Family & Relationships Long Distance Relationships

[hirdy_is_champ]

Interesting thread which has since become relevant to me. My boyfriend is on a visa and in a couple of months will have to start his regional stint for 3 months. We see eachother only about 2-3 times a week due to work, but if he ends up in some remote place its gonna make it very difficult for me to visit often unfortunately. After that though we plan on going on a trip on which we'll be able to make up for lost time.

 

[HBF]

Very tough, but as others have already said with Skype and the like staying in touch is quite easy these days. It's the lonely nights without them that are the toughest times to get through.

Really does depend on the people in the relationship and the circumstances for the distance.

 

[sabre_ac]

Long distance relationships only seem to work if there is an big end goal mind (Marriage) or its for a relatively short term (6 months or less).

I'd argue anyone under 25 should think long and hard about the limitations a long distance relationship will have on their lives.

 

[sabre_ac]

Long distance relationships only seem to work if there is an big end goal mind (Marriage) or its for a relatively short term (6 months or less).

I'd argue anyone under 25 should think long and hard about the limitations a long distance relationship will have on their lives.

 

[Yellow Feathers]

I've just entered one... And i've heard all about how hard they are on the relationship and they almost always end in tears.

Honestly though, it works for me. I've been single for a long time (well over 3 years) and I work away. I'm used to not having a girl around 24/7 and it's not like I get any play when I'm in town anyway. The girl is pretty much in the same situation and I know it sounds corny but we both realise how lucky we are to have found someone that we connect with so well.

Skype, phone calls and Facebook fill the void and we are working towards setting ourselves up so I don't need to work away. The goal is there.

See you all in 6 months time when it ends in tears

 

[Hot Pocket]

I've tried it and failed, but others I know have done it succesfully.

I put it down to my own insecurity and jealousy issues, rather than anything inherently rough about long distances. I'm simply too needy to make something like an LDR work.

 

[DivideandMultiply]

Long distance relationships only seem to work if there is an big end goal mind (Marriage) or its for a relatively short term (6 months or less).

I'd argue anyone under 25 should think long and hard about the limitations a long distance relationship will have on their lives.

Great summary.

They are pretty hard to manage. I tried intermittently and it worked when I moved overseas, but not when she did. Both durations were under 6 months.

I have a friend who got through the other side of a five year, on and off, long term relationship with the goal being marriage. It worked out in the end, but was a tumultuous relationship to say the least.

 

[Coolangatta]

Nothing wrong with long distance relationships... they stay in the kitchen and you sit in the living room, that's distance enough.

 

[Run n Spread]

How long distance? Depends really. Also how long for, whether the relationship has started etc. My opinion is something interstate (where not a lot of travel is possible) or overseas I don't see working. Not unless you keep things flexible while away and have a more I'll reserve a block of time for you when you get back and we'll see how it goes type arrangement.