My Problem This Weekend.

[royals1922]

My girlfriend's 21st birthday, 3 year anniversary combined dinner date.

I've set out dinner at a 100p/h restaurant, got the gold class tickets and it's on Saturday night.

Oh my.

Essendon Vs. Richmond is on Saturday night.

I'm still going through with the day because I love her, but how do I get through the night without checking the scores, or being spoilt by crowds in the city?

My plan is to IQ the match and watch it when I get home like it was live. I will struggle with this because the AFL Live footy app is likea disease, I check it every moment of every game when I'm out.

It's exactly like that episode of How I met Your Mother with the superbowl.

Do you think I can get through the night without the result spoiled? I'll let you know how I go

There are only 2 likely results:

Richmond win - if that is the case, go on said social engagement and check the scores. If Richmond win then you have won twice in the night; or

Richmond lose - if this the case, go on said social engagement and check the scores. If Richmond lose then you have won once in the night and your can watch the loss at your leisure.

For a draw, see Richmond loss.

 

[DerpWerls]

Just keep going into the toilet/bathroom every 5 minutes to check the scores.

When she notices, just blame it on a bladder problem or drug habit.

 

[BlueManic]

Oh and also why would you be going home Saturday night? If it is her 21st wouldn't you be staying at your place or having her stay at yours?

You should also make sure you see her Friday - probably the last time you will get to experience the love of a 20 year old.

 

[mytym]

You have zero chance of not knowing the result until you get home. Even when people say they won't tell you the scores their non-verbal language gives it away. Just expect that you will find out through the night without looking forward to watching the replay.

 

[Mr Mojo Risin]

Hahah I love everyone's responses in this thread!

A lot of people think it's a no-brainer - Football wins.

Some people think I'm an idiot because I didn't organise myself properly - Can't help it when Dreamtime at the G' is on Saturday, and her birthday falls on a Saturday too!

I openly admit I'm whipped, but she's whipped too. What relationship lasts when you both don't compromise? I don't think she needs to compromise on her 21st birthday. Besides I didn't throw this piece of information out, which I will now...


She bought me a Macbook for my 21st a couple of months ago. I think a real man puts the people he loves before himself. I'll be going to the footy next week.

The mental torture I'll have to deal with, knowing this match is on and not being able to watch it will be punishment enough for all the sins I've committed in the past year.

Beautifully said, you've got your head screwed on right.

 

[Killer eagle]

Beautifully said, you've got your head screwed on right.

Is that you MRS mojo risin?

 

[Gavin Excell]

Stick with the bird

She sounds like she will give you more than the Tiger

 

[Lunchlady Doris]

So wait...you were just going to do this all along?

You had already made your mind up, and re just ignoring the advice you've been given?

 

[The Speaker]

So wait...you were just going to do this all along?

You had already made your mind up, and re just ignoring the advice you've been given?

Off-topic: Did you lose a bet?

 

[Mr Mojo Risin]

Is that you MRS mojo risin?

ROFL how'd ya guess?

Seriously though, anyone who honestly believes that one H&A game of football should come before a 21st and Anniversary for your girlfriend is pretty sad.

Those saying he should man up are generally saying the opposite of what manning up would be doing. Manning up would be missing the game.

Ironically most of the diehards here expect the players from the team they support to be unselfish and think of things beyond themselves (ie the team in a football sense). Yet they aren't willing to do the same.

 

[SirJimi05]

Try hitting her

From the back?

 

[royals1922]

Perhaps another way of looking at things is to point out the tiges have given you no finals series for the past 3 years and may not do so this year.

You've made the right choice.

 

[sante]

I have the problem a lot cause of work. Watching it after just isn't the same and it's hard not to check scores .

 

[PieBeast]

I have the problem a lot cause of work. Watching it after just isn't the same and it's hard not to check scores .

Probably time to change the occupation unless your job puts out.

 

[helicopter]

My girlfriend's 21st birthday, 3 year anniversary combined dinner date.

I've set out dinner at a 100p/h restaurant, got the gold class tickets and it's on Saturday night.

Oh my.

Essendon Vs. Richmond is on Saturday night.

I'm still going through with the day because I love her, but how do I get through the night without checking the scores, or being spoilt by crowds in the city?

My plan is to IQ the match and watch it when I get home like it was live. I will struggle with this because the AFL Live footy app is likea disease, I check it every moment of every game when I'm out.

It's exactly like that episode of How I met Your Mother with the superbowl.

Do you think I can get through the night without the result spoiled? I'll let you know how I go

Go to the game. Then give her a good 21st ****.

 

[parano1a]

Tip: If you're trying to avoid finding out the result and happen to be driving somewhere, try not to look at other cars. Scarves hung out of car windows can be a dead giveaway.

