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You will be so physically and mentally stuffed that sex will be the last thing on your mind...........
 
Dude. If she won't put out after 6 weeks, just find a good wristy house. Keeps ur head straight and stops u having arguments with your baby obsessed selfish wife.
 

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Tiredness & frayed nerves are what people immediately think of, but there is another more important consideration -- Breast feeding.

The new Mum is immediately put under pressure by the nurses & the breast feeding Nazis. If a problem occurs she is blamed, harangued & belittled into continuing on breast feeding with any other alternative pilloried.

Some new Mum's can breast feed no problems, but sometimes a new Mum cannot because of any of a 100 reasons, she should not be held up to scorn, rather the alternatives, bottle milk, should be discussed.

The breast feeding Nazis should learn to help, not harass, after all what is best for bubs & new Mum is the issue.

As for sex after birth, it can't be rushed, when nature is ready it's perfect again.
 
Asgardian said:
Tiredness & frayed nerves are what people immediately think of, but there is another more important consideration -- Breast feeding.

The new Mum is immediately put under pressure by the nurses & the breast feeding Nazis. If a problem occurs she is blamed, harangued & belittled into continuing on breast feeding with any other alternative pilloried.

Some new Mum's can breast feed no problems, but sometimes a new Mum cannot because of any of a 100 reasons, she should not be held up to scorn, rather the alternatives, bottle milk, should be discussed.

The breast feeding Nazis should learn to help, not harass, after all what is best for bubs & new Mum is the issue.

As for sex after birth, it can't be rushed, when nature is ready it's perfect again.
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OH ****, I agree with Asgard. Now I am going to have a shower. :(
 
in my experiences, we waited about 6 weeks each time. everything had healed correctly and she was keen as mustard

however, because of all the ****ed up sleep patterns etc, we rarely wanted it at the same time in the first year/18 months. trust me, it does get better..

my advise, get a good internet connection - you'll need it..
 
Mr_Smooth said:
in my experiences, we waited about 6 weeks each time. everything had healed correctly and she was keen as mustard

however, because of all the screwed up sleep patterns etc, we rarely wanted it at the same time in the first year/18 months. trust me, it does get better..

my advise, get a good internet connection - you'll need it..
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lol:D
 
Its a perfectly legitimate question, the couples that dont address it end up divorced.

Cmarsh, there are diffrences as to what you define as intimacy (ie action) and what your wife/partner will after the birth. They have just gone through a huge trauma which leaves them feeling like shit and viewing themselves as unattractive with little self esteem in terms of how they view their body. As pointed out before the breast feeding doesnt help either.

Trust me, it will happen however you need to realise exactly what her body has gone through and the recovery time. It took me a while to realise and I learnt that in that time just try to make her feel special, take the little one for a walk or tell your wife/partner to go out and get a massage, or catch up with friends, anything where she can get a bit of her own time. She already has a baby that needs her 90% of the time and might feel overawed with her husband/partner badgering her for action.

To her the baby is number 1, not you. That will change as time goes on and it doesnt mean she feels any less different about you, its just she has gone through all of this physically and emotionally and will take some time to feel herself again.....and when she does youll probably end up with another one and repeat the cycle :D
 
Bosun said:
Its a perfectly legitimate question, the couples that dont address it end up divorced.

Cmarsh, there are diffrences as to what you define as intimacy (ie action) and what your wife/partner will after the birth. They have just gone through a huge trauma which leaves them feeling like shit and viewing themselves as unattractive with little self esteem in terms of how they view their body. As pointed out before the breast feeding doesnt help either.

Trust me, it will happen however you need to realise exactly what her body has gone through and the recovery time. It took me a while to realise and I learnt that in that time just try to make her feel special, take the little one for a walk or tell your wife/partner to go out and get a massage, or catch up with friends, anything where she can get a bit of her own time. She already has a baby that needs her 90% of the time and might feel overawed with her husband/partner badgering her for action.

To her the baby is number 1, not you. That will change as time goes on and it doesnt mean she feels any less different about you, its just she has gone through all of this physically and emotionally and will take some time to feel herself again.....and when she does youll probably end up with another one and repeat the cycle :D
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HA HA Bosun excellent post, obviously someone speaking from experience. :thumbsu:
 
Wow. What is with some people in this thread (especially Mantis) jumping down the OP's throat.

Where has he posted that he doesn't care about his wife, doesn't understand and appreciate everything she is going through and doesn't love her unconditionally? In fact, I'm sure the OP does love and care about his wife.

He is just asking a question about the unknown afterwards. Sex is a big part of every relationship so I think its fair enough that he is at least curious as to what to expect. He never said he only wants to get his rocks off, and can't wait untill she can have sex again.

Mantis you are a dick head... and on a totattly unrelated note- No one gives a shit about your dog!
 

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mantis said:
I'm guessing he won't be getting up in the night, he will leave it up to the "misses" & after she comes back to bed, she better be willing to have sex.

Gawd I hope this is a joke thread, do we really want people like this breeding? :eek:
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And how is your son these days?
 

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Docker Clint said:
Some people get anal about post baby intimacy.
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