Never Married

[William Wonka]

love makes the world go round.
of course it's important. might not always give happiness but it gives sustenance

Anyone not in a romantic relationship should not see their life as meaningless or finding a partner as the be all and end all of existence and their only route to happiness.
It lasts a few years (or even months/weeks) at best then it morphs into something different, not necessarily something less but definitely something different.

Im coming across as jaded but its absolutely true.

So many lonely people in the world bemoaning the fact but never actually contemplate hooking up with each other because... actually I dont know why.
Stupidity most likely.
"Oh, I like him but I hes such a really good friend I wouldn't want to risk that" Really?
You think he's going to think "Well I used to enjoy chatting with her and spending time together but then she started sucking my dick and I just went off her completely"
Or.
"Im just not sure shes the one for me" Ok, so you mean her elbows are too pointy or you're just too chickenshit to put your hand on her thigh.

 

[Perth gal]

Anyone not in a romantic relationship should not see their life as meaningless or finding a partner as the be all and end all of existence and their only route to happiness.
It lasts a few years (or even months/weeks) at best then it morphs into something different, not necessarily something less but definitely something different.

Im coming across as jaded but its absolutely true.

So many lonely people in the world bemoaning the fact but never actually contemplate hooking up with each other because... actually I dont know why.
Stupidity most likely.
"Oh, I like him but I hes such a really good friend I wouldn't want to risk that" Really?
You think he's going to think "Well I used to enjoy chatting with her and spending time together but then she started sucking my dick and I just went off her completely"
Or.
"Im just not sure shes the one for me" Ok, so you mean her elbows are too pointy or you're just too chickenshit to put your hand on her thigh.

Hahaaaaa. Love it.

 

[Shell]

They were talking about divorce actually on AW this morning.

Said its just going up, like 50%ish rate

 

[Sainteric]

They were talking about divorce actually on AW this morning.

Said its just going up, like 50%ish rate

I wonder if that more to do with society, high expectations etc or women being more financially independent. Women having more choices is obviously a great thing but I do think unrealistic expectations on both sides has been a more recent phenomena.

 

[Shell]

I wonder if that more to do with society, high expectations etc or women being more financially independent. Women having more choices is obviously a great thing but I do think unrealistic expectations on both sides has been a more recent phenomena.

Not that I care that much but will be interesting to see the divorce rate amoung the gay community. Will probably be alot lower.

 

[exe ex machina]

Anyone not in a romantic relationship should not see their life as meaningless or finding a partner as the be all and end all of existence and their only route to happiness.
It lasts a few years (or even months/weeks) at best then it morphs into something different, not necessarily something less but definitely something different.

Im coming across as jaded but its absolutely true.

So many lonely people in the world bemoaning the fact but never actually contemplate hooking up with each other because... actually I dont know why.
Stupidity most likely.
"Oh, I like him but I hes such a really good friend I wouldn't want to risk that" Really?
You think he's going to think "Well I used to enjoy chatting with her and spending time together but then she started sucking my dick and I just went off her completely"
Or.
"Im just not sure shes the one for me" Ok, so you mean her elbows are too pointy or you're just too chickenshit to put your hand on her thigh.

when people say they're friends and it'd be weird it means they simply just don't find them attractive and want to fck them and or be romantic. until one day it might happen after a drunken night together and then they realize it wasn't that bad and start finding them attractive -- only time it works (friends becoming lovers)

 

[William Wonka]

when people say they're friends and it'd be weird it means they simply just don't find them attractive and want to fck them and or be romantic. until one day it might happen after a drunken night together and then they realize it wasn't that bad and start finding them attractive -- only time it works (friends becoming lovers)

I dont buy this 'don't find them attractive' bullshit.

Most people would root most other people if they were being 100% honest to their desires rather than whatever ****ed up bullshit is going on between their ears.
"Hes too young for me", "Shes a vegan", "Hes unemployed", "Shes too old" "Pointy elbows" "Tattoos" "Bit fat" "Haircut"...

"Not exactly my type"

STFU!