 

[Leather Poisoning]

Hahah I love everyone's responses in this thread!

A lot of people think it's a no-brainer - Football wins.

Some people think I'm an idiot because I didn't organise myself properly - Can't help it when Dreamtime at the G' is on Saturday, and her birthday falls on a Saturday too!

I openly admit I'm whipped, but she's whipped too. What relationship lasts when you both don't compromise? I don't think she needs to compromise on her 21st birthday. Besides I didn't throw this piece of information out, which I will now...


She bought me a Macbook for my 21st a couple of months ago. I think a real man puts the people he loves before himself. I'll be going to the footy next week.

The mental torture I'll have to deal with, knowing this match is on and not being able to watch it will be punishment enough for all the sins I've committed in the past year.

Compromise is the biggest scam there is.

Compromise means you're both missing out on having exactly what you want (either on this occasion or another).

You want to go to the footy and watch the footy. So do it. There is no reason you can't do this AND give the girl the birthday/anniversary day she needs and deserves.

Successful relationships don't happen on a currency of sacrifice and compromise - they happen on the basis of ensuring that both of you - NOT JUST ONE OF YOU - has every possible.

Seriously - I see these guys everywhere who think they're awesome boyfriends/husbands and all they do is concede, concede, concede. They end up miserable, frustrated - but out of this sense of pride that they're a 'good partner' they constantly punish themselves and excuse the fact that they're short changing their own happiness.

I used to be one of those guys until I met my wife who really has this win/win approach. Absolute genius. If I want to watch a game of footy she makes the most of it and catches up with some friends or whatever. If she wants to go shopping and I don't - she doesn't want me there. It makes sense right?

Why would you ever consider doing it any other way?

It all starts with things like this anniversary dinner. It's clear that you are torn between the dinner and footy. Sure, you think it's a once off - and she got you a macbook which is nice - but don't think that you OWE her some sort of sacrifice - especially when you can give the dinner, etc without missing out on what you wan.

Always go for win-win, it is the path to true happiness.

 

[THRILLHO]

Compromise is the biggest scam there is.

Compromise means you're both missing out on having exactly what you want (either on this occasion or another).

You want to go to the footy and watch the footy. So do it. There is no reason you can't do this AND give the girl the birthday/anniversary day she needs and deserves.

Successful relationships don't happen on a currency of sacrifice and compromise - they happen on the basis of ensuring that both of you - NOT JUST ONE OF YOU - has every possible.

Seriously - I see these guys everywhere who think they're awesome boyfriends/husbands and all they do is concede, concede, concede. They end up miserable, frustrated - but out of this sense of pride that they're a 'good partner' they constantly punish themselves and excuse the fact that they're short changing their own happiness.

I used to be one of those guys until I met my wife who really has this win/win approach. Absolute genius. If I want to watch a game of footy she makes the most of it and catches up with some friends or whatever. If she wants to go shopping and I don't - she doesn't want me there. It makes sense right?

Why would you ever consider doing it any other way?


Always go for win-win, it is the path to true happiness.

You only turn 21 once and it's a pretty big moment at that point in your life. Richmond are guaranteed to be playing another Dreamtime at the 'G next year.

Protip: this game is only worth 4 points. Last week was the same and next week will be no different.

If it was a grand final, or any final your team is playing in, of course, go for the win-win but, bloody hell, you must be a selfish son of a bitch if you'd skip out on your girlfriend's 21st AND your 3 year anniversary just for a footy game.

It all starts with things like this anniversary dinner. It's clear that you are torn between the dinner and footy. Sure, you think it's a once off - and she got you a macbook which is nice - but don't think that you OWE her some sort of sacrifice - especially when you can give the dinner, etc without missing out on what you wan.

This is just bizarre reasoning. He shouldn't feel like he OWES her anything. If he feels like that, he shouldn't be with her.

I don't know, maybe I'm not as cool as you guys, and I might be on my own on this one, but surely its not asking too much to make your girlfriend feel special and loved on her birthday?

 

[Leather Poisoning]

You only turn 21 once and it's a pretty big moment at that point in your life. Richmond are guaranteed to be playing another Dreamtime at the 'G next year.

Protip: this game is only worth 4 points. Last week was the same and next week will be no different.

If it was a grand final, or any final your team is playing in, of course, go for the win-win but, bloody hell, you must be a selfish son of a bitch if you'd skip out on your girlfriend's 21st AND your 3 year anniversary just for a footy game.

You're part of the myth if this is what you believe.

The OP said he organised the dinner/movie on the same day. HE ORGANISED IT. It's just the two of them - it's not like a huge 21st party that's been months in planning and has all the friends and family there.

What, she can't celebrate her birthday on a day that isn't actually her birthday?

