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Davey Warner just grabbed the willow and said dish that s**t up and I'm smashing you to the car park ...lol.
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Davey Warner just grabbed the willow and said dish that s**t up and I'm smashing you to the car park ...lol.
Good heads up. I was considering a party - a housewarming party- to celebrate the family home title changing to my name only when i buy her out. But i was fearful of exactly what you just outlined. So perhaps i wont.Just a heads up and I don't want to harsh the vibe ( yes people still say this) . Its great the re-invention is happening and its great there is positivity , but from personal experience there is a cliff. I found myself throwing a small get together as part of the moving on about 3 months after. Spent the night crying to everyone about what I had done and what I had lost etc.
The best thing was having supportive friends, but it was such a reversal of how I was feeling. But it was part of the moving on. Accept it and understand it but don't let it hold you or make you make poor choices.
Smooth , we all feel the pain. Hold on to your kids and tell them you love them, then whisper to yourself I love me too.its really great to see you've got your s**t together!
I'm starting to believe more and more that I'm a worthless piece of s**t. I don't like me, I hate that I'm a loser, that I'm a loner, that I don't have many friends, that I'm fat, that I'm ugly, that I don't deserve to be any sort of happy. i hate that i seem to project this onto the people that i deal with
i just want it to all end, make the pain stop (not in the ultimate way in case its seen that way)
but in a positive, i get to see Ebby and RJ this weekend. I'm so excited about that. their dad may be stuffed in the head and generally loathed, but i love them so much. that's all that matters i think anyway
thanks dudeSmooth , we all feel the pain. Hold on to your kids and tell them you love them, then whisper to yourself I love me too.
Those words you tell yourself cant be banished overnight. They are the voices of our families and ourselves. What I would want you to do is change it up slightly .
I am a loser but I will turn into a winner.
I am a loner but it is ok to be comfortable in my own company. My friends I do have are more important than hangers on.
I am fat but I am working on it , look at all the weight I HAVE lost so far. I think I am ugly but I scored last weekend.
Hey guys
Second date tomorrow (same girl)
She rang me tonight and we had a great conversation ....deep with laughs
It went for 1.5 hours ...she knows where I'm at ...she was there two years ago
She's not trying to rescue me. We just connected. She is a really nice tall country girl who has pure heart too.
It's been 5 weeks since our official break up but really our break up was two years ago ...no sex for almost 2 years ...no connection
Big week ...new place ..new tv, grand final and a really nice girl to chill with ....she just gets life
I'm still riding my bike everyday .....she said to me you love to ride - I said it it heals wounds
She got it. My words aren't suddenly healed becaise I've gone on two dates .....no takes way longer
But the journey back up to "base camp" has begun
good work, although i personally would keep the phone calls short, save the conversation for the dates
I had been with my partner for close to 10 years.
She was already divorced, and things got serious really quickly. She pretty much moved in straight away and things were good. We then moved out of the share rental and rented our own place. We hit it off and seemed a perfect match.
There was no hurry to get married, she'd done it before and we wanted kids first, we got a boy and a girl, bought a house and things were fantastic.
Then in February this year, all of a sudden (to me) she started watching TV in the other room, started going to bed without saying goodnight and just didn't seem to want anything to do with me. She said she was under pressure at work, she also had a medical procedure coming up, so I thought maybe she's quite nervous about that. Then one night I got home and she was crying, said we needed to talk. She said she had no feelings for me at all, she didn't feel loved or appreciated and she'd been feeling this way since September of the year before, unbeknownst to me. The next night I said i'd change and we'd start spending more time together as a couple and have the kids babysat etc. but I was told that it was over.
No counselling, I've tried a couple of times to see if we could get things to work, but as of this moment, I now have no feelings for her too.For one it's not your fault
Blame is pointless ....would she do counselling
Has she asked you to leave ?
Then one night I got home and she was crying, said we needed to talk. She said she had no feelings for me at all, she didn't feel loved or appreciated and she'd been feeling this way since September of the year before, unbeknownst to me. The next night I said i'd change and we'd start spending more time together as a couple and have the kids babysat etc. but I was told that it was over.
Yeah agree
Sometimes just listening
If you can listen to a woman then that's all they want
Date 2 went well ...lunch out in public ...some kissing ...wow who me...yeah nice
Moving day tomorrow, place looks great. I'm back exercising eating well ...I'm leaving. But you it does t feel sad anymore and there's some excitement in my life. It's staggering 6 weeks ago I listed how my life was in tatters
The one thing that got me through it ...well two things ....my workplace is rock solid and they support me fully
Good mates who aren't piss heads ....quiet ale is ok, getting ripped torn drink does not fix anything
I wrote this down In my journal about 5 weeks ago
I've been hit by life's bus, if I sit here on the road crying about it and complaining about and blaming everyone I'll get hit by another bus.
I got off the road and dusted myself ...licked my wounds (they will take a while longer by the way) but I needed to find a bus stop to catch a bus to a different life. I just kept saying ...even aloud in the car while driving "I am a good man"
Exercise, therapy, good food, exercise, freindships and golf have helped me massively ...connections and building new bridges ....not crossing the deep river on my own.
I have some ways to go still - but I'm nailing it
Oddly I looked at my ex wife this morning and I can honestly say she does t look so sharp now ....but to be honest that's for her to figure out. I have a hunch she knows I'm dating someone - it's town of 40,000 not hard to work out. It's dating not marriage.
Boys you can recover .....you can
You just have to accept the pain not push it way or submerge it deeper ....
Do some work ...counselling
Exercise to get your dopamine levels going again ...dopamine is crucial
Be around good people ....ditch your s**t freinds who are Hangers on
Eat well ......critical
Be patient
Dont bitch and complain about the ex too much ...yes vent if needed but keep it balanced
Get back to doing the things you love ...be selfish for a bit ...it's about You Not her.
I just found out last night from my ex that she is looking for a roommate to help pay her rent/costs. now that's fine, understand that, makes sense.
but this person is a male, from her work, recently separated also, and same age.
Sorry to hear this . In a way I guess you have had time to process the possibility. The '' moving in to help the rent'' sounded suss and in some ways you would have been dreading the next step. Well now its here and you recognize it feels terrible. That's a good step. Now to take control of your own life.
yeh, i must admit ive been kind of calm the past hour or so since I found out. I think I did process it and expected it at some stage, and even though its come quicker than (I) expected, I can now just mark it down as the inevitable step that has 'now happened' ...