i like him and his gf and think they're generally pretty good people.

but i just cbf doing this. hell, i'd rather give him $65 of my own money than do this at the minute. i'm not a morning person at all.

however i think if he wants a lift he should ask his family/closer friends than me.

How long will it take you? round trip?


If he was a mate it shouldnt be an issue imo.....

 

[Papa Juggs]

Practising social exclusion is difficult but can reap rewards.

Successful douchebag is successful, doesn't mean anybody likes him.

Double edged sword, do you want to be liked or do you want to look out for #1?

 

[checkraiseulite]

40 mins each way probably. longer depending on traffic. typically he's booked an early flight to save $15-20.

so if one of your mates who you wouldn't consider in your 5-10 'best mates' rang you up and asked you to drive him and his gf from geelong to tullamarine leaving at 6:30am friday morning you'd snap accept?

also i can't assume he'd definitely do the same for me.

edit: it will take me 40 minutes there, at least 80 minutes on the return as it'll be coming into peak hour city-bound traffic.

 

[Cruyff14]

I wouldn't even ask a close mate for this. This is what parents are for.

 

[woopedazz]

I wouldn't even ask a close mate for this. This is what parents are for.

What if his parents touched him when he was little and he hasn't spoken to them since and the mere suggestion of asking them would make him very depressed and it would be bad?

 

[Papa Juggs]

Seems like the kind of person that would ask everybody.

As I said "social exclusion". Some people are best avoided just gotta know which ones.

 

[Ed_Gein]

What goes around often comes around.

Give him a lift and you never know, you may want a favour in the future.

That's the way i see it. 90% of the time i would be happy to drive someone to the airport like in the OP. And generally i don't mind doing favours for someone in particular as long as they're not taking the piss, asking all the time and they're happy to return the favour when i need something.

 

[courtjester]

Seems like the kind of person that would ask everybody.

As I said "social exclusion". Some people are best avoided just gotta know which ones.

Practising social exclusion is difficult but can reap rewards.

Successful douchebag is successful, doesn't mean anybody likes him.

Double edged sword, do you want to be liked or do you want to look out for #1?

Keep looking out for #1. One day, you'll need a lift to the airport, or (for something more serious) you'll need a lift to get chemo, or a friend to help you out with something when you're in desperate need. You'll look around, and you'll only see #1. Hope that works out ok for you.

FFS, give the bloke a lift to the airport. Consider it a compliment that he considers you to be a good enough bloke that he'd bother to ask you to do this.

Treat other people the way you'd like to be treated.

 

[MrNatural]

I don't mind doing favors for mates if there's been a history of them doing things for me or a good change they will replicate.
Although in my younger days i was a bit of a push over.
I remember when i first got my license at school, i was one of the first, so i used up a fair bit.
The main issue was, i was earning like $70 a week, which barely covered my fuel for a week, and i had mates who expected me to drive them home for nothing.
Whenever I'd ask for petrol money, i'd be labelled a tightarse, however, those who did call me a tight arse never drove me anywhere, didn't had to earn their own money, and when they got their licenses, they never drove me around.
I recently had a mate who asked me to help him move house. Turned out to be a whole Saturday devoted to helping him move, that's ok. He shouted me a feed that night and gave me $50 for my time, so that was nice. Hopefully when i need to move, i can employ him for the day.
As for the OP, I'd be happy to drive a mate to the airport, so long as he maybe chucked in a few bucks, or atleast offered something, and then when you need a lift to the airport, he doesn't dodge it.

 

[Poseidon]

Sounds like you 2 were close mates until he asked for a favour, then you decided to bump him down to 'acquaintance'

 

[Iason]

so if one of your mates who you wouldn't consider in your 5-10 'best mates' rang you up and asked you to drive him and his gf from geelong to tullamarine leaving at 6:30am friday morning you'd snap accept?

also i can't assume he'd definitely do the same for me.

--So either he considers you to be in his good friend circle, or everyone else is absolutely swamped and he has no other choice but to ask you. This could elevate your friendship.
--If you do this for him, he most definitely would. If he wouldn't, then you found out the true character of a person for only 80 minutes of your time. Hardly a huge price to pay.

Either way I'd rather have a fully physical relationship with an electrical outlet than be friends with you.

 

[JDC!]

I told him I'd let him know tomorrow if I can do it,

May have shot yourself in the foot with this comment. I reckon if you pulled out now, it'd look obvious that you were looking for an excuse not to take him. Definitely understand your position but all things considered there'd be more positives to taking him to the airport than saying you can't.

 

[Papa Juggs]

Keep looking out for #1. One day, you'll need a lift to the airport, or (for something more serious) you'll need a lift to get chemo, or a friend to help you out with something when you're in desperate need. You'll look around, and you'll only see #1. Hope that works out ok for you.

FFS, give the bloke a lift to the airport. Consider it a compliment that he considers you to be a good enough bloke that he'd bother to ask you to do this.

Treat other people the way you'd like to be treated.

That's a pretty heavily loaded karma bus for a dude that wouldn't drive somebody 90 minutes early on a weekday morning.