Mates Who Are Whipped

[pekay-norwest]

I am 33 now. Spent from 24 to 31 out every weekend night with the boys after playing footy, smashing myself to ribbons, life of the party so to speak. Was looser than a wizards sleeve.

I am now engaged and have been out a handful of times after games this season. I actually choose not to be out, for a number of reasons ..

• After a game, I am completely spent (I play up forward, but that's besides the point)
• My ol town of Richmond, and our sponsors pub more so, is slowly turning into a meeting point for roided up angriffs spoiling for a knuckle. 5 years ago I'd take them all on, but I've mellowed enough.
• I can't justify spending $200 + on getting w***ered and wasting a whole Sunday on the couch/asleep.
• The younger blokes with a skinful actually shit me to tears.
• I now live 40 minutes from my footy ground so the convenience of a $15 cab ride home is long gone.
• Whatever they are doing while out on the syrup, I've done, amplified by 10.

Just to name a few.

Now I cop the 'is the missus letting you out tonight?' 'How tight is your leash Pekay?' and all ilk of insults, which I don't really care about. Every now and then I'll give them a taste of the old me, smashing schooners and shots, biting them on the face/neck/body, and then the following tuesday at training, it's all 'I'm glad you don't come out any more, you're out of control on the piss'.....and they wonder why I choose to go home after playing.

I'm not whipped, maybe I am, I don't really give a toss for the title. However, I've been there, done it, mastered most of the inane crap that they think is new. I just prefer to spend nights with the missus, coz she gives plenty up for me to play Saturdays and coach during the week. Happy wife, happy life.

If we happen to win a flag this season, I'll bring the old bear out for a run.

 

[BEEG]

 

[BEEG]

What annoys me more then a bloke being whipped is that same bloke sucking back up his mates asses when they break up

Really annoys me that most blokes just let the lashing whipped bloke back into the friend circle

 

[Miqar_Baqfhied]

Yeah got a mate that does this. Goes missing when he a girlfriend, then as soon as she's f**ked him off his wanting not only to smash beers, but also looks for the emotional support like "yeh mate you'll be right".

User of the highest order.

 

[little graham]

Whipped is when there is a mismatch in who has the power ie hand in the relationship. I loved a girl once more than she loved me and she had the power, I regretted loving her, but what do you do?

Embrace your Bi side, see if you can get the power...

 

[Scotland]

I think it's the whole "I would, but the missus..." pretence that a lot of blokes in relationships put up that pisses their single mates off. It's like either stand up for yourself, or just admit that you'd rather spend time with your GF.

Agree with this.

Most of my mates are married, engaged or in LTRs.

We're all mid to late 20s and older so going out clubbing til 4am is rarely on the radar, but if we organise something the responses will be from of below:

(NB: most nights out are missus' friendly, it's only buck's dos and dedicated man events where women are not allowed unless half naked and paid to serve alcohol)

In, missus does her own thing
In, missus comes along and is cool
Out, busy/not interested/couple time
Out, missus comes instead
Out, because being in is a major source of drama with the missus so it's just easier to be out
In, missus insists on coming along and being involved in everything and stopping her guy from having any fun the whole time then making him go home at 10.30 (closely related to the guy who comes out and won't do anything except talk to his missus even though she is fine with him having fun with his mates)

I have no issues with the first 4. The last two tend to annoy everyone male, female, attached and unattached in the wider social circle. Guys, don't be that guy. Girls, don't be that girl.

 

[skilts]

There are worse things with which one can be whipped.

 

[MrCharisma]

Maybe he really enjoys those times with his missus?

LMAO!

 

[Silent Alarm]

I am 33 now. Spent from 24 to 31 out every weekend night with the boys after playing footy, smashing myself to ribbons, life of the party so to speak. Was looser than a wizards sleeve.

But surely at age 33 you'd be a bit of a loser to be hitting it as you were 15 years prior? Going out when you're 20 is the best fun in the world, you have no excuses not to carry on like a pillock and drink yourself into a two-night stupor. I could write essays on why I like it so much but a lot of that has to due with the excitement and boredom of youth. At age 30-plus, as you've said, you've seen and done it all and to carry it on isn't in the spirit of hitting the grog. I do not want to drink any more than a couple when I get to that age.

What annoys me more then a bloke being whipped is that same bloke sucking back up his mates asses when they break up

Really annoys me that most blokes just let the lashing whipped bloke back into the friend circle

But they're your mates. If they get a bird they like then of course it's a bit shit having one less person but it's like, whatever, you can't stop it. The inevitability of her dumping him or him finding out she's onto the next thing already means you should let them back in your circle, put up with the self-pity, and have them as a proper mate again. You can't begrudge someone for that too much.

