Health NSA and what being a FB/Booty Call means

[IAMJUNGLEMUFFIN]

Had a post-coital conversation last night about things. The up-shot of that talk was that we're both available to each other, happy to continue sleeping together and the present situation shall remain.

She still has her dating profile up, and getting requests from dudes, she's actually going to meet one on Thursday for a coffee. Doesn't faze me. She had a movie date with another fella two weeks ago. Again, this doesn't bother me, because I'm the one she's sleeping with.

Like I said before, even if she doesn't want to continue, or she might click with another fella, I'm Ok with it. I have my confidence back, totally at ease with who I am, etc, and another babe is just around the corner

She wants you and is trying to make you jealous. She will get what she wants

Once saw a mural on a car: Men get married to have sex. Women have sex to get married.

Bish is gobbling you up, do I get an invite to the wedding?

 

[Sebastian Balboa]

She wants you and is trying to make you jealous. She will get what she wants

Once saw a mural on a car: Men get married to have sex. Women have sex to get married.

Bish is gobbling you up, do I get an invite to the wedding?

Nothing of what she does makes me jealous of her, not because I'm totally secure with her just it's that I don't really care. So when she drops these little bits of info, in my mind I'm all "Meh!".

Thing is, I'm tuning two others separately and they each live within half a km from me.

 

[IAMJUNGLEMUFFIN]

It's all well and good to not give a shit yourself, but women don't say stuff like that for no reason. At the very least, if she had no intentions regarding the future with those comments, you'd surely have to wonder why she would touch on it in the first place.

Have you asked yourself why she would tell you things about coffee/movie dates or dating profiles?

Perhaps I'm wrong, but I really can't see too many women being open to no strings attached shagging, and also not have any motives when bringing up other men/dating/the future.

 

[Sebastian Balboa]

It's all well and good to not give a shit yourself, but women don't say stuff like that for no reason. At the very least, if she had no intentions regarding the future with those comments, you'd surely have to wonder why she would touch on it in the first place.

Have you asked yourself why she would tell you things about coffee/movie dates or dating profiles?

Perhaps I'm wrong, but I really can't see too many women being open to no strings attached shagging, and also not have any motives when bringing up other men/dating/the future.

I know what you're saying.
If her motives are to get me jealous then she'd be wrong.
You know the saying, "The one who cares least in a relationship is the one who holds the most power", well, that would be me.

 

[I bleed Blue]

It's all well and good to not give a shit yourself, but women don't say stuff like that for no reason. At the very least, if she had no intentions regarding the future with those comments, you'd surely have to wonder why she would touch on it in the first place.

Have you asked yourself why she would tell you things about coffee/movie dates or dating profiles?

Perhaps I'm wrong, but I really can't see too many women being open to no strings attached shagging, and also not have any motives when bringing up other men/dating/the future.

Women like sex just as much as men. And not all women want to be in a relationship. Sounds like a good thing for the OP.

 

[I bleed Blue]

Recently single myself and have started shagging this one girl with no strings attached over the last month or so.

Working out really great so far. Twice a week or so she comes over we bang, then she say youve got work early I should let you sleep and she goes home. We havn't once spoke about what will happen etc and im happy to keep it that way for as long as I can.

Also have another one I know I can always booty call. Ive known her for ages and we ended up getting drunk and shagging one night. She knows I just got out of a relationship, and I told her straight up I didnt want her to get the wrong idea, and she just said "thats fine, im not expecting anything. But if you ever want to do that again just give me a call". Havnt called her again just yet because she isnt the greatest looker to be honest, but its good to know there is one to fall back on if the river drys up.

 

[WinmarToLockett]

Pretty much the only romantic relationship in my life that didn't end in tears when it finished was with a woman I was (purely) sleeping with.

Basically, it started well, and then ended well. No hurt feelings on either side.

 

[IAMJUNGLEMUFFIN]

Yeah, I know what you mean.

I guess I'd find it hard to handle someone trying to manipulate me, but hey, if a woman wants to put her back in to it, so to speak, I'd probably tolerate it.

