Friendship and it's worth.......

[BrisGirl]

The tragedy that Wayne Carey and Anthony Stevens will come to realise, it that they have lost that easy going, comfortable thing called friendship.

When they are old men, and they think back on their glory days, all they will find is an open wound where a good memory should be.

Really good friends are really hard to find and it is something you find out later on in life, you can not replace them.

 

[Player]

'Make new friends,
But keep the old,
One is silver,
And the other gold.'

 

[Bee]

Really good friends, really true friends are something you should hang on to. True friends stick by you no matter what. They know all about you, your good points and your bad points and they still accept you and love you for what you are.
They never judge you, they never lie to you or cheat you. They are just always there when you need them, you can rely on them and trust them. But when something happens like the Carey, Stevens thing you lose that trust. You can heal the rift but once you lose someone's trust you lose everything. Trust is important in any relationship, without it the relationship or friendship is worthless.
Carey and Stevens may mend their differences, but they will never again have the same close, comfortable friendship.

 

[lioness]

Originally posted by Bee
Really good friends, really true friends are something you should hang on to. True friends stick by you no matter what. They know all about you, your good points and your bad points and they still accept you and love you for what you are.
They never judge you, they never lie to you or cheat you. They are just always there when you need them, you can rely on them and trust them. But when something happens like the Carey, Stevens thing you lose that trust. You can heal the rift but once you lose someone's trust you lose everything. Trust is important in any relationship, without it the relationship or friendship is worthless.
Carey and Stevens may mend their differences, but they will never again have the same close, comfortable friendship.

That is such a great post Bee, so very true.

Every single person that comes into your life, whether they stay or not, leaves their mark, and most of the time they teach you something about yourself. The ones that accept you exactly as you are, those are the best friends of all.

But once the trust is gone, the friendship, if it survives, is forever wrecked, it can't go back to the way it was, no matter how much you wish it could. But sometimes it helps you realise just how important that friend was to you.

 

[mandy]

Originally posted by Bee
Really good friends, really true friends are something you should hang on to. True friends stick by you no matter what. They know all about you, your good points and your bad points and they still accept you and love you for what you are.
They never judge you, they never lie to you or cheat you. They are just always there when you need them, you can rely on them and trust them. But when something happens like the Carey, Stevens thing you lose that trust. You can heal the rift but once you lose someone's trust you lose everything. Trust is important in any relationship, without it the relationship or friendship is worthless.
Carey and Stevens may mend their differences, but they will never again have the same close, comfortable friendship.

OMG! Kodak moment #2. And in 2 days as well!

Beautifully said Bee.

 

[DEES RULE!]

I think this sums it up beautifully

In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one.

In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary halls.

In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully.

In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus.

In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck do-si-do-ing with Nasty Nick or Smelly Susan.

In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.

In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to Nick or Susan, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.

In seventh grade your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework from the night before that you had.

In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.

In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who would go to a party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.

In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.

In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom.

In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college/university, assured you that you would get into that college/university, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go...

At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.

The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now that you and Nick or you and Susan were back together, you could make it through anything, helped you pack up for university and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind, and finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to give you reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years, and most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.

Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly loves you!

 

[BrisGirl]

Beautifully written, Dees Rule!

If you have such a friendship, then you are enriched.

 

[The Hitman]

Quote from one of the year 12 texts we have studied, The Divine Wind.

"Friendship is a slippery notion. We lose friends as we change and our friends don't, or as we form other alliances, or as we betray our friends or are ourselves betrayed. We often make friend for the weakest of reasons - proximity, for example, or shared experience, or laziness or need - but what will make them endure as friends? Their similarity to us? The utter difference from us?"

My own thoughts...

Friendship is fickle concept, where little things can tear you apart but somehow through big things you can stay together. You lose and gain friends, and realizing who your true and trustworthy friends are is perhaps one of lifes greatest challenges. It all comes down to trust - if that trust is abused, you have no friendship - you just have yourself a liability.

The Hitman

 

[DEES RULE!]