 

[Scotland]

They were talking about divorce actually on AW this morning.

Said its just going up, like 50%ish rate

I've probably been to a dozen weddings in the last couple of years. Statistically half of those will end up in divorce. Obviously that's just an average but man that would suck.

 

[Scotland]

I dont buy this 'don't find them attractive' bullshit.

Most people would root most other people if they were being 100% honest to their desires rather than whatever ****** up bullshit is going on between their ears.
"Hes too young for me", "Shes a vegan", "Hes unemployed", "Shes too old" "Pointy elbows" "Tattoos" "Bit fat" "Haircut"...

"Not exactly my type"

STFU!

Nah, I don't think the bolded is right at all.

People making excuses and getting inside their own heads is a huge thing, though.

 

[Shell]

I've probably been to a dozen weddings in the last couple of years. Statistically half of those will end up in divorce. Obviously that's just an average but man that would suck.

My cousin was devastated. My aunty relayed the story of how his dad, my uncle, showed up at his house soon after it happened-and no one knew- and he literally broke down. Was so sad to hear that.

/other than that marriage ending, there has been no divorce in my family.

 

[footyfan1978]

I dont buy this 'don't find them attractive' bullshit.

Most people would root most other people if they were being 100% honest to their desires rather than whatever ****** up bullshit is going on between their ears.
"Hes too young for me", "Shes a vegan", "Hes unemployed", "Shes too old" "Pointy elbows" "Tattoos" "Bit fat" "Haircut"...

"Not exactly my type"

STFU!

Bullshit. I had a good female friend that I did not find attractive. I have certainly had other females that were friends and found attractive too, but not every female friend you find attractive physically. My friend had beady eyes. Could not be physically attractive to a woman with beady eyes even though she was a lovely girl.

 

[footyfan1978]

My sister got married to some seriously rich dude. I never really liked him. Turns out he was a control freak, My sister left him after about 5 months. Even went to other side of the nation and never come back so he could not track her down. Think it the only divorce in my family I ever heard of.

 

[Shell]

Bullshit. I had a good female friend that I did not find attractive. I have certainly had other females that were friends and found attractive too, but not every female friend you find attractive physically. My friend had beady eyes. Could not be physically attractive to a woman with beady eyes even though she was a lovely girl.

I have tonnes of male friends i dont find attractive at all.

Doss a perfect example of this.

 

[William Wonka]

Nah, I don't think the bolded is right at all.

People making excuses and getting inside their own heads is a huge thing, though.

Biologically its absolutely right.

Obviously there are extremes that a lot of people would baulk at but most average people will root most other average people given the right situation.

Take the pickiest of blokes who would normally pass on a girl who isn't blessed with good looks (there are very very few of these btw and they are normally young and stupid) give them a couple of weeks celibacy then follow that up with a night at the strippers and watch how many say no to a shag with that less than attractive chick thats good to go.


Women are slightly more fussy but not much.

Take the nerdy ginger who they went too school with and would not look twice at, five years later they see him in the VIP room at a club and all of a sudden geeky Ed Sheeran might be in with a chance after all.
This is an over the top example but the principle applies across the board.

The fact a man is successful, powerful, rich, talented, heroic, witty, generous, charismatic, sweet or can sing, dance, act or fight can influence his desirability to women but they are all learned or acquired atributes and skills.

If a woman would shag a wealthy environmentalist who can recite love sonnets if five different languages and just saved her from a burning building then she would in theory also root his twin brother who spends his days chroming in public parks and kicks puppies as a hobby.

 

[craigos]

Bullshit. I had a good female friend that I did not find attractive. I have certainly had other females that were friends and found attractive too, but not every female friend you find attractive physically. My friend had beady eyes. Could not be physically attractive to a woman with beady eyes even though she was a lovely girl.

Did you try hittin' it from the back?

 

[footyfan1978]

Did you try hittin' it from the back?

She was a friend mate, nothing more.

