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Scotland said:
For all the new age talk of 95 different genders and sexualities, asexuality doesn't get much of a run. Surely there are people out there that just aren't into anyone or anything. People on the spectrum and that.
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How do you discriminate against the asexual? For example, if someone never speaks about the opposite gender, the first assumption is typically that they're gay.
 
Catfish Alley said:
How does that even work in modern life? Most women work and have their own stuff. And if you’re married for a while you have both contributed.
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Which is great for dropkick males. The worm has turned.

Their are many reasons why people have their views on relationships and I guess until you've walked in their shoes you can't understand or appreciate it. Gender & Sexuality don't even come into the equation.
 

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james Dean said:
Is the freedom to do what you want/when you want overshadowed by the uncertainty of how you will be thought of and looked after in your later years?
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As someone who is almost 10 years into a marriage, and now with two kids, I don’t really get this.

If you are in a ‘relationship’ and not able to do things you want, then you need to ditch the relationship.

Surely you actively want to do things with your partner, plan dinners, trips etc...like you would with close mates. And in any healthy relationship you also have your own interests and friends that don’t always have to include your partner.

Once kids pop on the scene, you actually want to spend time with them...what you want to do changes over time.

Even if you are a single kid free bachelor, you haven’t found a partner who you want to share plenty of experiences with, when you are in your 40s your wants ain’t necessarily going to be the same as when in your 20s.

james Dean said:
Also for the ones who have been married and had families, Is the gift of children and watching your kids develop into adults and beyond really that amazing? Or is it a cliche that people use to convince themselves that their lives are great?
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Mine ain’t got to adulthood yet, but an amazing journey nonetheless.

Just heighten all emotions - fear, happiness, joy, frustration, anger - perception of them completely changed since the lil feckers came along.

It ain’t all smooth sailing, but what is?
 
I'm getting to the age where a lot of people are starting to get married and have kids. I am almost 26 and never really had a serious girlfriend. Just get bored of people after a while I find. Also my standards are very high. Meet girls in clubs/bars/tinder for casual stuff but maybe the quality for long term stuff isn't high in those places. R.e kids not really fussed. Wouldn't mind later in life but would have to he with the right person. Not just in looks and personality but they would have to have the right genetics I would pass on to my kids
 
Stratton_Gun said:
Wouldn't mind later in life but would have to he with the right person. Not just in looks and personality but they would have to have the right genetics I would pass on to my kids
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Agreed, I'd do what I can to breed with a girl with good genetics. I would like to increase the chances that my potential offspring will have good health, average to high intelligence, and good looks. Given the choice, nobody wants unintelligent, unattractive (no incest/pedo), offspring with health issues, so why not try to swing the odds in their favour? I'm an average man btw, I'm not putting my genetics up on a pedestal as if any female who isn't 10/10 in these areas is unworthy of my seed lol
 
Stratton_Gun said:
I'm getting to the age where a lot of people are starting to get married and have kids. I am almost 26 and never really had a serious girlfriend. Just get bored of people after a while I find. Also my standards are very high. Meet girls in clubs/bars/tinder for casual stuff but maybe the quality for long term stuff isn't high in those places. R.e kids not really fussed. Wouldn't mind later in life but would have to he with the right person. Not just in looks and personality but they would have to have the right genetics I would pass on to my kids
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With your height, you definitely have the right genetics to pass onto your kids.

My girlfriend is quite small and I'm kinda nervous to bring a short son into the world.
 

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I know a dude who only dates woman he thinks less intelligent than him. It narrows the pool a bit but he's a fat middle-aged slob so it evens out. Anybody who settles for him can't be that bright anyway as evidenced by his current old lady.
 
Gough said:
I know a dude who only dates woman he thinks less intelligent than him. It narrows the pool a bit but he's a fat middle-aged slob so it evens out. Anybody who settles for him can't be that bright anyway as evidenced by his current old lady.
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I've read that quite a lot of guys feel emasculated having a more intelligent girlfriend.

I don't understand it. I'd always rather be around those who challenge me.
 
herculez09 said:
With your height, you definitely have the right genetics to pass onto your kids.

My girlfriend is quite small and I'm kinda nervous to bring a short son into the world.
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Be careful as I believe height is slightly more likely to come from the mothers side. So many girls are heightist these days, even girls who themselves are carriers of the inferior manlet genetic, which I'll never understand.
 
Catfish Alley said:
I don’t think anybody is actively seeking dumb, ugly sick people.

Would you avoid somebody if they had cancer or heart issues in their family?
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Probably not, unless the family is riddled with those diseases, and not as a result of poor lifestyle choices. For example I have a friend who has 4 siblings, all of which are autistic, along with cousins, and other extended relatives. That to me would unfortunately be a warning sign in a partner if they wanted to have children...
 
herculez09 said:
Aren't modern relationships more equal than ever?
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You'd say so, but the legal system hasn't caught up. It's arguably a better time to be a gold digger with the status of de facto relationships. Don't even need to get married to get your hands on someone's shit.

Where kids are involved the family court invariably sides with the mother, so you could have the most equal relationship in the world but if it goes sour traditional 'kids belong with their mother, the father should pay' tends to shine through. I say this as an outsider observed only.

Now that SSM is legal and we predictably look foolish for having spent years on end talking about it, I'm interested to see how SS divorce will pan out and what flow on effects will occur.
 

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I've had a long defacto relationship and a long marriage. Both relationships sucked quite quickly but I tend to stick and try fruitlessly to work things out. However I got a daughter from each of those relationships and they have been the true loves of my life. I will never regret a thing because I have them.

I'm with someone else now and contemplating moving in, but I am uncertain. The past is doing a number on me.
 
Catfish Alley said:
I’m 6’1 but I never really thought of short as being a terrible genetic trait.
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I guess it depends how short. Plenty of shallow girls 'won't date under 6'2''...' etc. and good for them but being average height (5'9''/5'10'' in Australia IIRC) isn't really an impediment to anything except a career in professional basketball.

I know in my social circle 99% of people are probably 5'9'' to 6'1'' or 6'2'' so that frames who is short and tall and who gets shit for what. It's pretty Australian to give someone shit for being short when they are barely 1cm shorter than everyone else and taller than most girls. I wouldn't want to be a Caleb Daniel or shorter, though. If you are too small you'll probably grow up not being able to play sports against kids your own age, being shorter than a lot of girls etc. which would be tough.
 
Scotland said:
I guess it depends how short. Plenty of shallow girls 'won't date under 6'2''...' etc. and good for them but being average height (5'9''/5'10'' in Australia IIRC) isn't really an impediment to anything except a career in professional basketball.

I know in my social circle 99% of people are probably 5'9'' to 6'1'' or 6'2'' so that frames who is short and tall and who gets shit for what. It's pretty Australian to give someone shit for being short when they are barely 1cm shorter than everyone else and taller than most girls. I wouldn't want to be a Caleb Daniel or shorter, though. If you are too small you'll probably grow up not being able to play sports against kids your own age, being shorter than a lot of girls etc. which would be tough.
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Being tall tends to also garner you more respect, presumably. Aren't 75% or something ridiculous of Fortune 500 CEOs above 6'2?
 
Lionel Messi is 170cm
Bill Gates is 177cm

If you think to be successful you have to be tall you're an idiot. I mean, yeah, you may be able to forge out an AFL career if you suck at sport and are 7 foot but come on.
 

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