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Cuzz09 said:
Im 38.
Live by myself.
Girlfriend 5 years in Oct.
Im not interested in getting married right now.
She is.
I want to get my finances in order first before I even consider anything... even moving in together.
Just reckon heaps of arguments can happen over money.
She doesn't work.
No rush I reckon.
One day maybe I'll pop the question.
Wont be for min. 10 years though.

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Does she want kids? That's why the rush. If not than the time pressure doesn't apply.
 
Catfish Alley said:
According to science men are supposed to be attracted to curves as its apparently a sign of fertility. Didn’t think height came into it much. Everyone has a type though I guess.
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Curves yes but a lot of girls call themselves curvy when they are just fat. If you see a girl describe herself as "curvy" on tinder then run
 
Silent Alarm said:
Some blokes I've known are tall but just ****in idiots with chicks, have no idea how to talk to them properly and their idea of assertiveness is being a bit rapey. Some are just little boys and their immaturity shines a lot taller than their physique.
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Stratton_Gun said:
Curves yes but a lot of girls call themselves curvy when they are just fat. If you see a girl describe herself as "curvy" on tinder then run
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Poetry.
 

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I think I missed something if this thread needed cleaning up.

I have two friends that eloped a few months ago. I wonder if that will become any more socially acceptable. A few noses put out of joint as you'd expect with the 'You're getting married? Well you need to think about me' entitlement mentality that some have, but it's what they wanted and they would've saved the tens of thousands that weddings cost.
 
utility said:
Marriage does not mean being stuck in the same life for 30 years, that is more a case of mindset and habit. You can change careers, obtain further education, start businesses, travel, etc. That is a matter of financial position - which really isn't related to marriage.
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I don't know... I bet there are a lot of Jimi Hendrix's out there who are stuck behind a desk working a 9-5 their whole life because they got into a committed relationship too early and got forced to play the 'safe' game. Would there be many girls who let their guy quit their career/degree and spend an inordinate amount of "together" time away from them to pursue a dream? I imagine a lot of blokes get to 40-45 and become bitter that they didn't take more of a risk/work harder in their 20s due to family pressures.
 
Jobe Watson said:
I don't know... I bet there are a lot of Jimi Hendrix's out there who are stuck behind a desk working a 9-5 their whole life because they got into a committed relationship too early and got forced to play the 'safe' game. Would there be many girls who let their guy quit their career/degree and spend an inordinate amount of "together" time away from them to pursue a dream? I imagine a lot of blokes get to 40-45 and become bitter that they didn't take more of a risk/work harder in their 20s due to family pressures.
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I doubt that. Yes there are plenty of miserable men who were talented who could've done something better but didn't for whatever reason. But the world is not full of undiscovered Hendrixs', Einsteins', Da Vincis' Mandelas' or Pendleburys'. Those are a rare talent. Stupid to even compare.
 
Run n Spread said:
I doubt that. Yes there are plenty of miserable men who were talented who could've done something better but didn't for whatever reason. But the world is not full of undiscovered Hendrixs', Einsteins', Da Vincis' Mandelas' or Pendleburys'. Those are a rare talent. Stupid to even compare.
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If I had an ounce of talent I coulda been the next Bradman me.
 
Run n Spread said:
I doubt that. Yes there are plenty of miserable men who were talented who could've done something better but didn't for whatever reason. But the world is not full of undiscovered Hendrixs', Einsteins', Da Vincis' Mandelas' or Pendleburys'. Those are a rare talent. Stupid to even compare.
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You're getting too hung up on a name. I just used Jimi Hendrix as an example because he's a well known figure and it's one of the first names that popped into my head. You can replace him with any other successful musician/actor/comedian/sportsperson/entrepreneur - or even someone who isn't in a field that would gain them notoriety - who had to take some risks and make sacrifices in their 20s to chase their passion.

The main point is that there are probably plenty of guys (and girls for that matter) who give up on pursuing their dreams due to relationship pressures (and other factors, yes), and I think that's very unfortunate.
 
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Jobe Watson said:
You're getting too hung up on a name. I just used Jimi Hendrix as an example because he's a well known figure and it's one of the first names that popped into my head. You can replace him with any other successful musician/actor/comedian/sportsperson/entrepreneur - or even someone who isn't in a field that would gain them notoriety - who had to take some risks and make sacrifices in their 20s to chase their passion.

The main point is that there are probably plenty of guys (and girls for that matter) who give up on perusing their dreams due to relationship pressures (and other factors, yes), and I think that's very unfortunate.
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So it's the woman's fault if a man isn't successful because a married man can't follow his dreams?
 
Gralin said:
So it's the woman's fault if a man isn't successful because a married man can't follow his dreams?
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"plenty of guys (and girls for that matter)"

And, yeah, marriage is a bit of an impediment to certain things. "Hey babe, I've always wanted to be an actor... I'm gonna move to LA for the next year and see what happens. You good with that?". Of course there are a lot of pursuits that you can undertake while married but there are definitely more barriers in the way than if you were single, because you have to take someone else's wants and needs into account.
 

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Jobe Watson said:
"plenty of guys (and girls for that matter)"

And, yeah, marriage is a bit of an impediment to certain things. "Hey babe, I've always wanted to be an actor... I'm gonna move to LA for the next year and see what happens. You good with that?". Of course there are a lot of pursuits that you can undertake while married but there are definitely more barriers in the way than if you were single, because you have to take someone else's wants and needs into account.
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But mostly guys right, girls are just the afterthought here when you got questioned, don't even deserve to be out of brackets apparently.
 
Gralin said:
But mostly guys right, girls are just the afterthought here when you got questioned, don't even deserve to be out of brackets apparently.
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Oh please. I'm a guy; I talk from a guy's perspective based on experiences of myself and my friendship group (which is, you guessed it: predominantly made up of guys).
 
Jobe Watson said:
You're getting too hung up on a name. I just used Jimi Hendrix as an example because he's a well known figure and it's one of the first names that popped into my head. You can replace him with any other successful musician/actor/comedian/sportsperson/entrepreneur - or even someone who isn't in a field that would gain them notoriety - who had to take some risks and make sacrifices in their 20s to chase their passion.

The main point is that there are probably plenty of guys (and girls for that matter) who give up on perusing their dreams due to relationship pressures (and other factors, yes), and I think that's very unfortunate.
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True that. But risks don't always pan out believe me.

It's one thing to tell impressionable 20 y.os to take a risk. And they should. But mindless gambles can cost a whole lot more. And mindless gambles include starting business, dabbling in the share market, sports betting with algorithms etc when you have no discernible talent.

If anything I'd say at 20 go with your gut.
 
Scotland said:
I think I missed something if this thread needed cleaning up.

I have two friends that eloped a few months ago. I wonder if that will become any more socially acceptable. A few noses put out of joint as you'd expect with the 'You're getting married? Well you need to think about me' entitlement mentality that some have, but it's what they wanted and they would've saved the tens of thousands that weddings cost.
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The dream. I hate the idea of having to put together a wedding.
 

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