Please help me

[Gough]

At least watching Carlton you can see people worse off than you are.

 

[CLUBMEDhurst]

I nearly got the arse at work today because of how this is all affecting me.

Your GP should give you a sick note

 

[undefined]

IschenkoUBeauty I really do hope you're starting to see some light at the end of the tunnel, even if it's the tiniest glimpse.

Full credit to your fellow BigFooty members, they've given some truly brilliant advice. Just keep grinding buddy. It's tough, I know. I've been there. Hell, I still am there.

Calling me a mental case would be an accurate statement. I live a terrific lifestyle and have little reason to be depressed, however I can barely derive happiness from anything. It's come to the point where I don't care for anyone, really. Or any thing. I'm screaming inside, finding a reason to keep on crawling along is something I struggle with every day.

Deep down I know there's a reason, though; hence my persistence. I'm stubborn by nature and refuse to lose this fight.

No matter how terrible you're feeling, just know you aren't alone, and there are endless avenues of assistance. Having outlets help keep me temporarily sane. For instance, I surf in the mornings and play golf in the afternoon, provided I've not got Uni/work. I recommend you spend an increased amount of time doing something you enjoy. As tough as it sounds, try and take care of your body.

If it ever gets too much for you, just hop in the shower & just cry. Let it all out. I find that quite therapeutic. Take it day by day, no matter how monotonous life may seem.

Feel free to inbox me if you're in desperate need of a rant recipient. I'll listen to WHATEVER you have to say.

You've got this, mate. Soldier on

 

[IschenkoUBeauty]

To make matters worse, the new lady that was in my life has completely deserted me. Won't even take my call, nothing. heck.

 

[GarnerSmash]

To make matters worse, the new lady that was in my life has completely deserted me. Won't even take my call, nothing. heck.

Thats more a reflection on her than you mate.

Keep at it. Day by day just keep at it.

 

[T2B_]

To make matters worse, the new lady that was in my life has completely deserted me. Won't even take my call, nothing. heck.

Anyone who would desert you in such a time of need is not worth it IMO.

Easy for me to say of course and you may still not feel any better about it. But just know that there's better people out there.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

How are you IUB?

 

[HBF]

How are you IUB?

We're all worried about you IUB.
Any updates mate?

 

[Smoooothy]

gotta say, this is a beautiful show of support being demonstarted by the bigfooty community here. its great to know that complete strangers are genuinely concerned about another genuine stranger

IUB, i've been there too, but i'm not sure i've been to as dark a place as you have. it sucks. keep your chin up, vent away, whatever makes you feel better

 

[IschenkoUBeauty]

Still no good, and with what's happened with my relationship, it's made things worse. I don't understand how I can go from being the best thing ever to someone to zilch, just like that.

I'm more than just a 20-inch dick you know.....

I'm not angry about what's happened...just hollow. All the memories seem tainted unless it can be worked out. Which is a shame because they're the memories of a lifetime.

 

[LanceRomance]

Is the relationship the cause of the issues?

Because if that's the case mate. .... many have been there including myself a few years back.

Feel free to PM me anytime

 

[IschenkoUBeauty]

Is the relationship the cause of the issues?

Because if that's the case mate. .... many have been there including myself a few years back.

Feel free to PM me anytime

Nope - the relationship was the only real joy I had. Now that's gone.

 

[Gough]

Hugs mate.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

How's the counseling going IUB? I hope you've found someone you're comfortable with to speak to.

I know this is going to sound hollow right now, but things will get better if you're committed to making them so. It won't feel like it now but no woman who will leave you when you need her most is going to make your life better.

 

[craigos]

Still no good, and with what's happened with my relationship, it's made things worse. I don't understand how I can go from being the best thing ever to someone to zilch, just like that.

I'm more than just a 20-inch dick you know.....

I'm not angry about what's happened...just hollow. All the memories seem tainted unless it can be worked out. Which is a shame because they're the memories of a lifetime.

Well, that's above average appendage. Buying Y Fronts must be a real bitch.

