Letting Go

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I'm really struggling with the letting go and moving on bit. My avatar is a picture taken of Phil up here at our post match function. Four days before he was killed. I don't want to change it.

Now we have a new coach. New players. Looking forward to a new season.

But, I'm stuck. Still get teary when I think about it.

Anyone else having this problem?
 

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Phil's death will stay with us (as supporters) and the AFL community for a very very long time. The season has only been over for a month. Let this one sink in for a while yet, I'm sure the players are still feeling down and sad about everything, yet were able to switch it off when it mattered most during the back half of the season
 

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I still feel much the same way when I think about Phil (don't think there will ever be a day I could rewatch some of those pressers without welling up), but I'm still getting excited for the new season.

we don't have to close that chapter to go on, his contribution to our club will continue to show through our culture and performances for many years to come and we should embrace that.
 

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I heard some not very flattering stories about Phil from his teaching days while he was playing for the bears or shortly after. From a student of his PE class and a fellow teacher. Not sure if I should share? May be inappropriate.
 

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For me its about learning from it. If its even just realising that Footy isn't the most imporant thing in the world and perhaps treating others with more respect is the way to honour Phil's legacy, given he brought people together from all over the Footy Universe.

Its perefectly fine not to be able to let go. Rembering the event and how it made us feel can be used to make our lives better, by the way we live them from here on in.
 

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The impact and presence of a man that was only at our club a short time is unimaginable.

After a disastrous few years, he came through with strength and charm and made me feel like it was going to be ok, he was in control.
The way that he dealt with the captaincy, the media and his composure struck me as a man not only not daunted by the challenges, but knew how he would beat them.
It is a testament to his strength and leadership how the team responded from his death.

I don't think that I will ever move on, there will always be a what if.

But I feel that our current squad knows that he's watching every weights session, every drill making sure that they are giving 100% Only a lucky few get to be AFL footballers and this is their time.
 

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I heard some not very flattering stories about Phil from his teaching days while he was playing for the bears or shortly after. From a student of his PE class and a fellow teacher. Not sure if I should share? May be inappropriate.
What an utterly bizarre post.

Read the OP again, read your post again, and then if you still don't know if sharing these 'stories' here would be inappropriate, you'll know that your frontal lobotomy was a success.
 

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I'm really struggling with the letting go and moving on bit. My avatar is a picture taken of Phil up here at our post match function. Four days before he was killed. I don't want to change it.

Now we have a new coach. New players. Looking forward to a new season.

But, I'm stuck. Still get teary when I think about it.

Anyone else having this problem?
I wouldn't call it a problem, there is no right or wrong way to grieve/honour/remember Phil Walsh in my opinion. Passage of time will help, when I see/hear/remember things about him I still feel a bit hollow but it is getting better, and am trying to channel those feelings towards what I expect of the players in the context of what they must have gone through and still are. Was a disappointing end to the season, but to make finals and win one is beyond what any one could possibly have hoped for, and I couldn't have been more proud to be a crows fan this year.
 

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I'm really struggling with the letting go and moving on bit. My avatar is a picture taken of Phil up here at our post match function. Four days before he was killed. I don't want to change it.

Now we have a new coach. New players. Looking forward to a new season.

But, I'm stuck. Still get teary when I think about it.

Anyone else having this problem?
I'm having similar thoughts. I think you'll know when the time is right, I have faith that I'll know when the time is right. So much has happened since his passing, but it's still somewhat raw. 4 months isn't that long.
 

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I heard some not very flattering stories about Phil from his teaching days while he was playing for the bears or shortly after. From a student of his PE class and a fellow teacher. Not sure if I should share? May be inappropriate.
What? I would hate for someone to go back over my (or anyone's) life and cherry pick whatever faults there may be.

We are all works in progress.

As for the OP, we all grieve differently and have our own timetable. I am looking forward very much to the new while appreciating the old. Jenny, do what is right for you. You will know!
 
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Etched forever into our minds and AFC history. We honour him best by doing what he set out to achieve. Gone but not forgotten.

Things will get better with time Jenny. I personally hope that Pyke gets given the air he needs to be his own coach/man, and not Phil's replacement, if that makes sense.
 

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I'm really struggling with the letting go and moving on bit. My avatar is a picture taken of Phil up here at our post match function. Four days before he was killed. I don't want to change it.

Now we have a new coach. New players. Looking forward to a new season.

But, I'm stuck. Still get teary when I think about it.

Anyone else having this problem?

It is difficult to move on. We have memories of the greatness that was Phil Walsh but he will never be forgotten. I am sure Don Pyke will carry on Phils legacy and honour a great mate and we always will as supporters.
 

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Don't let go Jen/everybody else. This spirit will be with us forever.
I'm counting on our boys hanging on to Phil.

Phil was sent to us for a reason, and I don't think his exit from this physical plane/playing field will derail his mission but rather anything amplify it.

You watch as our boys play out of their skin this coming season. A little bit of Phil running through each and everyone of their veins, enough to get us in a position to contend.

Some people are taken from us early because they are just too bloody good for this Earth.


VALE WALSHY!
 

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I'm really struggling with the letting go and moving on bit. My avatar is a picture taken of Phil up here at our post match function. Four days before he was killed. I don't want to change it.

Now we have a new coach. New players. Looking forward to a new season.

But, I'm stuck. Still get teary when I think about it.

Anyone else having this problem?
Could have an avatar-in-avatar?

E.g.
jenny61_99 - aia.jpg
 

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Still got the Lions game on my Foxtel hardrive. Have never watched it, was a poor game. Not really a sentimental person, but think at a subliminal level just can't seem to press the yellow delete button.



Am actually surprised that the hardrive has gone this long without needing a factory reset given how poor of quality the Foxtel hardrive is.

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