I don't really know too many people who've really shied away from their proper mates because of a girl. It seems they manage to still make it out for a Saturday every week. It's a shit move to disregard and empty your mates completely but there's a certain leeway; it's a bit like that unspoken code – if you're third wheeling or it comes down to a bird, you should offer that he goes off with her. You don't pressure them and guilt trip them if they'll lose a root over it. Conversely, you never ditch your mate full on and leave him alone or uncomfortable. The difference between good men and bad men is how they act in those situations.

 

[Dont be a lemon]

Got a mate like this, his whole identity has now changed to his missus's. Has none of his old identity left. A few years back we went to a wedding and his wife was overseas at the time, and he sort of regressed back to his former self, got messy and it was glorious. Unfortunately it was only a once off, and really all it did was make us miss our fallen brother.

Sounds like all you ever did with him was get drunk.

 

[Herne Hill Hammer]

Sounds like all you ever did with him was get drunk.

I miss the days of being 15 or 16 and just hanging around talking shit with no alcohol involved.

 

[Silent Alarm]

I miss the days of being 15 or 16 and just hanging around talking shit with no alcohol involved.

So do I and they were some fun days, but it's also pretty limiting and frustrating when you have nothing to do but play sport all Saturday and nothing else. As good as being in high school can be, it can be pretty alienating and a tough time too. So just because you get pissed with your mates, it doesn't restrict or limit the quality of the time you have. Some of my best memories with the people I love the most revolve around drinking. I have no shame in that at all. I don't think there's a more complementary combination than beers and your mates. Maybe music and girls.

 

[Rioli magic]

Do you have any and does their hypnotic state brought about by the jiggling of their missus **** tick you off? My best mate can't come out this weekend again as a result of him having to go help the missus choose ******* dresses and shoes for some wedding.

You're not his best mate anymore, deal with it.

 

[pekay-norwest]

But surely at age 33 you'd be a bit of a loser to be hitting it as you were 15 years prior? Going out when you're 20 is the best fun in the world, you have no excuses not to carry on like a pillock and drink yourself into a two-night stupor. I could write essays on why I like it so much but a lot of that has to due with the excitement and boredom of youth. At age 30-plus, as you've said, you've seen and done it all and to carry it on isn't in the spirit of hitting the grog. I do not want to drink any more than a couple when I get to that age.

That's what I keep telling them!

 

[SugarShane]

Sounds like all you ever did with him was get drunk.

Nah not quite. Have known him since we were 9 years old. Had plenty of good times with him without the drink too. Just once he got attached he became, basically, an extension of her.

 

[Scotland]

But surely at age 33 you'd be At age 30-plus, as you've said, you've seen and done it all and to carry it on isn't in the spirit of hitting the grog. I do not want to drink any more than a couple when I get to that age.

You might want to get to that age first before making that call.

 

[Silent Alarm]

You might want to get to that age first before making that call.

But there's nothing cool about being 35 and drinking like you're 20. There just isn't.

 

[Scotland]

But there's nothing cool about being 35 and drinking like you're 20. There just isn't.

There's nothing cooler than doing what supposedly isn't cool. Surely *you* realise that.

But yeah, make it to 35 and then people might listen to your opinion on what is 'cool' for that age. Maybe. Yeah I doubt it.

 

[The Half Back]

There's nothing cooler than doing what supposedly isn't cool. Surely *you* realise that.

But yeah, make it to 35 and then people might listen to your opinion on what is 'cool' for that age. Maybe. Yeah I doubt it.

Try making it to 135 and still partying, then come talk to me.

 

[Yellow Feathers]

If we happen to win a flag this season, I'll bring the old bear out for a run.

 

[Silent Alarm]

There's nothing cooler than doing what supposedly isn't cool. Surely *you* realise that.

But yeah, make it to 35 and then people might listen to your opinion on what is 'cool' for that age. Maybe. Yeah I doubt it.

Cool, how do your skinny jeans look? Do you have a haircut like a 20-year old too? Don't worry man, your youth's over. It's all shit from here.

 

[BALKAN]

But there's nothing cool about being 35 and drinking like you're 20. There just isn't.

Does being cool motivate your every decision in life?

 

[Silent Alarm]

Does being cool motivate your every decision in life?

Oh my god it's not cool cool I mean it's the difference between being normal and being pathetic! But does jumping on the easy target ever become a bit boring for you?

 

[BALKAN]

Oh my god it's not cool cool I mean it's the difference between being normal and being pathetic! But does jumping on the easy target ever become a bit boring for you?

You used the word cool strangely is all. Also, normal and pathetic are very limiting ways to group people's actions.
I don't know what you mean by your second sentence.

 

[Yellow Feathers]

There's the "never allowed out of the house whipped" and the "attached at the hip, whipped". You know, where your mate can't even come over to watch a game of footy without bringing his missus. And she hates footy. And she constantly likes to remind you of that fact.

I'm not sure which one is worse.