Getting an Ex Back?

[footylover18]

I've skimmed over the thread so i apologize if i'm repeating points already made.

My advice:

I would let her be for the time being. She clearly had some issues that needs to be sorted out. At the time of breaking up with you she didn't want to be with you, what reasons she had I don't know. However they are reasons that in her head at least are real. I'd be leaving her alone, giving her space to do what she wants. Don't call her, don't message her, don't try and find out what she's up to. Give her her space and time. She'll then do one of two things.

1) Coming running back saying she just needed space and has made a huge mistake

2) She wont come back

If #1 happens, then it's basically up to you to then decide if you actually do want her back, and from what i can gether, you do. If #2 happens, then mate i'm sorry but you're just going to have to let it go, simply because you do not need to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you. As much as it hurts, you know that's true.

Good luck.

 

[13_Stitches]

^ Thats the approach that i'll be taking.

I've got to remind myself that its only been a month or just over a month. I've had a million different thoughts and a million different feelings run through me and i guess it's only natural when i cared about her so much.

Thanks for all the advice, i'm just going to lay low and get on with it and whatever happens happens. I'll probably laugh at this thread in 6 months time.

 

[footyfreak]

^ Thats the approach that i'll be taking.

I've got to remind myself that its only been a month or just over a month. I've had a million different thoughts and a million different feelings run through me and i guess it's only natural when i cared about her so much.

Thanks for all the advice, i'm just going to lay low and get on with it and whatever happens happens. I'll probably laugh at this thread in 6 months time.

not probably, you will. Then you will offer bribes to mods to erase it from the database.

Hint for when you do; Try Binxy and Son of Reep first. They are partial to whoring themselves out for $$$

 

[Binxy]

And there it is!!!!

Mate, we have all thought this at some stage. You need to realise it is NEVER EVER EVER TRUE!!!! I guarantee it.

This is the reason for 90% of men being weak pathetic pussy whipped boys and staying in relationships/wanting to get back with ____ing bitches. And the ____ed thing is, is it isn't true. You just think it is. And it can ruin your life. I promise you that you will meet chicks in the future that will make you cringe and laugh that you ever thought that, let alone said it.

If you can realise that what you are saying is never true (even more so when this great person has ____ed you over, rooted 4 guys and dropped you at the first sign of an old BF) then you can let these silly wenches disappear and let you go about finding one even better. Might not be the next one, but you will find em and pump some good things whilst looking

Early contender for POTY.

not probably, you will. Then you will offer bribes to mods to erase it from the database.

Hint for when you do; Try Binxy and Son of Reep first. They are partial to whoring themselves out for $$$

...or pills, don't forget pills.

 

[H2F]

Early contender for POTY.

...or pills, don't forget pills.

POTY is right.

PERSON OF THE YEAR

I'm in love with FootyFreak... If my ____ ever fails me then I want his seed for my future children.

 

[Monty Burns]

^ Thats the approach that i'll be taking.

I've got to remind myself that its only been a month or just over a month. I've had a million different thoughts and a million different feelings run through me and i guess it's only natural when i cared about her so much.

Thanks for all the advice, i'm just going to lay low and get on with it and whatever happens happens. I'll probably laugh at this thread in 6 months time.

And while you are laughing at this thread in 6 months time - your ex (who you are certain to get back together with cos you've got NO PRIDE) will be laughing at you behind your back while she's back r00ting her ex and any other guy.

So the bit about the 4 guys she's r00ted in the last month doesn't worry you?

Also - you're only 23.......you've got rocks in your head if you think you won't be meeting anyone as good as her.....in fact there would probably be some prostitutes that would be better than your ex.

 

[Scotland]

There's enough gold in this thread to sustain a small mining town.

GD Board thread to Shower of Gold? Break that unbroken ground mods!

 

[kimfrocanada]

Ok here's some advice from a female perspective......


Move on! She has!

If you were to get back together with her who is to say that she won't up and do it all over again in 6 months? Wether it's with an old bf or someone she meets on the street.

ONCE A SKANK ALWAYS A SKANK!!!

She obviously has some problems if she's gone through all these personality changes since you split up. Either that or she was lying to you the whole time and hiding who she really is.

