Environment GOING ALONE THREAD

[Beavis07]

Doesn't really bother me too much. Only place I am hesitant to go alone is to a shit club (e.g Top 40 on repeat where everyone is there to hook up). Don't have any problems going to a pub/bar by myself if I'm there to see something. Do it quite often for the bigger boxing bouts for example. If it is just to have a beer then I probably wouldn't do it because I would find it boring but I love doing it when overseas. Love going to sport by myself as well. I find a major reason is a lot of people will tag along to sporting events just so they can tell everyone they went to it even though they will miss half the match because they are looking at their phone or some other shit. You basically have to organise everything for them as well such as where to meet up, how to get there and arranging tickets all for someone who has no interest in the event and is only going to say they went. You normally end up talking to other people when you go alone anyway.

 

[Zarrix]

Just ask yourself this, have you ever judged someone that may appear to be alone at certain events? If you have you're probably a campaigner.

You always see people walking alone anyway, going to the toilet, getting drinks, it's not worth giving a shit about. Silent Alarm would be a downright miserable campaigner to go out with going by some of his insecurity revealing posts, always looking to judge people it seems to paint himself in a better light. Can't imagine him (or the people who he is with) ever having much fun when out if his mind is occupied by some of the stuff he is posting in here.

Nothing worse than going to a sporting event with other people who barely know anything about the sport and just ask banal questions throughout the game. Or self important people who are constantly distracting you from the spectacle.

 

[revival_mode]

been to a few gigs alone which is fine by me as i go for the music, not to talk. gets a bit annoying between sets or whatever - depending on the people at the show its generally someone like minded so you can have a bit of a chat - if not you look like a bit of a dweeb but who gives a shit.

i always lose my friends at festivals because we have different tastes and want to see different bands - stuff missing out on things you want to see just because your mates dont.

if youre enjoying the experience by yourself then what does it matter? if you're worried that much about it then yeah youre going to look a bit insecure & creepy. have a bit of confidence and do what you want to do & you dont look like that at all though

 

[Run n Spread]

I tend to go out alone alot without thinking about it. Things like the movies and footy I regularly go by myself if others are unavailable. Don't really see the big deal, if there is something I want to see I figure I will just go and do it if no one else is interested. Besides I like alone time to unwind so things like that provide the perfect opportunity. It is not as if everyone is noticing all would give a crap. I can't say I care who everyone else is with when I'm about.

Going to bars and clubs is interesting. I can't say I'd rock up to the club at 11pm after organising a night out for myself but I will go to a bar regularly alone if:
a) It is after work or something and I feel like a couple on my way home
b) I have been out and feel like a night cap and I am the last standing.

Travelling/gigs I've never done alone but wouldn't be adverse if I really wanted to and couldn't find any others interested.

Don't see the big deal going out alone to be honest. Sure if someone is lonely and would otherwise be socialising that can be sad but if someone is just flying solo who cares? Must be an Australian thing as things can be really cliquey like a High School here. Can't say when I've been out I notice what others are doing so just assume it's the same with me to be honest.

 

[Run n Spread]

Reminded me of this

Funny. Steve martin is brilliant. Yet I've probably felt like a coffee/lunch/a meal on the way home and never given a second thought to be alone. In fact if I'm around people all day I need a bit of down time . Probably done something like this literally hundreds of times.

 

[SHAKESPEARE]

Pub at midnight to watch some Soccer. Chat with gambling degenerates and alcoholics. I like it.

 

[Silent Alarm]

You always see people walking alone anyway, going to the toilet, getting drinks, it's not worth giving a shit about. Silent Alarm would be a downright miserable campaigner to go out with going by some of his insecurity revealing posts, always looking to judge people it seems to paint himself in a better light. Can't imagine him (or the people who he is with) ever having much fun when out if his mind is occupied by some of the stuff he is posting in here.

Nothing worse than going to a sporting event with other people who barely know anything about the sport and just ask banal questions throughout the game. Or self important people who are constantly distracting you from the spectacle.

Ffffffwhat?! I'm over-analysing scenarios and basically coming to the conclusion that no one cares about you anyway, so don't worry about being 'seen' as lame. I'm not really judging anyone except people who go to a pub all night on a Saturday and get tanked by themselves. And I'm just saying that a festival alone could be pretty lonely feeling when all you do is look around and see groups of people.

 

[checkraiseulite]

Ffffffwhat?! I'm over-analysing scenarios and basically coming to the conclusion that no one cares about you anyway, so don't worry about being 'seen' as lame. I'm not really judging anyone except people who go to a pub all night on a Saturday and get tanked by themselves. And I'm just saying that a festival alone could be pretty lonely feeling when all you do is look around and see groups of people.

read your own posts. where are you on the autism spectrum?

 

[Silent Alarm]

read your own posts. where are you on the autism spectrum?

Really really good at it

 

[Zarrix]

Ffffffwhat?! I'm over-analysing scenarios and basically coming to the conclusion that no one cares about you anyway, so don't worry about being 'seen' as lame. I'm not really judging anyone except people who go to a pub all night on a Saturday and get tanked by themselves. And I'm just saying that a festival alone could be pretty lonely feeling when all you do is look around and see groups of people.

