For sure. That’s why this probably belongs in the random chat thread so we can continue to pull the piss out of the western here.To be clear , no one is suggesting any one currently at the bulldogs is involved in any way . The extent to which child abuse was and still maybe rife is a shame we all should bare
On the rare occasions he's felt compelled to tell his story since — to police, to employers who required an explanation for his mood swings, now to the world — Adam has always flinched at the prospect of the listener's incredulity. He understands the obvious question: why would you turn up and subject yourself to such horrors?
He sees now that he'd developed an "unhealthy" relationship with money, but it was not about the cash. More compelling was the confusing mixture of guilt, trauma and shame, and the fear he held of being "found out" and exposed. Like so many victims of childhood abuse, Adam had been convinced by his abuser that only he was at fault, a dilemma that silenced him.
He also recalls what he refers to as "the freeze" — he can still feel it, but he can't quite explain it.
"You know what's going on, but you just freeze in that moment," he says.
"You're in a trap, but you ignore it. I have an adult mind now. But that young kid's mind — how did it work? I can't relate to that now. It's gone."
It remains his greatest barrier to feeling believed: "Everyone thinks with their adult rationality,” he says.
“That doesn't work."
Agree, brutal stuff to read. Hopefully opening up can help him find some more support but what an awful experience.Honestly one of the saddest and horrific things I've ever read. I hope Adam is able to find some peace in his life. That kid never did anything to deserve such pain.
How can you possibly make that conclusion? He was good enough to make finals in his first year with a very young list. Not surprised an immature group are struggling to follow that up.At the current moment, Essendon are a genuinely cooked side. Im not talking about on field performance
Im referring to the coach
Rutten is a horrible coach. He doesn't inspire much hope for me.
So you finally got there. How does it rate to those you've been to in the west food wise?Big Pig Canteen - Moorabbin
Was here on Sunday. Good bbq and good live music in the industrial area. Legit had the most Austin type feel out of all the bbq joints in Melbourne other than Big Earl's in Port Melbourne
Yeah it was really good in every aspect. I was up in Mt Dandenong on Sunday and on the way home thought * it lets go as it's not much of a detourSo you finally got there. How does it rate to those you've been to in the west food wise?
Also damn you, haven't eaten since breakfast and that just made me starving and craving brisket.
Got a 2.5kg king island brisket in the fridge but no way I can wait for that.