As someone who was in a bit of a funk a few years ago I did something way out of my comfort zone and traveled alone to a place not many of my friends could even point to on a map. I told work i needed a few months off and if I couldn't I had to quit. I basically needed to be away from everything and everyone that was familiar. Was it frightening? absolutely! But I found that I could be free of everything (technology) and everyone that was making me feel bad about who I was. I saw all these people who I thought had perfect lives (they don't by the way) and I was becoming angry, anxious and saddened about who I was (single, friends all partnered, sh*t job etc).

After seeing some of the things I saw and the different world out there it changed my life completely. Whilst I highly recommend you see and continue to see a psychologist I'd recommend maybe writing down a list of things that give you some sort of happiness. With that list rank them in order of what gives you the most to least happiness. There'll probably be a common theme in there, mine was sport and the outdoors. I decided to head off and volunteer as a sports teacher (with no experience) and from that I learnt that I'm not as much of a twat as I thought and helping people gave me a ten times better sense of self-worth than a massive bank balance. So now I'm working towards that.

I think a change of environment can be a huge benefit, whether it be short or long term. Set yourself some goals to save the money you would have pissed up the wall and give yourself that option to take a trip somewhere, doesn't have to overseas, could be down the coast but just away from what you're familiar with.

You need to have little wins along the way though, I was struggling a bit again of late and decided to grab my tent and head off for a night with a mate. No phones, just a campfire and a couple of beers and a lot rubbish being spoke. Freshened me up better than a KFC towlette.

Keep punching on dude, idle hands are the devils playground. Play some fifa, go for a walk, have a wank and a hot chocolate then watch some Star Wars. When you're feeling down, you can't rationalise anything. So if you're having a moment of clarity write down why you were so down at that point in time, keep a notebook of all things and don't be afraid to tell people you're seeing a Psychologist, you'd be amazed by the amount of people that do. It's not the 1950's equivalent of getting an STD test anymore

 

[BALKAN]

Nope - the relationship was the only real joy I had. Now that's gone.

It always sucks when you invest emotionally in another person and they let you down. I suppose the lesson is to not let yourself get attached, but then you're potentially missing out on something wonderful when the right person comes along. I guess the take-home message is that we are all just leaves being blown by the winds of fate and the only way through the storm is to KEEP HUSTLIN CUZ

 

[SHAKESPEARE]

Nope - the relationship was the only real joy I had. Now that's gone.

New relationships are awesome i hear

 

[chugginon]

Thats more a reflection on her than you mate.

Keep at it. Day by day just keep at it.

I agree with this, IschenkoUBeauty ...... keep at it and look after yourself, mate

 

[chugginon]

How's the counseling going IUB? I hope you've found someone you're comfortable with to speak to.

I know this is going to sound hollow right now, but things will get better if you're committed to making them so. It won't feel like it now but no woman who will leave you when you need her most is going to make your life better.

Well said, MEB_

 

[HBF]

How's the counseling going IUB? I hope you've found someone you're comfortable with to speak to.

I know this is going to sound hollow right now, but things will get better if you're committed to making them so. It won't feel like it now but no woman who will leave you when you need her most is going to make your life better.

An ex of mine did this to me. When i was first struggling with anxiety she wanted me to go and see a psychologist. After my first visit, came home and she asked how i went. I said ok and i would keep up the visits. About half an hour later she ended the relationship.

 

[craigos]

An ex of mine did this to me. When i was first struggling with anxiety she wanted me to go and see a psychologist. After my first visit, came home and she asked how i went. I said ok and i would keep up the visits. About half an hour later she ended the relationship.

That's cold man, so cold.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

An ex of mine did this to me. When i was first struggling with anxiety she wanted me to go and see a psychologist. After my first visit, came home and she asked how i went. I said ok and i would keep up the visits. About half an hour later she ended the relationship.

It ended up to be for the best, though

 

[Smoooothy]

An ex of mine did this to me. When i was first struggling with anxiety she wanted me to go and see a psychologist. After my first visit, came home and she asked how i went. I said ok and i would keep up the visits. About half an hour later she ended the relationship.

wow....

women can be so heartless self involved bitches

 

[James_Blues]

wow....

women can be so heartless self involved bitches

Goes both ways, not just limited to one particular gender. Some people are just inherently selfish and if people aren't meeting certain needs of theirs cut the 'dead weight' so to speak.

Hope things are getting better mate!

 

[HBF]

It ended up to be for the best, though

Sure has.....