I went crazy with gifts and stuff for my wife for Mother's day (she's a damn good mother) but it all happened the day before. What made it better was that it was a surprise - no way was she expecting to wake up on Saturday with all the breakfast in bed, massage treatment, etc. Then on Sunday we did all the obligation stuff like taking the kids to swimming, family visits etc.

So much better. Double points for that effort.

Win-win all the way.

 

[Leather Poisoning]

This is just bizarre reasoning. He shouldn't feel like he OWES her anything. If he feels like that, he shouldn't be with her.

Relationships shouldn't be about feelings of debt. You've got it so wrong it's not funny. Relationships are about wanting to do stuff for the other person, not feeling as though you HAVE to.

Debt, sacrifice, owing, compromise - that sounds like punishment - what kind of fun is that?

Society pushes all these ideas onto us like "relationships are hard work".

No they're not - relationships are fun, and if they're not fun change the relationship so it fun or get out of the relationship. Crazy, crazy way we live our lives and 'endure' relationships. How many people spend their time complaining about their partners to their friends? What a waste of time and effort.

 

[brendan84]

Compromise is the biggest scam there is.

Compromise means you're both missing out on having exactly what you want (either on this occasion or another).

You want to go to the footy and watch the footy. So do it. There is no reason you can't do this AND give the girl the birthday/anniversary day she needs and deserves.

Successful relationships don't happen on a currency of sacrifice and compromise - they happen on the basis of ensuring that both of you - NOT JUST ONE OF YOU - has every possible.

Seriously - I see these guys everywhere who think they're awesome boyfriends/husbands and all they do is concede, concede, concede. They end up miserable, frustrated - but out of this sense of pride that they're a 'good partner' they constantly punish themselves and excuse the fact that they're short changing their own happiness.

I used to be one of those guys until I met my wife who really has this win/win approach. Absolute genius. If I want to watch a game of footy she makes the most of it and catches up with some friends or whatever. If she wants to go shopping and I don't - she doesn't want me there. It makes sense right?

Why would you ever consider doing it any other way?

It all starts with things like this anniversary dinner. It's clear that you are torn between the dinner and footy. Sure, you think it's a once off - and she got you a macbook which is nice - but don't think that you OWE her some sort of sacrifice - especially when you can give the dinner, etc without missing out on what you wan.

Always go for win-win, it is the path to true happiness.

You are living the life.

 

[DVD Player]

Haha you're going to be thinking about the game all night.

 

[Mr Mojo Risin]

I don't know, maybe I'm not as cool as you guys, and I might be on my own on this one, but surely its not asking too much to make your girlfriend feel special and loved on her birthday?

I think most the cool guys you refer to are actually just selfish pricks. Maybe even coward keyboard heroes who talk big on here and then when their wife/girlfriend walks into the room they probably hide their computer screen quickly so they don't see what they wrote.

You are definitely not on your own.

Last week I wanted to attend the Essendon V West Coast game. The girl I'm seeing works odd shift hours and said Saturday night was the only time she had free. It wasn't any special occasion so I did enquire more and found I could meet her for breakfast and still go to the footy. I made it clear to her that going to the footy is important to me, however so is she and if I can see her and go to the footy that is my preference.

However, in no uncertain terms she is more important than the football and I let her know that. She is pretty understanding of things and wants to come to some games with me. At the same time if it is a special occasion for her (or other people I care about) then that comes before the football. The only time I would push the envelope and try to re-arrange an occasion is if Essendon were playing in a Preliminary or Grand Final.

Because I let the people I care about know that they are important to me, in turn they know how much I love my footy and I would like to think they would understand. In the past this has shown true and life is much better for the two way street.

 

[SHAKESPEARE]

Try hitting her

Nathan Bock, I am a fan.

 

[Franc de Borges]

Relationships shouldn't be about feelings of debt. You've got it so wrong it's not funny. Relationships are about wanting to do stuff for the other person, not feeling as though you HAVE to.

Debt, sacrifice, owing, compromise - that sounds like punishment - what kind of fun is that?

Society pushes all these ideas onto us like "relationships are hard work".

No they're not - relationships are fun, and if they're not fun change the relationship so it fun or get out of the relationship. Crazy, crazy way we live our lives and 'endure' relationships. How many people spend their time complaining about their partners to their friends? What a waste of time and effort.

Agree with all of this. The amount of complaining a hear from guys and girls about their GF/BF is amazing.

If you don't really like that person then leave. You obviously don't get on or see eye to eye, there are no prizes for sticking it out the longest.

I have two priorites that are non-negotiable (football/music) and no woman is ever going to change it (not that my GF would even want to). I seriously laugh in friends' faces when they have to 'sneak out for a beer' or 'make the most of this one night out'. F*** off.