Family & Relationships Roomate from Hell

[Hatchy1992]

So I recently moved into university accommodation in a 4 person apartment (as it stands, the apartment is aparently fully booked but only 2 residents) from my parents for the independance, anyway, the agreement has clearly stated that all residents would agree to keeping the apartment in a clean and livable manner, obviously my roomate does not think this applies to him

I go away for a few days to come home 4 days of unwashed dishes so find myself having to wash up his dishes for 4 days. He has never even attempted the dishes... The trash will not be emptied unless I take it out. Cutlery, plates and cups are constantly going missing (into his room I suspect). Random piles of food are being left on the living room ground He doesn't even clean the toilet or bathroom among other things.

It seems pretty logical that if you are using a cup just for a simple glass of milk and you want to re-use it or whatever, you wash it up and put it back in the cupboard. Not for him, he goes back for a few glasses and uses a different cup every time. I wake in the morning to find the cupboard empty and 6 cups of milk in the sink... (obviously late night study sessions)

Anyway, I have found out from other residents in the same complex that it is not new. A few of my mates from other apartments in the same complex lived with him last semester and reported the same problem... subsequently moved out into other apartments within 3 weeks.

Problem I have is that is not possible this time as the apartment complex is fully booked out this semester so looks like I have 2 choice - move back into my parents and move back in next semester and ask for a different room, or put up with it for 4 months and reapply for university accommodation early and ask for a different room next semester.

Thinking about reporting the incidents in a diary, and when I have enough evidence, report it to the office.

Anyone have any advice, or other stories similar they wish to share?

 

[T2B_]

Is this your apartment

 

[CM86]

So I recently moved into university accommodation in a 4 person apartment (as it stands, the apartment is aparently fully booked but only 2 residents) from my parents for the independance, anyway, the agreement has clearly stated that all residents would agree to keeping the apartment in a clean and livable manner, obviously my roomate does not think this applies to him

I go away for a few days to come home 4 days of unwashed dishes so find myself having to wash up his dishes for 4 days. He has never even attempted the dishes... The trash will not be emptied unless I take it out. Cutlery, plates and cups are constantly going missing (into his room I suspect). Random piles of food are being left on the living room ground He doesn't even clean the toilet or bathroom among other things.

It seems pretty logical that if you are using a cup just for a simple glass of milk and you want to re-use it or whatever, you wash it up and put it back in the cupboard. Not for him, he goes back for a few glasses and uses a different cup every time. I wake in the morning to find the cupboard empty and 6 cups of milk in the sink... (obviously late night study sessions)

Anyway, I have found out from other residents in the same complex that it is not new. A few of my mates from other apartments in the same complex lived with him last semester and reported the same problem... subsequently moved out into other apartments within 3 weeks.

Problem I have is that is not possible this time as the apartment complex is fully booked out this semester so looks like I have 2 choice - move back into my parents and move back in next semester and ask for a different room, or put up with it for 4 months and reapply for university accommodation early and ask for a different room next semester.

Thinking about reporting the incidents in a diary, and when I have enough evidence, report it to the office.

Anyone have any advice, or other stories similar they wish to share?

Have you tried talking to him?

 

[Hatchy1992]

Is this your apartment

The common area's - kitchen, living room, bathroom are clean usually as I clean them myself. His bedroom, who knows. It's always locked.

Have you tried talking to him?

Tried that - every time I attempt that, he just starts arguing and locks himself in his room.

 

[CM86]

The common area's - kitchen, living room, bathroom are clean usually as I clean them myself. His bedroom, who knows. It's always locked.


Tried that - every time I attempt that, he just starts arguing and locks himself in his room.

Can you give us an example of your usual interaction with him? There must be a solution.

 

[Hatchy1992]

Can you give us an example of your usual interaction with him? There must be a solution.

The days I don't have classes - When I wake up (usually 8am) he's already gone so his away at uni during the day most of the time, when he does come home, it's for lunch, leaves the dishes for me to do then goes back and doesn't come back till the evening, goes to his room and locks it. Comes out hours later for 20 minutes to have dinner and again leaves dinner for me to wash up. Rinse and repeat for study breaks. Essentially i'm living on my own. Our extent of dialogue is "hello" usually. Every night I ensure dishes are done before I call it a night.

When I have class it's the same thing so there's usually no dialogue until the evening for dinner.

