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Yeah exactly, and we live in a society where companies don't give a * about you. You can be downtrodden, shittest of the s**t, working a job you hate with people you don't gel with, and they put on this front just to give off the impression they're good guys.The idea of the day in theory isn't so bad but I just find the way they do it, especially at my work, wishy washy bullshit, especially coming from the admin team, who you know couldn't really give a s**t, and if you dropped dead tomorrow would just replace you and forget you ever existed.
Even if someone I had known for years came to me... I'd tell their folks or get them involved with a doctor. I guess that isn't a bad thing but sheesh.It's the same for any day that proclaims to 'raise awareness'
the average person doesn't know how to handle a depressed friend or family member, and although they have the best intentions and want to see you healthy and happy, they also subconsciously perhaps (like everyone) don't really want to know the specifics of your sadness.
this is why i re-iterate the post I made 2 years ago. if you feel compelled to talk about it (emphasis on if) then do so with someone who has received tertiary qualifications in the mental health field, and is licenced to prescribe medication.
Yeah it's such a touchy subject that no one dare says anything even when someone's playing it up. I had a down period that lasted a good 6-7 months. I refused to go to a doctor because I knew it'd pass eventually. I made a few different choices and changes and I'm better off now.I feel its dicing with intense karma to play the mental health card when you know its not the case just to get yourself a leave pass out of some s**t you got yourself into. Very very bad karma. And you should feel eternally guilty for all the genuine sufferers out there.
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Would like to add, once went and saw a psychologist after the passing of a close friend. This guy was qualified and very personable. The only issue was he was good looking, well dressed and (obviously) intelligent. Not sure why but but I reckon I'd have been more open to listening to someone a little more messed up. Like at least ugly as all hell so I know they've had some issues growing up, not that good looking people can't be messed up but ya feel me?It's the same for any day that proclaims to 'raise awareness'
the average person doesn't know how to handle a depressed friend or family member, and although they have the best intentions and want to see you healthy and happy, they also subconsciously perhaps (like everyone) don't really want to know the specifics of your sadness.
this is why i re-iterate the post I made 2 years ago. if you feel compelled to talk about it (emphasis on if) then do so with someone who has received tertiary qualifications in the mental health field, and is licenced to prescribe medication.
Would like to add, once went and saw a psychologist after the passing of a close friend. This guy was qualified and very personable. The only issue was he was good looking, well dressed and (obviously) intelligent. Not sure why but but I reckon I'd have been more open to listening to someone a little more messed up. Like at least ugly as all hell so I know they've had some issues growing up, not that good looking people can't be messed up but ya feel me?
Worked for Tony Soprano I guess.maybe its part of the counselling. sexual arousal and lust replaces the grief.
Yeah exactly, and we live in a society where companies don't give a **** about you. You can be downtrodden, shittest of the s**t, working a job you hate with people you don't gel with, and they put on this front just to give off the impression they're good guys.
Also, depression is ******. But not as many people have it as they think. We are humans and we have down periods. We aren't manufactured to be completely happy all the time. People feel s**t for a few weeks and see it as a symptom. No, it's up and down, that is the reality of existence.
Not to mention... well... if a co-worker came to me and said, 'hey man... I feel really low... I want to kill myself sometimes...' well what can I say? I'm sorry? Hey dude, wanna chat about it? The reality is most people have their own dramas and do not have the time to entertain yours. Not to mention I am not a registered shrink nor have I done any real research or schooling in the field. A mate told me he was depressed once and I didn't know what to say. People routinely tell me s**t, both at work and as friends, and I listen and like to think I give good advice... but ultimately, what can I say to help? What can I do? A relative stranger at work won't do s**t and tbh how could they?
Yeah exactly, and we live in a society where companies don't give a **** about you. You can be downtrodden, shittest of the s**t, working a job you hate with people you don't gel with, and they put on this front just to give off the impression they're good guys.
I can't even remember the context but I remember I was about 16, 17. A mate of mine from early on had a bit of a screwy mum and she'd go off for weekends and obviously everyone in our loose sort of crew went there. Was sort of a coming of age house where you'd rock up with six Coopers, there'd be boys and girls, few hook ups with some shittily put up fairy lights, and then walk home singing songs with whoever lived in the suburbs near you. Anyway, I don't even recall who it was (have a vague idea though) but I remember sitting against this Colorbond fence and they told me out of a random teenage 'D&M' (one of the great Myspace era phrases, that) how they'd been molested. I don't know the details and I'm really thankful for that because I'm sure they woke up regretting it and I remember they told me in strict confidence because 'SA, you seem to always know everything about everyone.' But yeah I just remember giving some advice and that was it.If someone confessed to me that they were depressed or feeling suicidal, I would thank them for opening up, ask them if they wanna go grab a cinammon latte and discuss it, and ultimately tell them to speak to a professional. I don't mind having friends vent at me about how s**t their job is or how annoying their family is or something, because I vent too. But if somebody has actual issues and wants to unload them on me, is it selfish to say that I don't actually want to know all the details? Obviously there are different levels, but some people have gone through some serious s**t and if somebody opened up to me about genuine trauma they've suffered I honestly would be lost for words, and in turn they'd probably feel dumb for saying anything.
The idea of the day in theory isn't so bad but I just find the way they do it, especially at my work, wishy washy bullshit, especially coming from the admin team, who you know couldn't really give a s**t, and if you dropped dead tomorrow would just replace you and forget you ever existed.
Isn't this is the point - that you can't always tell when someone might be struggling?It shouldn't take singling out a day for people to ask if you're ok (assuming you're not yourself or seem very off). I ask my mates if they're right when they don't seem so, whenever that may be.
I think you probably need to differentiate between systems and people. I have never met a human being who wasn't profoundly affected by the suicide of a colleague, even if their job has necessitated replacing the person quickly for the efficient running of the organisation.The idea of the day in theory isn't so bad but I just find the way they do it, especially at my work, wishy washy bullshit, especially coming from the admin team, who you know couldn't really give a s**t, and if you dropped dead tomorrow would just replace you and forget you ever existed.