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Its probably more of a case of 2 people growing apart due to different interests. Happens all the time..
Weird....
I saw the op as getting irritated with people he is socialising with and NOT irritated at the prospect of socialising, yeah?
In my original response i said that that is sign of immaturity and low self esteem. If you and SA get irritated at your friends for not "getting it", like, you know, not understanding who 'Hunter S Thompson" is, then i absolutely, almost 100% can guarnatee that the issues lie with you guys and not your "annoying, boring and less worldly mates".
This is not rocket science kids. You're obviously trying to assert some kind of superior individuality over your mates and it's a hopelessly insecure thing to do... I'm sure heaps of guys your age are doing the same thing so why don't you actually get ahead of the curb and grow up.
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You don't even know how old I am, nor do you know me and my mates. But again, please try and Doctor Phil the whole situation. Just because I cannot get along with someone does not mean I have low self esteem or am immature. How can you even come to that conclusion? People grow apart, have different interests, have different upbringings and outlooks on life. No two people are the same.In my original response i said that that is sign of immaturity and low self esteem. If you and SA get irritated at your friends for not "getting it", like, you know, not understanding who 'Hunter S Thompson" is, then i absolutely, almost 100% can guarnatee that the issues lie with you guys and not your "annoying, boring and less worldly mates".
This is not rocket science kids. You're obviously trying to assert some kind of superior individuality over your mates and it's a hopelessly insecure thing to do... I'm sure heaps of guys your age are doing the same thing so why don't you actually get ahead of the curb and grow up.
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Ah...Jesus christ you guys. I never said it was a mental health issue.
I am certainly no expert on the topic, but from what I understand is that Mental Health Issue and Low Self Esteem go hand in hand. If that wasn't what you meant to say/refer to, my apologies.In my original response i said that that is sign of immaturity and low self esteem.
perhaps not a love fest, but maybe it is a little healthier to hold at least an apathetic acceptance of the fact that other people are just different to you rather than maintaining an active hatred of 70% of humanity.Christ, talk about going over the top. Calm down a little there, Nicky. I didnt realise to be a human being in this world you had to have a love fest with everyone around you.
If anything, it's just unrealistic to, as you kind of say, expect everyone to be everything.It's the getting angry & pissed off at people for not being your idea of super interesting that's unreasonable.
Nobody is all things to all people.
If you're regularly getting irritated by it, then yeah, it's probably linked to a sense of superiority. Irritation/annoyance is a function of reality not meeting your expectations. If you are irritated by people around you being boring or flawed then it's usually because you have some expectation that they shouldn't be. And if you have an expectation that they shouldn't be, it's usually because you don't see yourself as being equally flawed.Even if they're people I really like, being with them a certain amount of time is the issue. I see flaws that are kind of buried, or, that I'd usually skim over and be like "yeah, whatever, your thing is music, so just don't bring that topic up." It has nothing to do with some sense of superiority.
So now I am down to 180 odd friends, and I could still cull 50% of the remaining people. Why? because no-one has 180 friends in real life, thats why.
But some people are, though.Most people grow out of their Holden Caulfield stage. Relax a bit. realise you're probably not smarter or better than most of those around you.
I kind of have to agree. Smart people still go out all the time and nurse hangovers. How many uni students keep every Sunday hangover free to build model yachts or to spend all day doing essays? There isn't a dichotomy of smart/dumb in which traits are mutually exclusive to either: typically 'dumb' things can be enjoyed by smart people. And plenty of smart people are into hitting the drugs and drink hard.That's just what introverted people tell themselves.
The people who go out the most and love to talk about themselves all the time and their friends and what they did last weekend and what they will do next weekend tend to be the dumbest people in society. For them, talking about this stuff is fun and they want to do it all night. But it bores others who can only handle it in small doses before the boredom sets in.
People of normal intelligence like to develop hobbies and to talk about events. They talk about what is happening in the world, favourite muscians, sports etc. They don't spend their whole weekends partying and recovering from hangovers because they have hobbies to enjoy.
Smart people prefer to think about ideas. Philosophy, science etc. Sometimes talk about them, but more often think about them. These people become a bit reclusive as a result and only go out partying on rare occassions because it doesn't take long for such events to bore them.
As we get older we also tend to get smarter. When we are in our teens and early adulthood most of us still find ourselves in the first group. By the time we are thirty most of us have drifted across to the second group. But a few still lag behind, while others have moved up into the first group and tend to be a bit reclusive and only hang around with people who are truly worthwhile to them.