If you still want her back, tell her. Don't sit around on your a$s waiting for her to see the light. You need to make a decision. What is right for YOU?

We've all been in similar situatuations and had the same thoughts. You are only 23 years old. You'll find the "right" one eventually. And it'll probably be when you least expect it.

 

[nicky]

POTY is right.

PERSON OF THE YEAR

I'm in love with FootyFreak... If my ____ ever fails me then I want his seed for my future children.

 

[Simon_Nesbit]

I guess what I'm saying is that all women are inherently evil, have serious mental deficiencies and should be avoided altogether if possible - at the very least, approached with extreme caution. Kinda like a power tool - they feel good in your hands and if you have to use one, you're careful with how you handle it, but once you've got it on the bench you pound it mercilessly and then....you put it back where you found it so someone else can use it...and if necessary you might attach a little note warning the next user to be especially careful of "faulty wiring" or some such...

This post seriously needs some love.

 

[nicky]

Ok here's some advice from a female perspective......


Move on! She has!

If you were to get back together with her who is to say that she won't up and do it all over again in 6 months? Wether it's with an old bf or someone she meets on the street.

ONCE A SKANK ALWAYS A SKANK!!!

She obviously has some problems if she's gone through all these personality changes since you split up. Either that or she was lying to you the whole time and hiding who she really is.

If you still want her back, tell her. Don't sit around on your a$s waiting for her to see the light. You need to make a decision. What is right for YOU?

We've all been in similar situatuations and had the same thoughts. You are only 23 years old. You'll find the "right" one eventually. And it'll probably be when you least expect it.

excellent post.

Most of us have been in that position where we've had to make a conscious effort to move on. This is where you tap into every resource you have in order to get your desired outcome, which is to move on. I know atm you 'think' the desired outcome is to get back with your ex, but that is not what is best for you. Have faith in what we're all telling you and that is to move on, even though it doesn't feel right to you now, it will once you're free from the needy feelings you are experiencing. It's challenging but mighty rewarding.

 

[ExpectToWin]

If you love something, let it go
If it comes back, it was yours
If it does'nt, it never was.

Hope this helps

 

[AFKAJR]

I keep getting emails from a generous soul promising that women will flock to me once i take some of their pills and grow an emormous wang, perhaps I could pass your email address onto them......they seem ever so helpful.

 

[Quite Ironic]

is she hot?

if so get back with her.

 

[Simon_Nesbit]

I used to have a friend (no seriously I did once ) - typical teenager, we had a few 'serious' girlfriends (most lasting <6 months). "Getting over" usually involved a night on the turps with 'the boys' then a quick recovery the next weekend/uni night.

Then he got MAJORLY hung-up on this chick. She was smoking, but had never had anything to do with the rest of us (purely a nightclub chick at the time)...they were together for about 5-6 weeks before they split. She'd cheated a couple of times, then broke off with him when she found someone better.

I saw it tear this bloke apart - he lost all confidence in himself, wouldn't go out, etc.

3 Months later, he'd finally started coming out with us again, we ran into this girl - they chatted etc. At some stage during the night they dissappeared.

About 4am I got a video text.

It was him, in the act. Recording his face, her face, what was happening - then....."Right, I'm done, now 'F' off outta my place".

After that he was back on the scene - but funnily enough I didn't really want to be his friend much anymore. Couldn't understand how someone could do that....but I guess I'm just naive.

 

[footyfreak]

that's the greatest comeback since the 1970 GF!!!

 

[H2F]

I used to have a friend (no seriously I did once ) - typical teenager, we had a few 'serious' girlfriends (most lasting <6 months). "Getting over" usually involved a night on the turps with 'the boys' then a quick recovery the next weekend/uni night.

Then he got MAJORLY hung-up on this chick. She was smoking, but had never had anything to do with the rest of us (purely a nightclub chick at the time)...they were together for about 5-6 weeks before they split. She'd cheated a couple of times, then broke off with him when she found someone better.

I saw it tear this bloke apart - he lost all confidence in himself, wouldn't go out, etc.

3 Months later, he'd finally started coming out with us again, we ran into this girl - they chatted etc. At some stage during the night they dissappeared.

About 4am I got a video text.