Originally posted by BrisGirl
Beautifully written, Dees Rule!

If you have such a friendship, then you are enriched.

Yeah but the sad thing is not many people do, and some find it and let it go without realising what they have, or they waste it.

 

[Fat Red]

Originally posted by DEES RULE!


Yeah but the sad thing is not many people do, and some find it and let it go without realising what they have, or they waste it.

Yeah. From my experience, I'm someone who has lots of friends, but most of them come and go and I don't have any friends left from school or anything like that. I wish I did.

 

[BrisGirl]

I thought I had one, but I reaslised too late that it was one sided and the damage was done.

If you could count on one hand, people you can trust and can call 'true' friends, at the end of the day, that is all that you can ask for.

My thoughts on a true friend:- do not abuse that persons good and giving nature.

 

[kristin5]

With the horrible year I had last year, I was able to find out who my real friends are, and have been happy to discover that I have a lot of "true friends" who have taken the time to listen while I whinge, given me a shoulder to cry on (and sometimes cry with me!) and taken time out of their own lives to spend time with me. One of these friends is a "lurker" on this board - thanks Meliss!!!

Of course this type of friendship works both ways and I think I too offer support to my friends in their time of need. One of the most difficult decisions I had to make was when I discovered a good friend's boyfriend was cheating on her and had been for 8 months - should I tell? Well, I did, and she was very thankful that I did. They had a really rough time of it for a while (and I felt pretty awful too), but they appear to have worked through it and are still together and have recently bought a house together.

Friendship means being a friend through the hard times as well as the happy times.

 

[Mooster7]

I think I know my problem. I LIKED the black crayon, and so missed the friendship opportunity to give it up for one of the lamer, weaker colors. This lost me that first critical step along friendship road.

In the first grade, a guy tried to hold my hand enroute to the bathroom. I kicked his ass.

Our second grade class bully was run over by a car. He didn't look both ways while crossing the street which was ironic, I heard his eyeballs popped out of his head, and were then looking both ways for him...at the same time.

I didn't eat lunch in the third grade. Instead, I stayed in the class room and drew pictures with my black crayon.

Never had a problem getting the square dancing partner I wanted. I damned sure wasn't going to give her up to some whiner who was stuck with an ugly.

I walked home from school in the 5th grade. Me and my black crayon.

In the sixth grade, susan was my dance partner. Nick is the guy I bashed for trying to hold my hand on the way to the pisser.

In the seventh grade I was the undisputed master of writing Social Studies papers. They were written.....in black.

In the eighth grade, old baseball were for launching through the windows of the old witch who lived the next lot over. Stuffed animals are ridiculous sentimental mathoms. Not like a true friend - a black crayon.

In the ninth grade, my older brothers were in college. "Senior Parties" were for babies.

10th grade lunches? Still coloring in black.

I don't remember much beyond that. Too many parties at my brothers frat house. I still have that crayon. His name is Schwarzie. We even patched things up after I caught him in bed with my girlfriend.

 

[The Power Guy]

Friendship is something that you need in life. While it is not a requirement, imagine getting by all the hard times without someone there by your side supporting you as you went along. Imagine having no one to lean on when something went wrong, and imagine having no-one to laugh with when everything was good.

That'd suck ass.

 

[Asgardian]

A friend betrayed is a terrible person to have as an enemy, some people here would do well to remember that.

I have an excellent memory

 

[Bomber Spirit]

Originally posted by Bee
Really good friends, really true friends are something you should hang on to. True friends stick by you no matter what. They know all about you, your good points and your bad points and they still accept you and love you for what you are.
They never judge you, they never lie to you or cheat you. They are just always there when you need them, you can rely on them and trust them. But when something happens like the Carey, Stevens thing you lose that trust. You can heal the rift but once you lose someone's trust you lose everything. Trust is important in any relationship, without it the relationship or friendship is worthless.

Bee, that is such a great post. So true.
Another thought of mine - everyone has to go through hard times so they learn who their real friends are.