Parent passing away

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Hi all

Just need some advice.

My father passed away at Xmas and I had 2 weeks off before he did and already had 2 weeks annual booked after he passed. Im now into my 3rd week back at work but I'm really starting to struggle mentally.

Do you think it's fair to ask for another 2-3 weeks off to clear my head as I'm starting to get quite stressed.

Cheers
 

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Hi all

Just need some advice.

My father passed away at Xmas and I had 2 weeks off before he did and already had 2 weeks annual booked after he passed. Im now into my 3rd week back at work but I'm really starting to struggle mentally.

Do you think it's fair to ask for another 2-3 weeks off to clear my head as I'm starting to get quite stressed.

Cheers
I do. But try and use that time to talk to someone about your stress and mental health. See if your work provides any psychologists for employees, that sort of thing. It's important to grieve but you also have to look after yourself.

It's going to be hard, but it will get better.
 

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Hi all

Just need some advice.

My father passed away at Xmas and I had 2 weeks off before he did and already had 2 weeks annual booked after he passed. Im now into my 3rd week back at work but I'm really starting to struggle mentally.

Do you think it's fair to ask for another 2-3 weeks off to clear my head as I'm starting to get quite stressed.

Cheers
What will you do to clear your head? dont sit at home and watch TV all day...
When my mum passed away i went back to work after 2 weeks, just to get life back in routine etc..
they wont deny you leave but maybe ask for 4 days?
 

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Hi all

Just need some advice.

My father passed away at Xmas and I had 2 weeks off before he did and already had 2 weeks annual booked after he passed. Im now into my 3rd week back at work but I'm really starting to struggle mentally.

Do you think it's fair to ask for another 2-3 weeks off to clear my head as I'm starting to get quite stressed.

Cheers
absolutely

call you boss and request a face to face meeting. Have prepared notes as you may loose your thoughts in the moment.

every decent boss will help find a solution that works for both.

good luck.
 

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You could ask do to go back 3 days a week for 2-3 weeks to ease back into it


Hi all

Just need some advice.

My father passed away at Xmas and I had 2 weeks off before he did and already had 2 weeks annual booked after he passed. Im now into my 3rd week back at work but I'm really starting to struggle mentally.

Do you think it's fair to ask for another 2-3 weeks off to clear my head as I'm starting to get quite stressed.

Cheers
As cheapcharlie suggested, before you go in, know exactly what you want and why it will help.

5 hour days 5-days a week could be good to get you back into routine.

2-3 days a week might give you more days off but also more time to think which isn't always a good thing.


make sure you also explain to your boss what you plan to do to get into the right head space.......exercise, time with family, speaking to a professional etc etc but can I suggest don't just do nothing.
 

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Hi all

Just need some advice.

My father passed away at Xmas and I had 2 weeks off before he did and already had 2 weeks annual booked after he passed. Im now into my 3rd week back at work but I'm really starting to struggle mentally.

Do you think it's fair to ask for another 2-3 weeks off to clear my head as I'm starting to get quite stressed.

Cheers
I'm sorry for your loss :(
I think it's definitely fair to ask for more time off- and no reasonable work place could or would try to deny it
I second the suggestion above to ease back into it when you feel it's the right time
But I'm confident that you'll do what's best for you
Take care x
 
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