It was him, in the act. Recording his face, her face, what was happening - then....."Right, I'm done, now 'F' off outta my place".

After that he was back on the scene - but funnily enough I didn't really want to be his friend much anymore. Couldn't understand how someone could do that....but I guess I'm just naive.

Having met you and seeing how nice a person you are in the flesh I can see how you think that. Mate I'm glad you can't relate to your friend because it means you haven't had your heart ripped out yet by the evil of a woman.

Believe me, behind very hard nosed guy, there is a story like the above.

 

[nicky]

Having met you and seeing how nice a person you are in the flesh I can see how you think that. Mate I'm glad you can't relate to your friend because it means you haven't had your heart ripped out yet by the evil of a woman.

Believe me, behind very hard nosed guy, there is a story like the above.

Simon i'm with you on this one.

H2F, the problem with guys are they don't get over things, i don't know why, they just don't (some do). The worst pain i've ever felt in my life was over my bf before i moved to london, i can't even describe the pain, but i got over it and never felt the need to get him back (even though he was a bit of a 'c'). If i saw him now i'd be wrapt to see him and have a friendly chat with him.

If you're hard nose over some girl breaking your heart then that makes you soft. BUILD A BRIDGE, we've ALL gone through it before.

lub you really.

 

[MickZu]

I'm 23. I'm not a fan of casual rooting, not that i got it much when i was single anyway. just the whole process of going out and finding some skank then going home and rooting her doesn't really appeal to me. I have a mate thats been doing that consistantly for the last two years and he is one the most depressed and sad people i've ever met.

With my last two ex's i never felt as bad as i did with this one, nor ever wished to get back with them. When i found my last GF she had everything that i looked for in a girl and the time we were together was better than any time i've spent with any girl. I'm clinging on to hope because i know it's going to be hard for me to find another girl, let alone one that is as good as or better than the last one.

It happens to almost every male or female, he’s into her, she”s into him. You don’t see it coming and then WAMMO!!! First sign is she or he turns cold, then when you’re together he or she is to busy noticing everything else and ignoring you. And then the phone calls (or texts) are slowly not being returned followed by the outings together coming to a complete halt. Then the horror that you’ve being feeling in your stomach comes to fruition, that unmistakable line “I NEED SPACE” or “I NEED TIME ON MY OWN” and of course “IT’S NOT YOU IT”S ME”.

The cause is almost always the result of a third person; I would say 99% a third person. The answers, get over it, move on and keep yourself occupied. Depending on how strong your feelings were, in three to twelve months you won’t even batter an eyelid at the mention of her name.

Cheers

 

[cats2rise]

I wouldnt go there.

But after saying that, I got back with my ex and we are better now than what we were before and have been together for 11 months second time around.

 

[MickZu]

I wouldnt go there.

But after saying that, I got back with my ex and we are better now than what we were before and have been together for 11 months second time around.

Don't confuse the poor boy!

 

[cats2rise]

haha.

ok well, in your case, sat away. i cant believe you posted that, read it back and still thought it sounded like a normal r/ship scenario.

But, dont listen to ppl who say past r/ships should never be looked at again... cause it does work.

Just not your one.

 

[13_Stitches]

cats, without prying, i'd like to know more about what happend in your situation. there's been plenty of advice on the side of "forget the hoe" but obviously you've seen the other side of things and have made it work. how long was it between breaking up and getting back together?

i also got a message at 1am from her last night saying "you're very special to me" i have no doubt she would have been drunk, but messages like that really screw with your head especially when you're trying to forget someone.

 

[Thewlis Dish]

messages like that really screw with your head

That's what they're intended to do.

 

[nicky]

That's what they're intended to do.

yes, what they mean are, 'i don't want you anymore but i'm not ready for you to move on because i'm an insecure twat so i am going to take you down the garden path until i find someone else'

years ago i was in love with this guy and he used to do that to me. He was going overseas for a while and told me that i'm his special girl and when he comes back he wants to settle down with me. This sounded fake to me and i could feel his agenda so i moved on emotionally. I'm still best mates with him though and he went through emotional shock when he realised i'd moved on. The thread starter should do this too. It's easier to do if you look at the situation logically and see them for the insecure person they are.