Rate your year out of 10

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#76
Sounds like a very awesome year from the good.
Those months that I was away, I'd rate 10/10, even though those guy troubles overlapped with that time. The other 7 months of the year have been completely miserable. Having 2 contact hours at uni per fortnight (10 hours for the semester - when compared to my exchange experience, this was particularly miserable) meant that the only time I really got out of the house was for work, and there were weeks where I didn't have any shifts. My depression meant that I was spending all of my time either in bed or on the couch, completely unable to get out of bed at a decent hour if I didn't have work (or the rare occasion I had uni, which started in the afternoon). I got my worst uni results on first and second year classes, which I had deliberately left until last so that I could finish on a high note. I started medication in September, after a couple of months of counselling, and I was starting to feel a bit better up until maybe mid-December, but I can feel myself going downhill again. Along with cutting ties with my closest friend of such a long time, it's been a very tough time since I got back.
 

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#77
Sadly reading over these pages the 'falling out' with friends seems to be a common disappointment for many.

Why is this?

I may be generalising but it seems to be amongst the early 20's...is it because the bond of secondary college wanes after school's out?

Rather sad reading. :(
I don't think I have ever had a "falling out" with a friend. Some we have drifted apart over time but when all you talk about is girls, sport and food and drink, what could go wrong? :D
 

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#79
Just out of curiosity, how to they diagnose such a thing?

It's not like say....a broken ankle
Generally by asking questions, or listening to you, they might get notes from a psychologist or whatever if you see them beforehand.

Mainly by looking for symptoms of depression, and distinguishing them from just general sadness. Sounds the same, but you can generally tell if it's depression when you talk to them for long enough.
 

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Just out of curiosity, how to they diagnose such a thing?

It's not like say....a broken ankle
It's not as physically obvious, but it's just as real. When your counsellor asks you to set your alarm on the other side of the room, so that you have to get out of bed to turn it off, and you get up, turn off the alarm and go straight back to bed for a few hours is one sign. Asking you to go for one ten minute walk for the week and you can't is another.

Being a psychology student, I know that the DSM has a criteria of symptoms for major depression, so that would be specifically what counsellors are looking for. Things like weight change, decreased interest in activities, fatigue, sleep problems, lack of concentration, depressed mood etc.
 

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It's not as physically obvious, but it's just as real. When your counsellor asks you to set your alarm on the other side of the room, so that you have to get out of bed to turn it off, and you get up, turn off the alarm and go straight back to bed for a few hours is one sign. Asking you to go for one ten minute walk for the week and you can't is another.

Being a psychology student, I know that the DSM has a criteria of symptoms for major depression, so that would be specifically what counsellors are looking for. Things like weight change, decreased interest in activities, fatigue, sleep problems, lack of concentration, depressed mood etc.
Well I'm in trouble then :eek:

Seriously though, it all sounds pretty in depth. Hope you're all good in that reagrd in future :thumbsu:
 

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#83
Sadly reading over these pages the 'falling out' with friends seems to be a common disappointment for many.

Why is this?

I may be generalising but it seems to be amongst the early 20's...is it because the bond of secondary college wanes after school's out?

Rather sad reading. :(

School friendships are probably like work friendships: friendships of circumstance.

Unless you really liked each other and talked about not work/school it's probably going to peter out without routine putting you together.
 

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It's not as physically obvious, but it's just as real. When your counsellor asks you to set your alarm on the other side of the room, so that you have to get out of bed to turn it off, and you get up, turn off the alarm and go straight back to bed for a few hours is one sign. Asking you to go for one ten minute walk for the week and you can't is another.

Being a psychology student, I know that the DSM has a criteria of symptoms for major depression, so that would be specifically what counsellors are looking for. Things like weight change, decreased interest in activities, fatigue, sleep problems, lack of concentration, depressed mood etc.

I've had 'The Black Dog' for years, was diagnosed in 1998. It runs in my family. Not fun - you just don't want to move.
 

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Alarm snoozing probably wasn't a good example, it's more when these things are out of character for the individual person. For me, getting up after lunch time every day is out of character, and going from doing 5-10 fitness classes per week to being unable to go for a walk is very much out of character.


I've had 'The Black Dog' for years, was diagnosed in 1998. It runs in my family. Not fun - you just don't want to move.
That's rough, it doesn't run in my family so apart from my mum they haven't been particularly helpful in understanding, or trying to understand.
 

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Yeah, sounds like you'd benefit a lot from routine.

I also found that it's easy to let yourself down when you make a commitment to say go for a walk or whatever. If you make a commitment to a friend and say, I'll pick you up at x and we'll go for a walk, you're less likely to let someone else down.
 

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