That's still judging. If they enjoy that, then good for them, if that's working out well for them. I don't care about how other people have fun as long as they are indeed doing so and aren't abusing or threatening me or others. On the same token, if you get your kicks out of judging people and thinking about this stuff on your nights out, happy to let you keep going. Just think about whether these thought processes are healthy and beneficial. For me they weren't, I irrationally thought about a lot of this stuff during my mid-late teens and it was crippling, and the remnants of those ingrained thought processes are still present to this day, much to my chagrin and annoyance. To know your thought processes are wrong is one thing, to actually untangle years of wiring on the other hand, is a completely different kettle of fish.

 

[Bunk Moreland]

It's one of those things that is totally dependent on circumstance. It's like having Vietnamese in Richmond... it's normal for people to duck in for lunch by themselves. Because of the seating plan, the time of day, the area, the fact it's unpretentious and cheap... but if Jackie Junior from The Sopranos went to Vesuvio by himself, he'd look like a queer unit.

If there's someone at one of those $13-a-pint-we-only-do-Stella bars on Collins by himself on a Saturday, it's very lame.

If there's someone obviously from work, at 6pm on a Thursday, at the same venue, then sure – he's had a shit day, he's waiting for someone, whatever, there's an implied narrative that excludes the whole "you don't need a party to party!!!" vibe.

And then there's the pub during the day. I remember seeing people sitting out the front with a laptop or a book. I don't think that is entirely different to going to a cafe and sitting there with something to occupy you – you could have the afternoon off, you've got work to do and need a venue for it, you've liked the look of a place...

And then there's the guy at a club all by himself. I remember going to Sydney and seeing this young Asian dude standing against a railing at this club – looking down like some emperor of misplaced, misdirected hedonism. It just made him look like a bloke going out on the pull alone.

Wowee jesus you're like the exact thing people fear when they go out alone! You've got em all clocked

 

[edgie]

I think going out pubbing alone may be different in a small town, where you know most people, but dont necessarily like them. Or they know you and don't like you... There might be a bit of judgement. Not SA levels of judging strangers, but along the same path.

 

[Silent Alarm]

That's still judging. If they enjoy that, then good for them, if that's working out well for them. I don't care about how other people have fun as long as they are indeed doing so and aren't abusing or threatening me or others. On the same token, if you get your kicks out of judging people and thinking about this stuff on your nights out, happy to let you keep going.

Get my kicks from it?! If only they had a 'Judgement' section on Pornhub!

 

[clogged]

Haven't done this kind of thing in a while, but went to the 2004 Sydney Big Day Out alone, and 2006 O2 Festival in London alone, both were great days. The former I partied with people I didn't know until the sun came up.

Going to see Clark at Goodgod this week by myself. Will probably know people there, but not specifically meeting up with them.

You're not really doing things on your own if you're prepared to strike up a conversation with people.

 

[Howard Littlejohn]

I was in Tassie on my own in some tiny little town with a really nice hotel for some reason (it was hella out of place, in Goerge town for those that know), and I thought Id go get dinner down at the hotels restuarant

Got down there it was empty and it didnt really register to me that this it could be empty, so I got a table on my own and it dawned on me how strange and awkward it was sitting in there all on my own, basically disturbing the kitchen staffs relaxing night off makng them cook me a quick steak

This way just before smart phones came out as well, so I didnt really have the ability to surf the net, I just sat there akwardly in silence staring out the window basically.

When the hell did George Town have a nice hotel? Or a nice anything?
Don't get me wrong, I sort of like George Town in its relaxed but nervous for physical safety kind of way. And one of the take-aways used to do awesome thick shakes many years ago. But "nice" was not a word that applied to the town very much.

It was possibly one of those things that got built because a lot of people were expected to live there while Gunns' proposed death mill was built I guess.

 

[Gibbsy]

No problem with going to the footy alone, nor a gig. Sometimes company can make it more frustrating when what you really want to do is just take in what you came to see.

 

[The_Reaper]

Got no problem going to the cricket and footy alone.

If you want there is always someone to talk to about the sport.

 

[Tarkyn_24]

Who would go to a club alone?! Lining up, even with beers under your belt, to meet people inside is embarrassing enough.

If you're a self-conscious prat, sure.

 

[Ahern2Boof]

Still unsure why thread title is in caps.

 

[AFDogs]

I went to the footy alone once and wasn't a massive fan of it. Had nobody to talk too so just spent quarter time/half time either walking around or on my phone.

I would do the movies alone, though most of my mates are always up for a flick so there isn't really a need to.

 

[Moonwatcher]

Got a ticket to the Dave Matthews Band concert in Adelaide (there only one) for my birthday and obviously went alone with no embarrassment. Went to the Crows matches with season tickets with the family as a kid. As the rest of my family dropped out one by one I eventually went to 5 seasons by myself. No embarrassment there either. Always go to the cinema alone as it is usually a spur of the moment decision. The only time I have been uncomfortable being alone is eating at a restaurant on Lygon St after the Collingwood v Adelaide prelim 2002 (?). I noticed people would stare at me.

 

[BALKAN]

i'm going to go to the pub alone on sat night just to spite Silent alarm

 

[Gasometer]

No problem with going to the footy alone, nor a gig. Sometimes company can make it more frustrating when what you really want to do is just take in what you came to see.

It is harder going with fans of the opponent...unless its a draw someone is going to be shitty despite the fake grins.

 

[TheFreshBanana]

i'm going to go to the pub alone on sat night just to spite Silent alarm

Me too, see you there.

Wait.

 

[ioppolo]

Am going to Australia vs Afghanistan at the WACA in March alone. I'm sure they'll be pisshead aplenty to talk Cricket with.