Just getting back to the original post which you called abuse. I just don't see it as abuse, merely an opinion or observation.What difference does it make whether it is obvious or not? By your logic then we can abuse people without question through the use of negative characteristics when the characteristic is noticeable but not otherwise.
What is the difference whether it is noticeable or not? What's wrong then with calling someone a gay campaigner if you know that they are?
I think that Milo is a gay campaigner, is this abuse too? I imagine that you think that SHY is some sort of campaigner and that would be your opinion.