 

[deeman12]

Recently single myself and have started shagging this one girl with no strings attached over the last month or so.

Obviously not really relevant to this thread, but did the long distance thing not work with your ex-girlfriend?

I'm interested in what why long distance didn't work for you and what wisdom you can pass onto bigfooty as a result. Alternatively, you can tell me to mind my own business if you didn't want to follow up on the thread.

 

[I bleed Blue]

Good memory Deeman. Nah mate it didn't work out.

There was a couple of reasons but basicly she didn't want to feel pressured to come home early. She understands I wasn't asking her to come home early or anything, and Ive always been really supportive of the things she wants to do. But she wanted to do an internship after her study and said she was putting pressure on herself to come home early etc. I definatly was willing to wait but yeah basicly she just needs some time to herself and figure out her life a bit more. Love was never an issue because we are/were still very in love.

We have both said we will hang out when she comes home (unsure when that is yet, most likely next year some time) and take it from there. If it works out thats great, if not then its not ment to be.

So yeah im not putting my life on hold on the chance we might get back together when she is back, but if that does eventuate then great.

Probably no real advice I can give anyone about the long distance relationship stuff. But best thing you can do after a break up is just keep yourself busy with your mates to keep your mind off it.

Bit weird being single again and seeing other girls but im getting back into the swing of it

 

[deeman12]

Shame to hear that mate. Can't speak first hand, but I'd imagine long distance would have had its difficulties.

Glad you're not moping around or crouched in foetal position waiting for her to come back. Good luck with it all and enjoy the benefits of single-dom.

 

[I bleed Blue]

Thanks mate

Ill try to remember to give an update of what happens when she gets back. In the mean time hopefully ill see what stories I can add to some of the threads here on GD

 

[Sebastian Balboa]

Ok so it's over, lasted for about a month.

How it ended:
It was actually her call to end it.
She thought she was getting emotionally involved with me. It's not what she wanted (with me at least); nor I with her, so she nipped that in the bud.
I hadn't developed any strong emotional feelings toward her, kinda felt bad about that considering, but reminded myself of what we talked about earlier.
So she called it off, I was a little stunned at first to be honest, but not really totally surprised, now totally fine with it.

Why it ended:
The sexual attraction kinda waned the last few days, both ways.
I was secretly hoping for a way out but keen to go along with it and get some action.
To be right into someone, for me, it's all about love, and sex with love is beautiful, let me tell you!
So with her it was just lust, primal urges being satisfied, every other day.

The future:
We're both keen to remain friends, sharing music, a coffee, talking about politics and other related issues. That was a surprising buzz, engaging with a woman along those lines. (Couldn't engage on an intellectual level with the ex)

Her future:
Met a dude on a dating site, keen to get involved with him on a more serious level.
Hope it goes well for her. (I'd give him a week and he'll be in the sack with her!)

My future:
Happy to continue meeting other women, as mentioned, there's others that have been flirting with so might need to step up that 'campaign'.
Good memories (fap memories if I have another dry spell!)

My recommendation:
By all means, if you meet someone and the lines of communication are clear, go for it.
I was lucky to have done it with someone in the same age group (early 40s) so we're on the same wavelength and similar life experiences.

 

[Vecto]

still going for me. about a month now.

 

[theboxmike]

You lucky ****s@!

 

[JimDocker]

I generally do not mind Americanisms, but booty call ?????

FFS !

 

[Hawk88]

I had a f*** buddy who was one of my good friends, we were going behind all our friends backs for about 3 months.

Long story short she meet one of my mates mates out one night and ended but getting into a relationship with him.

Have to admit it didn't really end well, when we would go out together as a group, she would be with him and I would be chasing other tail in the pub/club, she would get all shitty and shit.

I think her partner caught on an dumped her. Haven't seen her in 5 years.

 

[mick7]

Have to agree with the comment after OP that these never end well.

Just finished one up a while back because this person was msging me 4-5 times a day ringing me constantly (I never answered) and stalking my house! :O

Love and Stalker had the same meaning for this one...