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[Matele]

This is code for "I don't like you in that way" from a girl that likes you enough as a friend to try not to hurt your feelings.

Sorry mate.

But it's okay. The good news is that you don't have to change anything about yourself, other than to stop worrying whether girls like you or not.

Unless you have literally known someone for years and the are one of your very best friends over the long term, this is not a real excuse and it never will be. There is absolutely no risk of anything by being yourself, just be yourself. The girls will feel however they feel about you and you can't control that. Just be safe in the knowledge that there are 3.5 billion women on this planet and you're the right guy for at a very conservative estimate, tens of thousands of them.

You'll find the right ones when you don't worry so much about it.

Yeah, I'm not fretting about it or anything. I just wish I knew how to avoid hearing that line all the time.

The first girl that fed me that line really liked me at one point. I know that as a fact, but something must have changed. Water under the bridge anyway. As you say, there will be plenty more where she came from. Just gott a keep at it.

God I've heard that one too many times. I seem to become the grief counsellor/shoulder to cry on for bad relationships and life in general.

There was one girl who went out with, broke up with FIVE TIMES and everytime I got the cliche line of "I wish I had someone like you. Id go out with you if you were someone else".

Eventually I turned around and said, "Its now or never". She said no so I stopped talking to her. Deleted any contact with her and my life has been somewhat nicer, to an extent.

Mate, I hear you! I was mad inlove with a girl who used to he my best friend (the first girl in my previous story). She would always come to me when the dickheads she dated treated her like crap, always said the same thing too " why can't they be like you". I never gave her an ultimatum like you did. I just cut her out of my life when she moved away. She got with this guy that I knew was using her for sex. So I told her what was gonna happen and told her I wouldn't he there for her, because it was just a vicious circle. Keeping my hopes up without ever going anywhere.

I must say, its been a year without her in my life, and I honestly have never felt happier with who I am.

EDIT: obvious a lot more complicated then I made that situation sound like, but yeah.

 

[Dylan8]

and always remember, you are not entitled to sexytime, don't get upset if a girl doesn't wanna be with you.

 

[Matele]

and always remember, you are not entitled to sexytime, don't get upset if a girl doesn't wanna be with you.

Gotta be respectful.

If someone gets upset about something like that, that's a deep flaw in their character for me.

 

[El_Scorcho]

Yeah, I'm not fretting about it or anything. I just wish I knew how to avoid hearing that line all the time.

The first girl that fed me that line really liked me at one point. I know that as a fact, but something must have changed. Water under the bridge anyway. As you say, there will be plenty more where she came from. Just gott a keep at it.

You're gonna hear the line, it's gonna happen. People use it because it's nicer than saying "nah I have no interest". Just don't let it get to you. It's not because you keep being too friendly with girls or anything really, it just is what it is.

The only other way to avoid hearing it is to avoid asking anyone out, which is a viable option. Eventually someone will come along and you'll just know.

 

[Matele]

I think we need a "DR. El_Scorcho" thread.

 

[Matele]

You're gonna hear the line, it's gonna happen. People use it because it's nicer than saying "nah I have no interest". Just don't let it get to you. It's not because you keep being too friendly with girls or anything really, it just is what it is.

The only other way to avoid hearing it is to avoid asking anyone out, which is a viable option. Eventually someone will come along and you'll just know.

Yeah, I used to get really hung up on it. I wanted to be wanted by someone so badly when I was in high school.

I learnt a lot about myself in 2014 and made a lot of changes for the better.

I'm the kinda guy who believes that if it's meant to be, it will be. Just gotta wait for that someone to come along.

 

[El_Scorcho]

Yeah, I used to get really hung up on it. I wanted to be wanted by someone so badly when I was in high school.

I learnt a lot about myself in 2014 and made a lot of changes for the better.

I'm the kinda guy who believes that if it's meant to be, it will be. Just gotta wait for that someone to come along.

Sounds like you've got the right attitude about it! Nobody will love you until you love yourself. Nobody will need you until you don't need anyone else. It's all a bit shit but it's the way it works.

The main thing is just to be yourself, even if you're weird. Again, 3.5 billion women on earth.

 

[Matele]

Sounds like you've got the right attitude about it! Nobody will love you until you love yourself. Nobody will need you until you don't need anyone else. It's all a bit shit but it's the way it works.

The main thing is just to be yourself, even if you're weird. Again, 3.5 billion women on earth.

That's the exact conclusion I came to. I had to find who I was. I may still have my off days, but I'm in a hell of a better place then I was 18 months ago.

 

[Stromageddon]

So, lads.

I need some advice.
My bestfriend/ex/'It's Complicated' Girlfriend has recently stopped talking to me on all social media. No reason at all, I promise. I have not done anything to piss her off and it's ONLY me. I know this because my I asked my friend to test her and she replied to her.

However, in person, she is absolutely fine with me. I am pretty sure.

Anyway, why is she being like this?