 

[William Wonka]

Bullshit. I had a good female friend that I did not find attractive. I have certainly had other females that were friends and found attractive too, but not every female friend you find attractive physically. My friend had beady eyes. Could not be physically attractive to a woman with beady eyes even though she was a lovely girl.

I said 'most'.
Anyway beady eyes, really?
Ok then, what if you were down the beach and she had mirror sunglasses?
Still couldn't find yourself able to root her?


Or you know as craigos said, pillow/face?

I have tonnes of male friends i dont find attractive at all.

Doss a perfect example of this.

Bigfooty moderators are notoriously unattractive, I believe its a prerequisite for the job.
I obviously exclude them automatically from any hypothetical discussions about human sexuality.

 

[Shell]

Did you try hittin' it from the back?

Or paper bag

 

[footyfan1978]

I said 'most'.
Anyway beady eyes, really?

Yes, beady eyes I cannot find attractive at all. The most attractive thing to me in other people physically is their eyes. Especially in the opposite sex.

 

[Gralin]

I have tonnes of male friends i dont find attractive at all.

Doss a perfect example of this.

How can you not find the great man attractive? Other than being an Essendon supporter he's pretty flawless, it's a big flaw I know but you go for Geelong so.....

 

[Andre]

Biologically its absolutely right.

Obviously there are extremes that a lot of people would baulk at but most average people will root most other average people given the right situation.

Blokes definitely. Take two single people (to keep it simple). If you've had a few drinks, if you were at their place or vice versa and your female friend / work mate / etc. went into the bathroom and came back naked and said 'We can't be friends/won't help you/talk to you anymore unless we have sex right now. And this will be a one off we will never speak of again', most guys would, if they were honest, know they'd go there, unless the other person was a 0, 1 or 2 on 1 - 10 in their eyes.

Flip it and there'd be a lot of guys losing friendships and/or being reported to the police. For women, there's still the dual one of looking 'slutty' in general and also more a worry it couldn't be written off as 'a one off', which would stop some of it. And there is the ladder theory. Men either have one ladder of hotness, or at the least are much more likely to cross from the friend to **** ladder and back without issue. That's much rarer for women. There's a reason almost all jokes about being friendzoned are women friend zoning men, not vice versa.

 

[GreyCrow]

Beady eyes up there with pointy elbows

 

[Shell]

Fwiw i dont like overly muscley type guys. Bald isnt great altho it does suit some men.

 

[William Wonka]

Blokes definitely. Take two single people (to keep it simple). If you've had a few drinks, if you were at their place or vice versa and your female friend / work mate / etc. went into the bathroom and came back naked and said 'We can't be friends/won't help you/talk to you anymore unless we have sex right now. And this will be a one off we will never speak of again', most guys would, if they were honest, know they'd go there, unless the other person was a 0, 1 or 2 on 1 - 10 in their eyes.

Flip it and there'd be a lot of guys losing friendships and/or being reported to the police. For women, there's still the dual one of looking 'slutty' in general and also more a worry it couldn't be written off as 'a one off', which would stop some of it. And there is the ladder theory. Men either have one ladder of hotness, or at the least are much more likely to cross from the friend to **** ladder and back without issue. That's much rarer for women. There's a reason almost all jokes about being friendzoned are women friend zoning men, not vice versa.

Plenty of women in this very thread talking about being 'friendzoned'.

Fwiw i dont like overly muscley type guys. Bald isnt great altho it does suit some men.

Preference for swimmers body rather than rugby player.
Not unusual, but are you honestly saying no to Hugh Jackman when hes bulked up?

 

[Andre]

Fwiw i dont like overly muscley type guys.

So more Brad Pitt fight club then Brad Pitt in Troy?

Bald isnt great altho it does suit some men.

I'd rather not have my hairline has receded, but once it happens for a guy you'd either take it all off or keep it very close cropped (mine I shave the head with the electric shaver each week). Trying to hide it just looks pathetic. I know I get beyond even a week of growth and I go from looking lean and fit to a middle aged skinny dweeb. It completely ruins any pretense of looking decent