 

[CM86]

The days I don't have classes - When I wake up (usually 8am) he's already gone so his away at uni during the day most of the time, when he does come home, it's for lunch, leaves the dishes for me to do then goes back and doesn't come back till the evening, goes to his room and locks it. Comes out hours later for 20 minutes to have dinner and again leaves dinner for me to wash up. Rinse and repeat for study breaks. Essentially i'm living on my own. Our extent of dialogue is "hello" usually. Every night I ensure dishes are done before I call it a night.

When I have class it's the same thing so there's usually no dialogue until the evening for dinner.

Can you send him an email or text?

 

[Hatchy1992]

I'll ask for his number. His away this weekend (thank God) so that's a temporary reprieve.

Problem is that I attend all the uni parties just to get it out of my mind and don't often get back until he's already called it a night.

 

[CM86]

Well good luck. But remember to keep things in perspective.
He might be on another forum complaining about a clean freak who won't leave him alone just because he left a couple of dishes in the sink, the night he finished his mid-sem exams.

I'm not saying it's the case at all, or that anything you've said is incorrect. I'm just letting you know the way that he might be looking at it.

So, when you get in touch with him, be open and honest. Remember he is a human, like you, with the same fears and doubts.

And avoid passive aggressiveness like the plague. It never solves anything.


Failing all of that. Clean the toilet with his toothbrush, and break the cups and plates.
Shit in the sink, and the fridge.
And piss on his room's door.

 

[DT2000]

maybe you guys could do like a cleaning roster...

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

Stop doing his dishes for him!

 

[CM86]

Stop doing his dishes for him!

Working around someone else's mess, sucks.

Especially if they've used up things you need to cook with.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

Working around someone else's mess, sucks.

Especially if they've used up things you need to cook with.

Surely he'll get sick of it at some point. At the moment ol' housemate is getting a free ride...he drinks out of 6 glasses and someone else cleans them up. Why should he change? His laziness is being enabled.

 

[Illinois Nazi]

1. Stop washing his dishes for him. If you're that keen on washing up come to my place and do mine as well.

2. Learn the difference between "he's" and "his", you're supposed to be a university student ffs.

 

[Hatchy1992]

maybe you guys could do like a cleaning roster...

I'll go to the office on Monday and ask for one. I believe that if you have one, and one resident isn't abiding by it, they can terminate the contract.

Stop doing his dishes for him!

Easier said then done, especially if you need the dishes for your own meal.

 

[CM86]

Surely he'll get sick of it at some point. At the moment ol' housemate is getting a free ride...he drinks out of 6 glasses and someone else cleans them up. Why should he change? His laziness is being enabled.

The housemate doesn't care.
He had the place to himself for four days and just let it get worse.

He could be the kind of guy that leaves a mess forever, and will just start ordering take away and drinking from the bottle, rather than clean.

 

[MrsEddieBetts]

In that case I have no suggestions.

 

[rideclutch]

Who owns all the dishes/cups?

You have too much stuff for 2 guys. I would take everything away, leave him with just 1 of everything. If he asks why or confronts you, calmly tell him it's because he's not capable of living like a sanitary human.

 

[Stratton_Gun]

Instead of complaining how about not doing the dishes and shit. Leave his own mess to him. Might be annoying for a few days but worth it in the long run. As for taking out rubbish, cleaning toilets and stuff that is the responsibility of you both you I'd either bring it up with him or put up. Can't do much else

 

[Bomberboyokay]

When I wake up (usually 8am) he's already gone so his away at uni

You'll fail uni if you don't learn his and he's are completely different things.

 

[rideclutch]

Instead of complaining how about not doing the dishes and shit. Leave his own mess to him. Might be annoying for a few days but worth it in the long run.

He already left the dude for 4 days, came back and the shit was still everywhere.

Guys like this are animals. As long as he can swim his way to the door through garbage, he'll just leave it.

 

[Papa G]

Violence?

 

[Hatchy1992]

I couldn't possibly let the dishes pile up like he does. I'm not a clean freak either, I just need a liveable apartment.

Violence?

No violence, rather just extremely lazy.

 

[Papa G]

No I mean violence against him. Shit in his bed. Piss on his computer. That sort of hijinks.

 

[Hatchy1992]

Who owns all the dishes/cups?

You have too much stuff for 2 guys. I would take everything away, leave him with just 1 of everything. If he asks why or confronts you, calmly tell him it's because he's not capable of living like a sanitary human.

Pretty sure he does. The unit was vacant when I moved in but the plates/cups were already provided and he had already been living there previously.

I've taken my own in now too give me evidence of his opposition to washing up.