I look forward to what the people of yahooanswe FJGDAnswers have as answers..

Is this the girl I have on my Facebook too?

 

[Stromageddon]

haha yep that's when I first knew him, I think it was "Alex's ****in Sweet Dream Team!" or something along those lines. I remember him interviewing Chad Cornes in the seats of AAMI Stadium in about 2008, the bloke had no idea what Alex was on about. Or was it Andrew Embley? Or both

Yeah. He did Daniel Motlop too. He said his favourite indigenous players were Dom Cassisi and Nic Natanui

 

[Stromageddon]

Just remember. If she 'friendzoned' you, then you 'relationshipzoned' her.

Consider which one might be worse.

 

[TheLoungeLizard]

avoid relationships, learn the guitar and slay groupie pussy all night long, yeeeaahhhh

 

[Fizzler]

Ando, whatever you do, don't go for a walk, walk past her hous, stay there, wait for her mum, have her mum invite you in and then you enter awkwardly. I may or may not have done this, while this girl had a boy friend. Just please don't do this.

 

[Jack Stevens]

Ando, whatever you do, don't go for a walk, walk past her hous, stay there, wait for her mum, have her mum invite you in and then you enter awkwardly. I may or may not have done this, while this girl had a boy friend. Just please don't do this.

Aren't you 11?

 

[Andonis1997]

avoid relationships, learn the guitar and slay groupie pussy all night long, yeeeaahhhh

I do play guitar...

Is this the girl I have on my Facebook too?

Nope, she's been single for 7 months now. Go get her, tiger!

Ando, whatever you do, don't go for a walk, walk past her hous, stay there, wait for her mum, have her mum invite you in and then you enter awkwardly. I may or may not have done this, while this girl had a boy friend. Just please don't do this.

Oh my god

 

[NM_Mitchell]

Ando, whatever you do, don't go for a walk, walk past her hous, stay there, wait for her mum, have her mum invite you in and then you enter awkwardly. I may or may not have done this, while this girl had a boy friend. Just please don't do this.

#slayitfizzles
seriously aren't you in Primary school?
i'm still making fun of the dickheads in year 8 getting girlfriends.

 

[Stromageddon]

I do play guitar...


Nope, she's been single for 7 months now. Go get her, tiger!


Oh my god

Just because her boobs are ****ing massive doesn't mean it's legal for me to do.

How old is she now?

 

[Jack Stevens]

Man, the last couple of pages of this thread is bringing back some bad repressed memories. It's not early enough in the morning and I'm not drunk and lonely enough to get into any real detail, but I met a girl at a party at the start of the summer holidays between year 11 and 12. That night, and for a few months after, I believed in love at first sight and thought I'd met the one and other cliches.

Anyway, after giving me all of the early signs that we'd have a long and happy life together with a dog and three kids and a holiday house on the Island, she decided that she'd lost interest and nothing ever really came from it. I tried my hardest to keep contact with her, but somehow got caught up in her friendship group imploding, and copped a lot of the blame for it (which was bullshit. I'd only met 2 and a half of her friends and tried my best not to speak to them as they weren't exactly great people (probably why the implosion happened). A heap of shit that had happened was pinned on me even though I'd actively made sure I had nothing to do with it).

I ended up deleting every form of contact I had with her, because seeing her name just made me depressed in the end. It didn't help that I did a class at her school in year 12 (specialist), with some of her friends in the class who probably knew me as that campaigner who ruined everything. Those classes were shit. The last I heard from her was a couple of exchanged long, ranty messages when she realised that I'd deleted her from Facebook. In hindsight my last message probably killed any chance I ever had of ever having anything to do with her in the future, but it helped me move on.

I saw her at the gym a couple of months ago. We made very brief eye contact (I was on a treadmill and probably looked like Relton Roberts trying to run laps) and she left pretty much straight away.

 

[rabbitoh21]

Just gonna mention I had a girlfriend that gave me the "I don't wanna risk the friendship" line for 4 years before we dated. Wasn't worried about our friendship when her ankles were on my shoulders, but I digress... Some girls genuinely mean it but will come around eventually, others won't. Girls aren't as formulaic as we are

 

[Dylan8]

Aren't you 11?

Slaying already

 

[Stromageddon]

Wasn't worried about our friendship when her ankles were on my shoulders, but I digress...

Well that's an awkward way to give a piggy back ride, and a sure fire way to get someone injured. What are you, a maniac?

 

[Stromageddon]

Aren't you 11?

I lost my virginity before I was even double digits, so Fizzler is late by my standards.

 

[El_Scorcho]

I lost my virginity before I was even double digits, so Fizzler is late by my standards.

Jesus Christ.

Does that even count?

 

[Dylan8]

I lost my virginity before I was even double digits, so Fizzler is late by my standards.

That sounds awful.

 

[Stromageddon]

Jesus Christ.

Does that even count?

That sounds awful.

I'll bump "MY BOSS"